Are you still suppressing children? People have been in a suppressed environment for a long time, and slow reaction is an inevitable result
If you are slow to react, you need to think about whether you have been living in a repressive environment for a long time. For example, if you say a word, you will be suppressed, what you do will be suppressed, if you express an opinion, if you have rejected something, you will be suppressed.
When you are suppressed for a long time, you don't want to talk anymore, and you don't want to do things. Refusing to get along with people, being afraid of interpersonal relationships, especially when you encounter someone who asks you about your views and positions, is like facing a great enemy, and you don't know how to react at all, these are actually the results of long-term repression.
When discussing the theme of "people are in a suppressed environment for a long time, slow response is an inevitable result", we need to deeply analyze the psychological mechanism and social phenomenon behind it.
This article will discuss the possible impact of long-term repression, the relationship between slow response and long-term repression, the role of parents as common repressors, how repression essentially constitutes framing, and how to deal with the psychological trauma after being repressed.
People have been in a suppressed environment for a long time, and slow reaction is an inevitable result.
What happens when people are suppressed for so long?
People who have been suppressed for a long time are often in a constant state of tension and depression. This environment not only affects their mental health, but can also lead to physical discomfort.
Psychologically, they may show low self-esteem, anxiety, depression and other emotions, have a biased perception of self-worth, and find it difficult to integrate into the group and enjoy normal interpersonal relationships. Physiologically, constant stress can lead to insomnia, headaches, digestive problems, and other ailments.
In addition, long-term repression can also impair people's creativity and decision-making ability, making people timid, and lacking self-confidence.
Being suppressed for a long time will seriously destroy people's self-confidence. As Nietzsche said, "Gold always shines, but if it is stone, it doesn't shine anywhere." ”
A person is always denied, will gradually doubt his own ability, and lose the courage to try new things.
For example, some children have been criticized by their parents since they were young, "this can't do that", and when they grow up, they don't dare to fight for opportunities, and they always feel that they can't do well.
"When you do something successful, don't wait for the honor, you should do what you need." This famous quote from Pasteur reminds us that in the face of repression, we must not stand still, but move on.
There is a close correlation between slow response and long-term repression.
Slow reflexes are particularly evident in people in repressed environments. This is because chronic stress puts their brains in a state of high tension and makes it difficult to process information effectively.
When faced with a problem, they may need more time to think and analyze, which is seen as slow to react to the outside world.
At the same time, those who are repressed often lack self-confidence and are afraid of making mistakes, so they are more hesitant and hesitant to make decisions.
This slow response not only affects their productivity and quality of life, but can also put them at a social and professional disadvantage.
Long-term repression can make people nervous and sluggish thinking. It's like a spring that is under high pressure all the time and eventually loses its elasticity.
There is a newcomer in the workplace, and his boss is always critical of his work and constantly suppresses him, causing him to become indecisive and slow to respond at work, and he will make mistakes in tasks that he could easily handle.
I especially like to suppress the people in the suppression, in fact, many times it is my parents.
In the family, parents are the most common oppressors. They may suppress children for reasons such as high expectations of their children and improper education methods. This repressive behavior is often accompanied by criticism, accusations and denial, making children feel that they are worthless.
Children who grow up in this environment are prone to negative self-perception, lack self-confidence, and find it difficult to face challenges and difficulties. More seriously, this kind of repressive behavior may also affect children's mental health, leading to depression, anxiety and other emotional problems.
It is understandable that parents want their sons to become dragons and daughters to become phoenixes, but excessive suppression is often counterproductive. For example, some parents always compare other people's children, saying that their children are not as good as others and that are not as good as others, which makes their children full of inferiority complex and anxiety.
The people who suppress you at every turn are actually framing you.
The act of repression is essentially a form of framing. By belittling, blaming and denying them, they feel that they are not up to work or study, thereby lowering their self-esteem and self-confidence.
This kind of framing behavior not only affects the mental health of the repressed, but may also affect their career development and social status.
In the workplace, the oppressor may use means such as exclusion and isolation to deprive the oppressed of opportunities for promotion and development.
This kind of framing not only harms the interests of the oppressed, but also destroys the harmonious atmosphere and overall effectiveness of the organization.
Repression not only hurts your psyche but also hinders your growth and development. As Romain · Rowland said, "He who kills ideas is the greatest murderer." "Someone who constantly suppresses you is killing your motivation and creativity.
"I have never been lucky, and I will never count on luck, my highest rule is: never give in to any difficulty!" Marie Curie's words inspire us to never give in in the face of adversity.
So, how to deal with the trauma after being suppressed?
First of all, you must learn to face your emotions and accept the hurt you have suffered. Give yourself permission to feel emotions such as pain, anger, sadness, etc., and don't suppress them.
Second, try to release the pain in your heart by confiding, writing, etc. Talk to friends, family members, or write down your feelings.
Also, set yourself some small and achievable goals, and give yourself some rewards for each goal you achieve, and gradually rebuild your self-confidence.
You can also practice self-affirmation, telling yourself about your strengths and accomplishments in the mirror every day.
It can also be helpful to attend counselling sessions or join a support group to talk to others who have had similar experiences.
In the actual case, Xiao Li once lived in a work environment full of oppression, and the leader always scoffed at his ideas.
After leaving his job, he took a psychological counseling course to re-examine himself, practiced self-affirmation every day, and set phased work goals for himself, and finally found a job that suited him and achieved good results.
When dealing with the trauma after being suppressed, we also need to pay attention to the following points.
First of all, don't give up your rights and interests easily. If we are unjustly suppressed and framed, we can seek legal aid or other legal means to protect our rights and interests.
Secondly, we need to maintain a positive mindset and an optimistic mood. While the experience of being oppressed may be painful and frustrating, we need to believe that we can overcome the difficulties and come out of the shadows.
Finally, we need to learn to let go of the trauma of the past and embrace life and the future again. Only in this way can we shake off the shadow of oppression and regain our self-confidence and courage.
Here are a few book recommendations for dealing with repressive trauma:
1. "Why Does Home Hurt":
Through a large number of real cases, the author Wu Zhihong deeply analyzes various problems in family relationships, and helps readers understand and deal with the trauma caused by the original family.
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2. "Thank You for Your Imperfections":
The book explores how to accept one's own negative emotions and experiences, including the trauma of being repressed, in order to achieve spiritual growth.
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3. "Embrace Your Inner Child":
This book guides readers to reconcile with the wounded parts of their hearts, heal past wounds, and regain their inner strength.
I hope everyone can get out of the shadow of repression and embrace a better future.
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