In "Happiness Like a Flower", Du Juan learns that she is pregnant, she does not have the happiness of a new mother, and some are just angry and panicked. She yelled at Poplar: Who have I recruited to mess with whom? How did you get pregnant? I blame you, you know I don't want to have children so early, what do you have at ease?
Du Juan practiced handstanding when she returned home, and even ran to the dance studio to do intense exercise that pregnant women can't do. In order to make the child disappear from her stomach, she did everything possible.
Bai Yang was angry, and he pointed to Du Juan's stomach and asked: "Do you not want my child so much?" Just because the child is mine, you hate him so much?
Seeing Poplar's painful and helpless appearance, I suddenly found that Du Juan was not a simple and kind girl in the other population, on the contrary, I thought she was more realistic and selfish than Damei. She only loved herself and loved the first love Lin Bin who could not be forgotten, but she never loved Bai Yang who treated her wholeheartedly.
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Bai Yang liked Du Juan, and the whole literary troupe knew it. However, Du Juan did not call him, although Bai Yang had a good family and a handsome appearance, he was too feminine, and many girls in the literary troupe loved Bai Yang to death and live, and Du Juan couldn't look at such a fancy brother in her heart.
Lin Bin is different, although he is an orphan, he is talented and capable, mature and stable, and he is a man worth relying on at first glance. Therefore, in the pursuit of Bai Yang and Lin Bin, Du Juanyi chose Lin Bin without hesitation, and she wanted to join hands with Lin Bin.
Unfortunately, Zhao Weiguo stole Lin Bin's car and had a car accident, which caused Lin Bin to be unable to turn positive, and when he returned to the army, he faced a career change, and his future was worrying. Lin Bin likes Du Juan, a beautiful and capable girl like her, as long as she wants to marry rich and handsome, there are a lot of suitors for her to choose.
When Lin Bin and Du Juan were together, they once talked about their plans for the future. Du Juan said she wanted to dance for the rest of her life and be a dancer. Lin Bin lowered his head, and half a day later he said: Du Juan, I am so afraid that you are with me, and the wings of your white swan are injured.
Lin Bin did not know what his future would be, nor did he want Du Juan to suffer with him, she had too big dreams, and he only wanted to live in peace, so he took the initiative to break off contact with Du Juan and broke up by default. Because of this incident, Du Juan did not think about food, and her already thin body was even weaker and could not help the wind. Poplar was distressed that she was torturing herself like this, and tried his best to make her happy.
The appearance of poplar gradually soothed the pain of Du Juan's loss of love. He was like a substitute for Lin Bin, making her life colorful again. Under the enlightenment of Poplar, Du Juan fell in love with this man who made her laugh. Lin Bin's love for her is too reclusive, but Bai Yang's love for her is so warm, she believes that Bai Yang will love her more than Lin Bin, so when Bai Yang proposed to her, she agreed.
What prompted Du Juan to make up her mind to marry Bai Yang was still because of Lin Bin's affairs. When Bai Yang went down to the grassroots level, he met Lin Bin, who was about to change careers, and he knew that Lin Bin was more suitable for staying in the army, and the army also needed such talents. Therefore, after comprehensive consideration, he asked his father for help, stayed with Lin Bin, and also spared him helplessness and pain after losing his job.
Du Juan felt that Bai Yang was not as hanging as she imagined, he didn't seem to care about anything, in fact, he was soft in heart and was a simple and cute big boy. Although he is not as mature and stable as Lin Bin, he is more able to express his heart than Lin Bin. She hated Lin Bin's indifference to her, so Poplar's enthusiasm seemed precious.
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After Du Juan and Poplar fell in love, they became much happier and happier. It didn't take long for Du Juan to agree to Poplar's marriage proposal. Because Lin Bin was transferred back, this meant that Du Juan's right to choose a mate had another chance, and Bai Yang did not want to lose Du Juan, and did not want to win such a disgrace, so he took the initiative to ask Du Juan what he planned?
If she loved him, she would marry early and cut off her thoughts about Lin Bin. If she still had Lin Bin in her heart, he could give her a chance to let go. Du Juan resented Lin Bin's indifference to her, so she chose to marry Bai Yang.
Before getting married, Du Juan and Bai Yang talked about a lot of marriage conditions, such as she wanted to continue to dance after marriage, she couldn't have children before the age of thirty, and after marriage, her life would not focus on the family, and she still wanted to do what she liked.
Bai Yang agreed to it all, because he knew in his heart that a woman could be pampered and responsive before marriage, but after marriage, she would live her life and would not be as free as she thought. Since she is so naïve, let her slowly understand the truth of marriage after getting married.
