#头条创作挑战赛#
1. The entanglement between scores and volunteering
The college entrance examination, as the core of the modern education system, is not only a test of students' knowledge reserves, but also an important starting point for their future life trajectory.
In this battle without gunpowder in June every year, the educational expectations of countless families are intertwined with the personal dreams of students, weaving happy or sad stories together.
This year, a candidate with a score of 670 should have confidently walked forward on the threshold of filling in the volunteer, but he fell into a tangle and struggle due to the excessive intervention of his family.
What happened to this examinee is like a mirror, reflecting the subtle tension between education and growth in many families.
"No matter how high the score is, if you can't fill it out well, it's in vain."
This mantra of parents reflects the general importance that society attaches to the choice of college entrance examination.
However, when this emphasis evolves into an excessive deprivation of the child's right to choose, it deviates from its original purpose.
It was against this background that this candidate had a fierce dispute with his father.
The father's intentions may be good, and he tries to pave a seemingly smoother path for his children with his own social experience.
But he ignored the child's inner voice and forgot that everyone's life should be written by himself.
In this contest between father and son, we see the entanglement between scores and volunteering, and the lack of respect and understanding in family education.
Second, the price and courage of choice
Some netizens shared their similar experiences in the comment area, and ten years ago, he also had a fierce quarrel with his father because of his choice to volunteer.
At that time, he chose to repeat his studies, and his grades remained the same in the second year, but he finally chose Sichuan University, a school that he could have gone to in the first year.
This seems to be a waste of time, but it is actually a reflection of the price and courage behind the choice.
Choosing is never easy.
Especially when this choice involves the future trajectory of life, it is full of unknowns and challenges. The experience of this netizen allows us to see the hardships and difficulties behind the choice.
His courage to face his heart and make decisions that may not be understood by others deserves our admiration.
At the same time, his experience also reminds us that when faced with choices, we should be more careful to think about what our hearts really want, rather than blindly following the footsteps of others or the trends of society.
3. Misalignment of interests and majors
Last year, one sister's distress struck a chord.
Her younger sister, who chose to major in pediatrics in anticipation, had the idea of dropping out shortly after enrolling.
It turned out that my sister's long-cherished physics major was excluded due to her family's worries about her employment prospects.
In the end, she reluctantly chose medicine, but found that she had no interest in it, and her grades were naturally a mess.
This story allows us to see the huge gap between interest and major.
When a person is forced to engage in activities they don't like, the pain and struggle is indescribable.
This sister's experience reminds us that when choosing a major, we should consider our own interests and talents more, rather than just catering to the expectations of society or the wishes of parents.
Only by truly loving your profession can you achieve better results in your future studies and work.
Fourth, the desire for control behind "for your good".
In these stories, we often hear one word – "for your good".
This is the most common reason used by parents to try to plan everything for their children.
However, this seemingly selfless love actually hides a deep desire for control. They use their own experiences and perceptions to try to pave a path for their children that they think is best, but they ignore the child's inner voice and real needs.
The words "for your own good" seem to be an invisible shackle that binds the child firmly to the track set by the parents.
Under this shackle, children lose the right to choose freely and the courage to explore the unknown.
They are forced to live according to their parents' wishes, and gradually lose their ability to think for themselves and independently.
This desire to control not only affects a child's personality development, but can also cause serious damage to their mental health.
Therefore, parents should learn to respect their children's choices and give them enough space and freedom to explore the world.
5. Separation and respect of topics
In the face of such a dilemma, we may need to learn from the concept of individual psychology.
Adler argues that each person has their own patterns of life and subjective goals, which are formed by the individual himself, not imposed by the outside.
When dealing with similar issues, we should first clarify "whose issue it is".
For children, choosing a profession and lifestyle that interests them is their subject; For parents, supporting and respecting their children's choices is their issue.
Only when we truly understand and respect this can we achieve the separation of topics, thereby reducing family conflicts and promoting the healthy growth of children.
Separating topics does not mean letting go completely, but giving children enough support and guidance on the basis of understanding and respect.
Parents can share their own experiences and opinions, but they should not force their children to accept their own opinions.
Children also need to listen to their parents, but the final decision should be in their own hands.
This interaction not only helps to develop children's independent thinking skills, but also enhances trust and understanding between family members.
6. Self-decision-making and responsibility
Filling in the college entrance examination is just a microcosm of life's many choices.
Whatever the outcome, we should all understand that everyone is ultimately responsible for their own lives.
Before making any decisions, we should learn to think independently and fully understand our interests, abilities, and goals. Only in this way can we make a choice that truly suits our hearts.
At the same time, we should also learn to take responsibility. Whether our choice is perfect or not, we must have the courage to face the consequences.
Because it is these choices and experiences that shape our unique life trajectory.
In the days to come, let us take this courage and responsibility and bravely pursue our dreams!