After reading such a sentence, I thought it was true: We all led the script that did not belong to us, lived a life that did not belong to us, went on stage in a daze, and hurried to take a curtain call.
What is the meaning of life? From the moment we were born, the gears of fate began to turn again. What kind of family did you fall into, how did you spend your childhood, and what path did you choose in your youth?
Next, it came to the middle-aged age who seemed to have no choice. slowly survived until retirement, and finally entered the old age of seemingly idle, but in fact, he still lived in a hurry.
This life is just a big dream. We are all ordinary people, but we are not willing to be ordinary, so like trees, we yearn for the sunshine in high places.
Two days ago, I had nothing to do and chatted with the old man in my neighborhood. The old man did not seem to be very sociable, and often sat alone. But in fact, every time I talk to her, I will gain something.
She said that when you are old, don't pin your hopes on others, and don't put pressure on your children, you must see clearly and think openly, otherwise, your old age will be difficult.
The old man said three points, and his words are not rough, so I will share them with you.
Money is out of hand, and old age is not as good as a dog
Matter is the basis of everything, whether young or old, apart from the actual bread, everyone cannot live.
Many elderly people have worked hard all their lives for their children and emptied their savings, but they have forgotten to leave a pension money for themselves.
The old man in the neighborhood is an old partner, she has a son and two daughters. She was afraid that her daughter and son would compete for real estate, so she hurriedly carried her two daughters behind her back and transferred her house to her son's name.
This room is worth millions, and before the house is transferred, sons, daughters-in-law and granddaughters often come to visit, and take the old man to play in the mountains and rivers to make her happy.
As soon as the house was transferred, the granddaughter stopped coming, but the son and daughter-in-law still came often. Then the old man fell and was paralyzed in bed, and only his son came. Moreover, the son's money in hand was closely watched by his daughter-in-law, and there was no superfluity.
The two daughters often come to the old man's house to take care of and accompany them, but they can't help but complain. Emotionally, it doesn't seem to be as intimate as it was at the beginning.
The old man said that there is a saying in their hometown, "Money is in hand, and old age is not as good as a dog". Now that I think about it, it's really a wise saying.
I don't expect to raise children to prevent old age, just want to have a thought
The old man in the neighborhood was catching up with family planning and had only one son. In addition, the old man's son is now being sent abroad by the unit, and the training period is three years, and it is unknown whether he will be able to come back after three years.
There were also other old people who teased her: "You see that you have a son, what's the use of being big?" If you are not around all the year round, you can't even see your face, if you have an emergency, you don't even have someone around. ”
These words made me listen to them, and they all broke my defense a little. Indeed, the elderly whose children are not around will be somewhat panicked.
However, the old neighbor said, "As long as you have a calm mind, there is nothing to fear." Raising his own son is not for him to help him provide for his old age, he is an independent person with his own thoughts and where he wants to go.
Having a child is your own choice. Well, you have to bear the hard work of raising your own children, and there is nothing to complain about.
If he gives birth to a child, he must be allowed to give back to himself, and put all the care for the elderly on him, which is unfair to him. After all, you didn't ask for his opinion before you brought him into this world. ”
There are thousands of them, but none of them can compare to a good body
The old man in the neighborhood said that when she was young, there was a stage when she was fighting for her career regardless of her body. I always want to make some achievements and be recognized by the people around me.
During that time, she neglected her family, neglected her son, and neglected her own body. Fortunately, her husband was very understanding and silently took on the housework and child care in those years.
At work, she was once so tired that she fell ill. It's not a big deal, it's because I stayed up late and didn't eat lunch.
But this time it was like saving her. Lying in the hospital bed, the memories of the past kept replaying in her mind like a running horse. She couldn't rest assured of her family, worried that her husband would be more concerned about her son.
After being discharged from the hospital, she gradually adjusted the focus of her life from work to family. Seeing the relationship between husband and wife, the parent-child relationship is becoming more and more harmonious, and there are more and more smiles on her face.
When you take it easy, your body doesn't pull the alarm anymore. used to be in a sub-healthy state every day, and the groggy head was also much refreshed.
There are thousands of them, but none of them can compare to a good body. Lying in bed and completely dependent on others to take care of you, what is the fun of life?
The experience of her youth made her more concerned about her health in her later years. If a person does not have a good body, he will face a collapse and lose control over his own life.
Stumbling along the way, in his old age, many thoughts have been quiet, and the dreams in his heart have gradually faded and blurred. However, we can still leave a complete answer sheet for our lives.
The more you reach the end of your life, the more you will understand:
It doesn't matter if you are poor or rich in the first half of your life. But time is always fair, and when a person's life comes to an end, nothing can be taken away. The only thing you can take away is your true heart and full of memories.
And this period of our later years, which is the closest to the days we left, left the most profound impression on us.
Therefore, in our old age, we should think openly and planned, and don't let ourselves live a wronged life, which is what we should think about.
What kind of life do people pursue in this life? Perhaps, just being alive.
People live for a lifetime, and the grass grows for an autumn. As long as you can follow your heart, return to nature, and see thousands of mountains and rivers in the world, you will know that simple life is the most beautiful.
Life has reached old age, don't let the shackles of the world trap yourself. Live it the way you like.
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The world is so big, thank you for seeing me!
[Text: The pen has a temperature and speaks for love, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]
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