Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Some women, who seem to be delicate roses, actually have thorns that can cause you a lot of damage.
When you are in love, she says things to make you happy and accepts your show of love, but she doesn't give sincerely, but only skillfully guides you to give.
In the name of love, I will ask for you in every way.
When a woman treats you like this, it is not true love, but she has other intentions.
02. When I date you, I only care about where to spend and don't care about you
Not long ago, my cousin got a girlfriend, and the two of us started dating frequently.
They often go to very romantic and expensive restaurants to eat. My cousin thinks it's expensive, but he still doesn't want his girlfriend to spoil his fun, so he often takes her there.
Once, the two of them said they would go to dinner together, but my cousin was hospitalized with appendicitis and couldn't go to the appointment.
He called her and told her that she couldn't go, and she said, "If you don't come, send me the electronic meal coupon, and my friend and I will go to eat." ”
After saying that, she hung up the phone, she didn't care why he couldn't go.
Although her cousin liked her very much, her attitude disappointed him. In the end, I broke up with her, blocked her, and never contacted her again.
If a woman is with you and only cares about what kind of life she can live, then she wants to improve her quality of life through you.
Her love, hidden in vanity, hidden in calculation, has nothing to do with love.
Bergson said: "Vanity can hardly be said to be an evil, but all evil deeds revolve around vanity, and are only a means to satisfy vanity." ”
Vain girls will not give you their sincerity. Every time you ask her out, she will agree and be willing to go to the appointment.
She only cares about where to spend and what benefits she can get, and she doesn't care about your emotions at all, nor does she care about your work and life.
03. Being with you is only happy if you spend money for her
There is a kind of woman, in the name of love, who spends your money.
When she falls in love with you, what she cares about is: what kind of bag will you give her on her birthday; Traveling together, whether it's a domestic trip or a foreign trip.
She has her eye on a limited edition watch, and are you willing to pay for it?
If you say she's spending too much, or if you think the gift she wants is too expensive and won't spend more, she'll accuse you of not loving her.
You want to have a future with her, and you want to live a budget-conscious life, but she just wants a vigorous moment.
With you, she will often be coquettish and tactfully offer to ask you to buy her gifts. She will only be thrilled if you agree to her request.
If you need money in an emergency, ask her to borrow money, and she will choose to disassociate herself from you as soon as possible.
Bacon said, "Money is a good servant, but it can also become an evil master on certain occasions." ”
If a woman only smiles at you and gives you a hug when you spend money for her, then you must be vigilant.
A woman who truly loves you, she is reluctant to let you spend too much money for her, she hopes that you can save your money and pave the way for a better life in the future.
04. In the name of love, borrow your resources
Lin Yushuang in "Do You Know", her home was confiscated, and she has no mother's family to rely on.
She knows that if she marries into a family that doesn't know the details, she doesn't know how much torture she will have to endure.
She understands Sheng Hong's temperament and disposition, and thinks he is easy to handle, so she would rather be a concubine and marry him.
After marrying Sheng Hong, she often spoke sweetly to him, and often showed weakness in front of him, stimulating his desire to protect her.
And, I got a lot of real estate and title deeds from him, and I lived a better life.
When Sheng Hong had an accident, she immediately thought about flying away.
She admitted that she just wanted to use the Sheng family as a springboard, she didn't really love Sheng Hong at all, and just wanted her mother and son to soar and enjoy more glory and wealth.
When a woman is with you, she just wants to get better resources, to ensure that she has no worries about food and clothing for the rest of her life, and to get more benefits by relying on your favor, such a woman does not love you.
She is used to promises, she is used to saying a lot of sweet words, but she has very little to offer you.
Zhang Ailing wrote in "Love in a Fallen City": "What we are most afraid of is not what the environment is like and how shameful the people we meet, but that over time, we can no longer define ourselves from them." ”
With you, every time I say sweet words, I ask for you.
If a woman is willing to stay with you, just to get your resources, connections, or other benefits, then it means that she really doesn't love you.
05. Summary
Men, if the person you love does not really love you, learn to stay away.
Fall in love with the wrong person, learn to restrain your emotions, slowly leave her world, and reclaim your true heart.
Believe that true love is waiting for you not far in the future.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.