On the wedding day, Poplar was very excited. He was wearing a suit and tie, and was preparing to pick up the bride when he heard the news that Du Juan had escaped from marriage. When Damei found Du Juan, Du Juan was overwhelmed with anxiety.
She said to Damei: I don't want to get married, I'm really scared now, I didn't sleep last night. I suddenly couldn't remember what Poplar looked like, I didn't really know this person at all, how could I marry someone I didn't understand? How ridiculous is that?
Da Mei sighed and said: "Do you not want to get married, or do you not want to marry Poplar?" Now that the wedding is more than an hour away, what are you still hesitating about? How good the poplar is to you, let go of one hundred and twenty hearts!
Damei didn't know that she had called Lin Bin before she ran away from marriage, but she didn't have the courage to dial out. Bai Yang knew Du Juan too well, he knew that she still couldn't let go of him, he had selfish intentions and wanted to use marriage to trap Du Juan, but marriage was what she personally agreed to, and the wedding was about to be held, and he didn't want to lose the only chance to seize her.
Barnes said in The Noise of Time: You should love like this, without fear, without obstacles, without thinking about tomorrow. Then, no regrets.
Du Juan knew that it was difficult for her to ride the tiger, so she could only hold the wedding ceremony hard. The reason why she hesitated and ran away from marriage was that she was not ready to marry Bai Yang at all, there was only Lin Bin in her future, and she even hoped that Lin Bin would suddenly appear to take her away, she could not dance, did not have a future, but Lin Bin did not appear, and she regretted making the decision to get married.
This marriage carries regrets that she can't let go, so she will resist marriage by running away from marriage.
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After Lin Bin returned, Du Juan looked nervous every time she saw him, she avoided seeing him, she told herself in her heart that there was no feeling between them, but every time she heard Lin Bin's news, she would still be helpless, such as overturning the fruit plate or breaking the bowl.
Du Juan's strange appearance was alluded to Poplar's eyes. He knew that she couldn't let go of Lin Bin, so he tried his best to be nice to her, wanting to melt her with strong love, or want a child that belonged to him and Du Juan. The child is the flesh that fell from the mother's body, and with the child, Du Juan can truly belong to him.
It's just that Bai Yang didn't expect that Du Juan would be so resistant to pregnancy, and even make many radical moves in order to kill this child. Bai Yang did not understand Du Juan's approach, nor did Da Mei.
Before Du Juan got married, Da mei repeatedly advised her not to think too naïve about marriage. When a woman gets married, she definitely has to have children. Dance eats youth rice, if she does not pursue love, she should be unmarried and infertile for a lifetime like Ye Tuan.
As long as she is married, she cannot be herself as she pleases. The golden age of dance is before the age of thirty, and the easiest time to regain her figure when having a child is also around thirty years old, and she must choose one of the two. Du Juan was just a mortal, without wings, so she was doomed to escape these worldly things.
But Du Juan is too stubborn, and she hopes to enjoy poplar's love for her while dedicating her energy to the dance career. After Du Juan got married, she refused to do housework, rejected love with Poplar, and rejected having children and changing jobs. Under the pretext of dedicating her life to dancing, she moved back to her dormitory.
Bai Yang didn't understand, how could she bear to beat off the crystallization of their love? How can you bear to be told that you have to live separately from your husband after getting married? Maybe she didn't take him seriously in her bones. She didn't love him, so why care about his feelings?
Tu Lei said: What brings a woman hope is not love, but the responsibility of men; what brings a man a sense of security is not love, but women's dedication to the family.
After Bai Yang and Du Juan got married, they couldn't see what she had done for this family? Therefore, he will be anxious and uneasy, and he will be inexplicably irritable when he sees Lin Bin. He repeatedly asked Du Juan if she loved him, and Du Juan always responded to him with ambiguous words such as "I don't know" or "My heart is not in you, your heart is clear".
Du Juan's indifference to Poplar consumed his love little by little. Once, he was eager to hold Du Juan in the palm of his hand, but no matter how much he loved her, she couldn't see it. People's hearts do not become cold every day, and Bai Yang's indifference to Du Juan is also Du Juan's own doing.
Bai Yang did not greet Du Juan as before, and his parents were quite critical of Du Juan, and he did not bother to reconcile in the middle. He was disappointed in Du Juan, and when he thought of his wife carrying other people in her heart every day, he collapsed to madness. But Du Juan never comforted him, even if he said something like "I love you, I only have you in my heart".
There is a saying that goes: we attach great importance to whether we are loved or not at the same time as we love people. All infatuations rely on illusions, all understandings contain misunderstandings, all loyalty counts for retribution, and all sacrifices are conditional. Love is a rubber band, and the person who loves most deeply ends up hurting the most.
