"Nothing in this world is set in stone, and so are all feelings. When you have expectations for someone and hope to live with them for the rest of your life, be prepared to lose them. ”
You never know if someone you thought was good with you would leave you in the next second.
When a person no longer has expectations of you, then he has no value in the relationship.
Therefore, don't overestimate the relationship in the relationship, and don't underestimate your position in the relationship.
We thought that as long as two people liked each other, they would definitely be able to go to the end; We think that as long as we love each other, we will definitely enter into marriage; We think that as long as we are sincere enough, we will be able to exchange sincerity......
In fact, the most feared thing in the relationship is "wishful thinking".
- Pay without expecting anything in return
We are all first-time people, the first time we encounter feelings, and we all hope to gain a good relationship.
However, have you noticed that some people are easy to give in a relationship, but they will not ask for anything in return?
He is always there for you when you need him the most, but he never takes the initiative to contact you; He can always give you comfort and companionship when you are most sad, but he never takes the initiative to care for you; He is always there for you when you need it most, but he never takes the initiative to help you.
We all want a good relationship and we want to meet the right person.
So when we give a lot and don't get a response from the other person, we have a sense of loss.
When we give our hearts and don't get something in return, there is a sense of frustration and we will slowly lose faith in the relationship.
- If you want to be together, you must first become a better version of yourself
In "Ordinary World", there is such a sentence:
"People always feel happy when they are close to happiness, but they suffer from gains and losses when happiness is ongoing."
In fact, this is true whether it is love or marriage.
A good relationship is often the ability of both parties to make changes for each other, and it is also able to allow two people to grow together.
Only in this way can we make each other better and better, and we can also make each other a better version of ourselves.
When many people face feelings, they tend to be "almost fine".
However, such a state often does not allow two people to go far.
What really brings two people together is to learn from each other, make progress together, and become a better version of themselves.
Love is beautiful, but love is not all there is to life.
No one wants to be a "princess" who is pampered and loved for the rest of their lives, so you need to become better and better, and you also need to become a better version of yourself.
When you're good enough, you're no longer afraid of losing someone; When you're strong enough, you're no longer afraid of losing someone.
When you are together, there will be more happiness to speak of.
- Feelings need to be managed, don't trample on the sincerity of others at will
Feelings need to be managed, just like planting a tree, after planting, you must take care of it carefully.
A good relationship needs to be managed and cared for with heart, rather than trampling on the sincerity of others at will.
Some people are always too self-righteous, always thinking that they can do whatever they want in the relationship, thinking that they can let the other party do what they want.
But he forgot that feelings are equal.
If you don't have a sincere heart for the other person, then they won't see you as a friend worth dating.
Those who trample on the sincerity of others, they don't really love each other in their relationship.
They just treat each other as pawns that they can manipulate at will in this world.
Someone who truly loves you will have you in their hearts and will cherish the distance between you and others.
He won't be angry because there's a conflict between you, and he won't be upset because you don't have a common language between you.
Someone who truly loves you will not let you be wronged and hurt.
Therefore, don't easily test other people's feelings for yourself, and don't trample on other people's sincerity at will.