At the end of countless romantic stories, we always look forward to "the prince and princess living happily ever after". However, reality is often much more complex than fairy tales. Xiao Li and Xiao Fang, a couple who have been in love for many years, had planned to enter the palace of marriage, but they fell into endless disputes and contradictions because of the bride price.
What was supposed to be a joyful preparation period turned out to be an accelerator for their emotional rift. This can't help but make people think, what is it that makes this seemingly indestructible love seem so vulnerable in front of the bride price?
1. Emotional dislocation under economic pressure
For many families, the word "bride price" is not only a symbol of traditional customs, but also a direct embodiment of economic strength. With the development of social economy, the amount of bride price has also risen, and the bride price demands of hundreds of thousands or even millions have discouraged many families. For couples with average economic conditions, the bride price has become an insurmountable gap. In the face of huge economic pressure, the original innocent love began to deteriorate, and the game between the two families gradually replaced the warmth between the couple, which may eventually lead to a complete breakdown of the relationship.
2. Differences and collisions of values
Everyone's views on marriage and bride price are different, and behind this is a reflection of deep-seated differences in values. One side may see the bride price as a necessary form of expression of sincerity and respect, while the other side may see it as a feudal remnant, an objectification of women. When these two very different values meet, conflict is inevitable. If the two parties cannot understand and compromise with each other, then the bride price issue may become the trigger for an emotional crisis.
3. Emotional kidnapping under family intervention
In traditional Chinese culture, marriage is not only a matter of two people, but also the union of two families. Therefore, when it comes to the bride price, the opinions of both families often play a crucial role. Sometimes, in order to protect the family's face or interests, family members may exert pressure on their children and even carry out emotional kidnapping. This kind of external intervention not only confuses couples, but also exacerbates misunderstandings and estrangements between them, which can eventually lead to the breakdown of the relationship.
4. Poor communication and lack of trust
When it comes to bride price, communication is the key to solving the problem. However, many times, couples get stuck in an impasse due to a lack of effective communication. One party may choose to remain silent because of shyness or fear of conflict, while the other may resentful of misunderstandings. Over time, trust wears off, and relationships that were once intimate become precarious. When communication becomes a luxury and trust becomes a luxury, the issue of bride price is like an insurmountable mountain between two people.
5. Ignoring the essence of emotion and pursuing form
Ultimately, we need to reflect on the role of the bride price in marriage. Has it become the only measure of the value of love and marriage? In the pursuit of the bride price, do we ignore the nature of emotions and the true meaning of marriage? True love and marriage should be based on mutual understanding, respect and support, not on the accumulation of money and material things. When the bride price becomes a prerequisite for marriage, we may have strayed from the path of happiness.
In the face of all the challenges and tests brought about by the bride price, we can't help but ask: how should love be protected? Perhaps, the answer lies in our hearts. Let's go back to the basics and re-examine the meaning of love and marriage. Remember, the bride price is only one part of the marriage, not the whole story.
In the process of pursuing happiness, let us cherish each other's emotions more, strengthen communication, enhance understanding, and resist the temptation and pressure of the outside world together. Only in this way can we find our own happiness and sunshine under the haze of bride price.