Everyone who loves each other likes to respond to each other. Those responses are not simply saying that I love you, but expressing a strong sense of love with silent words and deeds. If you truly love someone, you will be willing to change for him. If a person behaves in front of you and ignores behaviors you don't like, she just doesn't love you.
Don't use the excuse that she is busy, she does not care about people, meet someone she really loves, and the coward will become brave and careless. Her attitude toward you depends on how much she cares about you.
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On Lin Bin's wedding day, Du Juan turned over and over all night without sleeping. Poplar deliberately asked her: Why can't you sleep when someone else gets married?
Du Juan was silent, she didn't know how to respond. The purpose of Lin Bin and Zheng Yuanyuan's marriage is to completely cut off Du Juan's thoughts about Lin Bin. However, doing so is too unfair to Zheng Yuanyuan.
Therefore, in order to make Lin Bin look up to herself, Zheng Yuanyuan will go to the sea to do business. Zheng Yuanyuan was deceived, owed huge sums of money, and faced a twenty-year prison sentence. In order to save Zheng Yuanyuan, Lin Bin helped her replace all the crimes.
After Du Juan knew, she was so anxious that she couldn't sleep at night. Despite the fact that she is already married, she runs around for Lin Bin's affairs every day, and is even willing to give up the dance career she has loved for many years in order to save Lin Bin.
After Lin Bin came out, Du Juan's heart finally settled. At this time, her biggest idea was to divorce Poplar. She couldn't get used to Poplar's careful eyes, and she couldn't get used to the sad look on his face when he came home every day. Instead of living a life like this, it is better to get a divorce.
At this time, Zheng Yuanyuan found Lin Bin and also filed for divorce. She found that Du Juan's heart had always had Lin Bin's place, and since they loved each other so much, it was better to fulfill them.
Lin Bin knew that he was sorry for Zheng Yuanyuan, and in order to atone for his sins, he gave up his divorce and continued to live with Zheng Yuanyuan. Du Juan, on the other hand, made up her mind about the divorce, and she hated Poplar and didn't even want to look at her more. So when she found out that Poplar had a woman's necklace in her hand, she deliberately used this matter as a shield and filed for divorce.
Bai Yang cried and shouted: Du Juan, I beg you not to make trouble, is it okay to go home with me? Do you know what kind of life I am living now? I've been busy to the point of collapse lately, this is my first order when I first arrived at the company, hundreds of millions of dollars, I dare not have any mistakes. Everybody in the company thinks I'm going through relationships, and everybody's looking at me with jokes, so I have to do it well.
I'm about to collapse now, can you understand me? I know why you're angry, isn't that necklace? I wanted to get revenge on you, but I couldn't do it. You have someone else in your heart every day, what do you want me to do? I really can't do it now, I can't do it anymore.
Bai Yang's sincere words did not exchange Du Juan's return. She still firmly chose divorce. After poplar's business accident, the spirit completely collapsed. Left behind by Bai Yang's bitter efforts, Du Juan decided not to mention the divorce again.
Da Mei asked Du Juan, did you not divorce Bai Yang because you found yourself in love with him?
Du Juan said calmly: No, he needs me.
The most painful thing in the world is not to love each other and not be together, but to love each other for a long time to find that the other party does not love you at all; this is not the most terrible, the most terrifying thing is that the other party not only does not love you but also comes to use you.
I found du juan to be such a person. She had been with Poplar for so many years and had never had the thought of having a baby. She gave up her child and poplar love for the dance career, but when facing Lin Bin, she was willing to give up everything.
She did not do anything for Bai Yang, but because of Lin Bin's affairs, she asked Bai Yang and Bai Yang's father many times. She used Poplar's love for her to complete Lin Bin step by step, but never considered Poplar's feelings.
Bai Yang and Lin Bin are just ordinary colleagues, why should he bother to help him? Du Juan showed her face for Lin Bin's affairs, did she care about his feelings? Zheng Yuanyuan and Lin Bin just proposed a divorce, Du Juan moved the idea of divorce, saying that she did not have Lin Bin in her heart, who believed?
Although Du Juan and Bai Yang are together, I still feel bad for Bai Yang in my heart. Their love also made me understand that the twisted melon is not sweet. In a relationship, one person snubbing another person can have a variety of reasons. But in the final analysis, it is nothing more than not loving enough.
The love from the heart will make people feel guilty because they consciously snubbed their lover, and naturally have more patience with their lover and are willing to spend more time and energy to take care of each other's feelings. Instead of being afraid of trouble, I am obsessed with the love of giving. True love cannot come, it cannot be. If the feelings have been thin, instead of humble prayers, it is better to break up calmly!
So, if you don't have a compatible partner, you'd rather be unrequited than get married because you love her too much. Marry a woman you love but don't love you, happiness is just a manifestation of the phenomenon, the real pain, only you know.