Marriage is a besieged city, and those outside the city want to go in, and those in the city want to come out.
Especially now, with the change of concept, everyone is not as morally bound as before, whether it is rural or urban, divorce is not strange.
However, different people have different reasons for divorce.
Poverty is the main reason for the high divorce rate in rural areas, and high divorce rates in urban areas, and personality incompatibility is the main reason.
First, the divorce rate in rural areas is very high, and poverty is the main reason.
The countryside used to be a moral highland, and if anyone's children were divorced, they would inevitably be pointed at behind their backs and regarded as a stain on the family.
Now after the urbanization transformation, the concept of longing has changed greatly, and everyone is so interested in other people's family affairs, whether it is marriage or divorce, it is someone else's family affairs, and it is the most important thing to live a good life.
However, rural divorces have one thing in common, and that is because of poverty.
The male protagonist is outside and the female protagonist is inside. The common family model in rural areas is that the male is the outside, and the woman is the inside. Men are responsible for working outside to earn money, and women are housewives at home, responsible for eating, drinking, and lazing the family.
This model strongly relies on men's earning ability, if men have strong earning ability, the family will basically not have problems, but if the external environment is not good, and men's earning ability is not good, it is easy to have family conflicts because of money.
After all, living a life, firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, which one does not need money, a small quarrel in three days, and a big quarrel in five days is the norm.
If there is a lot of quarrel, the relationship will fade, and the days of no money will be long, and divorce is not uncommon.
Nowadays, there are a large number of singles in many rural areas, and there is a market for women who marry for the second and third marriages, and some can even ask for high dowries.
Therefore, some people also have no fear, they can get by, if they can't, they will divorce, and they will continue to live by another person, anyway, there is a market.
Poor family of origin. Most of the three generations of aborigines in the countryside are farmers facing the loess with their backs to the sky, living on one acre and three points of land all their lives, struggling to survive on the food and clothing line, and there is no extra money to give to their children, let alone buy a house, buy a car, and provide a job.
When the child grows up, he can only rely on his own bare-handed hard work. If you are lucky, you can catch up with the train of the development of the times, whether you work in other places or do business at home, you can have a small amount of savings, build a house, buy a car, get married and have children is not a big problem.
If you are a little unlucky, you can't catch up with anything, so you follow the old path of your fathers, even if you are reluctant to get married, in front of the high bride price, you are also a relative to borrow it, and continue to struggle on the food and clothing line.
In the 50s and 70s, there were three major things to marry: watches, bicycles, and sewing machines;
In the 80s and 90s, there were three major things to get married: color TV, refrigerator, and washing machine;
In the 21st century, there are three major things to get married: a house, a car, and a high bride price.
No matter what era it is, the three major items are not cheap, the expenses are very large, and you can't do anything without money, so it's no wonder that marriage is jokingly called a business.
Poor self-ability. Children grow up standing on the shoulders of their parents, and the ability of parents determines the starting line of children.
Most of the rural parents have no ability, no vision, and no network resources, and they are at the bottom of the society, and they have been subjected to various social frictions for a long time, so naturally they have nothing to provide for their children.
The child has no one to help him, so he can only start from scratch and work his own. But the society doesn't care about these, it always only looks at the results, and doesn't care about the process.
If you have the ability to solve things, you will give money, and the bigger the things you solve, the more money you will give; If you can't solve things, you won't have money. Even if a good opportunity is in front of you, it will be snatched away by those who have a good family background and ability, and when your ability comes up, the opportunity is gone, and there will be no money.
Just like the current environment is not good, everyone who does business is complaining, is it really that business is not good?
I don't think so, it's just that all walks of life are crowded with people, subdivided into various links, and the position of making money has long been snatched away, leaving only some leftovers. Since it is a leftover, it means that the profit is small, and of course the business is not good.
Second, the divorce rate in the city is very high, and personality incompatibility is the main reason.
Cities have always been synonymous with advanced thinking, and both industries and thinking are at the forefront.
Here, everyone advocates freedom, cooperation, tolerance, respect, and is more focused on their own feelings rather than moral constraints.
Divorce in the city is mostly due to personality discord, family disharmony, bad personal feelings, and inability to live a normal life, not because of money, as in the countryside.
Husband and wife dual-worker. The vast majority of people who start families in cities have jobs, support their families together, undertake housework, educate children, and live together in the mode of equal communication and win-win cooperation, rather than one party is strongly dependent on the other.
Under this model, it means that everyone has their own income, and if they have income, they will have confidence, and when they face some family conflicts, they will not choose to be too wronged by themselves, and getting along with each other with character is the main body, after all, who leaves who can't live.
Families with better family backgrounds are even better, not only RVs are standard, but also work in the system, public institutions, or do some small business.
The main one, you want money and money, you want people to have people, you want brains to have brains, there is no reason to choose a person who has a different personality and is troublesome all day long.
Both sides are highly cognitive. Urban families receive a high level of education, both husband and wife are highly cognitive people, and they also invest a lot in all aspects of children's education, whether it is the knowledge of exam-oriented education, or the quality education of dance, calligraphy, and physical education.
Once such a child grows up, he will pursue more spiritual soul resonance for marriage, rather than an ordinary partner, once he finds that the two parties are not in harmony with each other, even if it is not suitable for divorce at that time, he will find an opportunity to divorce later, rather than living in the future.
This is also why, we can often see in TV dramas, in order not to affect their children's studies, many people choose to go directly to the plot of divorce after the child's college entrance examination is over.
And the background of the story is generally in the city, and there is basically no one in the countryside, which is not very realistic.
Moral restraint is low. A big difference between urban and rural areas is that the moral restraint is low, no matter what you do, no one will accuse you with gossip, it is a place where a hundred flowers bloom and a hundred schools of thought contend.
Because of this, all kinds of phenomena in the city can be tolerated, and it is easy for new ideas and new things to appear, and of course, divorce is also easy to be tolerated.
In the city, if two people in marriage can't get along because of their discordant personalities, the two people will not have too much psychological burden in their hearts.
There is a subdivision of lawyers called divorce lawyers, which specializes in divorce lawsuits, which is unthinkable and useless if it is placed in rural areas.
Finally, I would like to say
Whether it is marriage or love, a good relationship must be mutually understanding, mutual tolerance, and mutual achievement, and too much demand by either party will inevitably lead to an imbalance in the relationship, such as quarrels, breakups, and even divorce.
Starting a family naturally includes making money to support the family, supporting the elderly, raising children, and handling all kinds of household chores.
Whether it is male or female, or male and female, or equality between men and women, is only the division of family responsibilities, and there is no distinction between high and low.
In the vast sea of people, it is not easy to be a family, do it and cherish it, please love deeply, and please don't hurt if you don't love.