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Mencius's wisdom of "picking out the clear theory".
Mencius mentioned in the "Say Goodbye" link that many things need to be said clearly, which can not only avoid internal friction, but also make oneself live a decent life. She stressed the need to be brave enough to say goodbye to people and things that have caused them to suffer from internal friction. In fact, this is not only a kind of wisdom, but also an attitude towards life.
In this session, Mencius shared his experience of being hurt by his friends many times because he didn't know what to say. Every time she encounters such a situation, she always chooses to make excuses and excuses for the other party, and digest those unpleasant emotions by herself. This practice, while showing her tolerance, has led to her being hurt multiple times. She hopes that in the future, she will stay away from those who hurt her and get more people's love.
Many netizens have said that real friends will not leave because you say it, but will feel sorry for hurting you. It is indeed a kind of progress for Mencius to have such an idea. As netizens said: "Picking out and saying it is the touchstone of true friends!" ”
Insensitive or forgiving?
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Everyone said that Mencius had a blunt sensibility, but in fact, she just helped others make excuses every time she was hurt and digested bad emotions by herself. This approach of hers can be said to be a manifestation of tolerance, but in a way, this tolerance has stuck her in a cycle of constant hurting.
What is blunt sensitivity? To put it simply, it is to act indifferent when faced with the harm of others. Meng Ziyi's approach looks like a blunt force, but in fact, she is very sensitive inside. Every time she is hurt, she will fall into deep thought, constantly making excuses for the other party. This practice not only made her unhappy herself, but also made those who hurt her even worse.
Some netizens ridiculed: "Mencius, you are too tolerant!" In fact, this sentence reveals a truth: excessive tolerance is not a virtue, but can lead to passivity. Therefore, it is a wise choice to be brave enough to speak out.
If you are brave enough to speak up, you are a true friend
A true friend will not leave because you say something out, but will feel sorry for hurting you. It is indeed a kind of progress for Mencius to think like this. Many times, we are afraid to pick and choose because we are afraid of losing friends, but true friends will not leave because of your outspokenness.
A netizen shared his experience: "I once singled out a small flaw with my friend, and we got on better terms because she knew that I was really good for her. This passage reveals the truth that true friendship is based on mutual understanding and honesty.
Therefore, Mencius's "provocative theory" is not only a kind of self-protection, but also a test of friendship. Those who leave because you have made it clear are not true friends in the first place; And those who reflect on themselves because of what you say are friends worth cherishing.
The cost of internal friction
Mencius mentioned that many things should be picked out and said on the bright side, and then go in time to say goodbye to people or things that make them suffer from internal friction. What is internal friction? To put it simply, you can't get along with yourself. Many times, because we don't dare to say it clearly, we end up in endless internal friction.
The cost of internal friction is huge, not only making oneself unhappy, but also affecting one's physical health. As netizens said: "If you don't say it, I don't say it, no one will be happy in the end." "This internal friction not only puts you in trouble, but also emboldens those who hurt you.
Therefore, it is a wise choice to be brave enough to speak out. As Mencius said, this is also a more decent way. Instead of plunging yourself into endless internal friction, be brave enough to speak up and let those who hurt you know that their behavior is unacceptable.
Keep yourself out of harm's way
Meng Ziyi hopes that in the future, she will be able to stay away from those who hurt her and be loved by more people. This wish may seem simple, but it is not easy to achieve. To stay away from those who hurt you, you first need to have the courage to speak out; Second, there is also the need to be determined to give up.
Some netizens ridiculed: "Mencius, you are a master of breaking up!" Actually, although this sentence is a joke, it reveals a truth: it does take courage and determination to stay away from those who hurt you. Many times, for various reasons, we cannot decisively distance ourselves from those who have hurt us, but this procrastination will only lead us deeper into the predicament.
Therefore, Mencius's "provocative theory" is not only a kind of wisdom, but also an attitude towards life. Speaking up and staying away from those who hurt you is the key to making your life better.
Although Mencius's wisdom of "picking out the clear theory" has been supported by many netizens, it has also caused some controversy. Some people think that although it is a kind of wisdom, sometimes it can hurt others if it is too straightforward. Others believe that not picking and speaking out will only lead to internal friction, and in the end, no one will be happy.
In this controversy, Mencius's choice is undoubtedly worthy of recognition. Her bravery and wisdom not only make her life better, but also provide us with a new attitude towards life. As netizens said: "Picking out is a kind of wisdom, but also a kind of attitude to life." "I hope that everyone can be like Mencius, bravely pick out and say, stay away from those who hurt themselves, and live a more decent life.