George Eastman, the father of Kodak, once said:
"The happiness of life is the happiness of interpersonal relationships."
In life, believe that around you and me, there are such women.
There are many friends, the popularity is excellent, there is laughter around, surrounded by nobles, who are close to it, are like a spring breeze, like a heart.
The quality of popularity directly determines the degree of comfort of a woman's life and the height of life
The more I grew up, the more I found that women who have good popularity and are popular everywhere they go tend to have these 6 characteristics.
Know how to respect, let people be close
I agree with the same sentence: there is no profound trick in interpersonal communication, that is, "mirroring each other".
Women who respect others can understand others with empathy, give each other the best respect, and welcome the love of others for themselves.
Actor Niu Ben once cooperated with Li Lihua, an "evergreen tree in the film industry", but when he was young, he was a bit inferior.
In order to alleviate Niu Ben's embarrassment, Li Lihua immediately recognized him as a brother.
Take him to a fashion store to customize a denim jacket and ask the best makeup artists to design an image for him.
In order to narrow the distance between them, Li Lihua also invited him to eat at home, and taught him to recognize people and objects, observe life, and train his acting skills in the form of chatting.
It is this heartfelt respect for others that makes Li Lihua full of qualities and personal charm, which makes people can't help but want to be close.
As a result, she retired from the film industry for many years, and fans still followed closely behind and praised her.
Cultured women maintain due respect in their attitude towards people and things.
And this respect also makes her own image shine brightly among everyone who gets along with her.
No matter how rich and beautiful a woman is, if she learns not to respect people, no one is willing to be friends with her.
And a woman who can always fully respect and understand others and release kindness at all times will naturally receive the kindness of others, and her popularity will certainly not be bad.
Treat each other with sincerity and reap the true heart
There's a saying that goes: "Sincerity is more useful than any routine." ”
No matter how complicated the world is, as long as a woman acts with sincerity and faith, she can grasp the initiative in life and win people's hearts.
In the TV series "That Year the Flowers Bloomed and the Moon Was Round", the heroine Zhou Ying was slandered, saying that her family's business name sold fake drugs.
In order to prove her innocence, Zhou Ying quickly caught the counterfeiter.
Subsequently, she made a surprising decision.
She said that although the counterfeit medicine was planted by others on her store, it was because of her.
She took the initiative to take responsibility and promised that all customers who bought fake drugs could go to "Shenglongquan" to exchange fakes for real ones.
This move looks very loss-making at first glance, but in fact, Zhou Ying's sincerity highlights her family's good reputation and gains a large number of people's hearts.
It also impressed the rich merchant Turdan, got the agency right of all his business in the Central Plains, and made a lot of money.
For women, it is especially important to be honest with people.
Some women are hypocritical, can't see the sincerity of a few points, no one wants to go near.
And some women do not speak in vain, hold a pure heart to treat others and things, and have a very safe sense of contact with her.
Those who touch people with sincerity, people also respond sincerely.
Honest women, whether working or living, tend to go smoothly.
With positive energy, everyone is willing to come closer
As the old saying goes:
"To live with a good person, like entering the room of Zhilan, and not smelling its fragrance for a long time, that is, dissolving with it."
Get close to what kind of person you are, and you will become what kind of person you become.
With a woman with positive energy, she will take you to discover the excitement of life, and transform the endless dark night into a sea of twinkling stars.
Yan Youyun, a famous lady in old Shanghai, is an elegant woman who influences her friends around her with positive energy.
Her family was robbed, and her friends were worried, but she was not afraid but smiled and comforted people, "I just lost my belongings, my life, health and family, these important things are unharmed." ”
The husband and colleagues who were diplomats were taken by the Japanese and their lives were uncertain, and the wives of other diplomats were frightened and helpless.
She did not hesitate to form a temporary extended family, taking them to grow vegetables and raise chickens on an isolated island, chop wood and carry water, and produce to save herself.
The hardships of life did not trap Yan Youyun, but she, in the face of sudden difficulties, calmly and unhurriedly, always full of expectations for the future, lived out her years in the chaos of the war.
I agree with the same sentence: a person with positive energy is a noble person in your life.
Women with positive energy, their attitude towards life has always been positive, always with a smile on their faces, warming themselves and others.
With her, although you can't solve all the troubles in your life, driven by her positive energy magnetic field, you will remain optimistic, look forward to everything, and your life will get better and better.
Open-minded and funny, bringing people laughter
In this life, a woman floats in the sea of people, and it is inevitable that she will encounter unsatisfactory things.
Is it complaining about the injustice of fate? Or will the human world be worth it?
