"The world is a big dream, and life is cool several times." - Bai Juyi
The death of an elderly person in the family is an unbearable pain for each of us. At this time, we not only have to face the pain of losing a loved one, but also have to deal with all kinds of tedious funeral matters. Some people say that this is a superstitious ceremony, but in fact, it is more of a custom, a kind of respect and remembrance for the deceased. So, at this time, what are some of the things we try not to do?
First of all, try not to cry on the day of the deceased's death. We all know that losing a loved one is a painful thing, but we also need to learn to control our emotions. Because on the day the deceased died, they had already left this world, and we should respect their choice instead of crying. As the ancients said, "There is no greater mourning than death." "We must learn to be strong and give the deceased a place of rest.
Second, try not to wear bright clothes during the funeral. In ancient times, it was believed that red represented festivity, and it was unlucky to wear red clothes during funerals. Although this concept has gradually faded, we still need to respect traditional customs. During the funeral, we should mainly use plain colors to express our grief for the deceased.
Also, try not to laugh during the funeral. While we may be tempted to laugh out loud because of our sadness, at this time, we should try to be as dignified as possible. Because the deceased have left us, and their loss makes us feel painful, we should treat their departure with a solemn attitude.
Also, try not to argue during the funeral. At this time, it is all the more important for us to unite and face the pain of losing a loved one together. Arguments will only make our mood worse and may even affect the mood of others. As the ancients said, "Home and everything prospers." ”
One more point, try not to drink alcohol during the funeral. In ancient times, it was believed that wine was a good thing, but it was unlucky to drink alcohol during funerals. Because wine can be exciting, and at this time, what we need is calm and tranquility.
Finally, try not to gamble during the funeral. Gambling is a bad habit that only makes people addicted to it. During the funeral, we should focus on the deceased and not indulge in gambling.
In short, the old man in the family has passed away, and we try not to do these things. This is not a superstition, but a custom. We must learn to respect traditions, to respect the deceased, and to take care of ourselves. As the ancients said, "The dead are gone, but the living are like this." "We must cherish the time in front of us and let the deceased leave with peace of mind.
At this time, we can comfort ourselves with some wise sayings, such as: "Who has not died in life since ancient times, leave Dan to take care of the sweat." "We have to believe that the deceased have left this world, but they live forever in our hearts. We must learn to be strong and turn the remembrance of the deceased into motivation to move forward.
Finally, let's end this article with a famous quote: "Life and death are life, and wealth is in heaven." "In this world, we can't predict life and death, but we can grasp the present and cherish the people in front of us. May the departed rest in peace, and the living as they are.