I think open-minded women will definitely choose the latter.
They make the life of the forced servant bright in the middle of talking and laughing, so that the happiness index of the people around her has also increased significantly.
Japanese actor Kiki Shirin became famous for playing the role of grandma in "Thief Family".
At the age of 60, she lost the retina of one eye and faced blindness.
She did not want to waste her limited time on complex rehabilitation, and she was afraid that her family would be worried, so she pretended to be serious and said, "I have seen too many dark people," and there is no need to 'restore sight'." ”
At the age of 70, she generously announced the news of cancer, and some reporters could not help but ask her how she felt about the sad thing that she was about to die.
Only to see her mischievous smile, with a hint of narrowness, "What do you think of death?" I don't know, I haven't died. ”
This woman, who has been funny all her life, has a very open-minded attitude towards the world, and in three words, she has diluted the public's fear of death and relaxed the body and mind of those who come into contact with her.
Many filmmakers regard her as a mentor and friend, and she has been selected by the Japanese people as the most popular female celebrity in their hearts and gained a large number of fans.
Although, the essence of life, is cruel and tasteless.
But there are always some women who laugh at the difficulties of life with humor and live a boring life.
Humorous and funny women, love to laugh and make trouble, affinity, let people involuntarily want to get closer, surrounded by friends will never be less.
Familiar not excessive, liked
I have heard a saying: "Proportion is the highest level of maturity." ”
A woman with a strong sense of proportion knows how to advance and retreat, knows restraint, knows who she is, and knows the bottom line of talking and doing things.
With her, not only is it not tired to get along, but you can also have a good relationship that lasts for a long time.
The world said that Zhang Ailing had a weak temperament, but she praised a friend named Kwong Wenmei, "After having a friend like you, I can't look at other friends." ”
Before she died, she left her copyright and an inheritance of HK$2.4 million to the other party.
Why can this woman make Zhang Ailing, who is full of sadness, write the background of her life and be close to her?
Perhaps, you can glimpse one or two in the details of their interaction.
Zhang Ailing told Kwong about her private affairs, without needing advice, Kwong Wenmei would keep her mouth shut, and even her husband would not reveal it.
Kwong Wenmei and Zhang Ailing talk about their hearts, rarely boast of their happy family, she always stands in the perspective of the other party to lead to chat topics, attracting Zhang Ailing's witty remarks, golden sentences frequently.
Familiarity is not excessive, is the wisdom of a smart woman.
Cai Kangyong believes that:
"Interpersonal relationships are the measures between people that can continue to communicate with each other."
When getting along with people, keeping a distance, grasping the scale, and leaving enough space for each other is the wisest move.
When you make others feel comfortable, others will involuntarily approach you.
Appreciate others and never get tired of staying with them for a long time
Writer Li Xiaoyi said:
"We live all our lives, not for who we don't like, but for our own growth, for people who don't agree, we can also see the strengths from her and learn the advantages, which is the skill."
The more excellent a woman is, the more she sees others as good, dares to praise her opponent, and is good at learning from her opponent.
Juan, a netizen who knows it, found a strange phenomenon.
She has a type of female friend around her, looking at the average appearance, mediocre qualifications, but the situation is excellent, the network is extensive, and the achievements are much higher than those of women with good hardware conditions.
After careful observation, she found that such women are very good at taking the strengths of others and making up for their own shortcomings.
They don't take a magnifying glass all day long to find the shortcomings of others, nor do they seek the thrill of victory in comparison with others.
Instead, focus on looking at people's strengths and actively looking for cooperation, in the continuous improvement and group warmth, they will become better and better, and gain the good feelings of others.
Endorse the same phrase: "Pickiness is consumption, appreciation is nourishment." ”
If a woman only stares at the shortcomings of others, she will only narrow her mind and hinder her progress.
And when she knows how to sincerely applaud her opponents, it is both respect for others and kindness to herself.
Women who are good at appreciating others can see the shining points of others and have a broad heart.
Not too critical of others, not stingy with praise, and whoever gets along with it is deeply comfortable.
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In the book "How to Build a Good Relationship", it is said:
"Human popularity is like an echo, what you send out, it will send back, what you sow, you will reap." 」
If you want to become a popular woman who has helped in case of trouble and someone to help you fall, you may wish to consciously improve yourself and make yourself better between the accumulation of time.
Know how to respect and empathize with others; dominate the mentality, positive sunshine; do not exceed the rules, look at the strengths of people.
Popularity is a fast pass to walk the world.
Women with good popularity always have more opportunities and possibilities than others.
For the rest of your life, may you and I cultivate good popularity and live out our own wonderfulness.