People with strong expression skills know how to use these 4 tricks of Johari Window to improve the quality of communication

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Communication, the art of communication, is a dialogue in the depths of the soul, which shapes our spiritual world, like feng shui, subtly affects our fortunes, and even the prosperity and decline of our families.

On the stage of interpersonal relationships, if there is a lack of communication, it will become a silent one-man show, lacking resonance and interaction.

Communication, like a bridge between the heart, can overcome obstacles and eliminate misunderstandings; It is an invisible healing force capable of calming conflicts and healing the wounds of the heart.

It is like a cup of fragrant hot tea, a gentle breeze and drizzle, dispel the haze in the heart and warm every heart.

However, even the closest people, once they lose communication, the tacit understanding will pass away quietly; Even the deepest emotions, once there is a lack of communication, are prone to become fragile and even change.

Therefore, the importance of communication cannot be overstated.

How can I improve my communication skills?

1. The necessary traits of a master communicator

The reason why a good communicator is able to navigate a variety of situations is that they possess some unique qualities.

These traits are not achieved overnight, but need to be cultivated and improved through continuous learning and practice.

2. Learn the Johari window skills well

There is a couple who have entered their old age, respecting each other, and have walked hand in hand for nearly 60 years.

Whenever an egg appears on the table, the husband always hands his wife the most precious yolk in his mouth, and he tastes the egg whites silently; The same is true for wives, who save the egg whites for their husbands while they enjoy the taste of egg yolks.

However, when her husband was dying, he confessed a secret to his wife: in fact, what he loved most was the mellow egg yolk. He turned this preference into an affectionate gift to his wife.

At that moment, his wife burst into tears and responded silently that what she really liked was the freshness of egg whites. She always thought that her husband didn't like egg yolks, so she always kept the egg whites for him and tasted the egg yolks herself.

This old couple, in their own unique way, silently dedicated their life of love, but never really understood each other's hearts. Their love story is about misunderstanding and sacrifice, but also about deep and unspoken love.

The art of communication is not only about expression, but also about understanding.

The Johari Window Technique provides us with a framework for an in-depth understanding of communication. This theory likens the information of interpersonal communication to a window, divided into four zones: the open zone, the hidden zone, the blind zone, and the unknown zone. By understanding these four areas, we can express ourselves and understand others more effectively.

1. Open Zone: This is the area of information that you know and others know. In communication, we should actively expand this area and enhance mutual understanding and trust by sharing our thoughts and feelings. The expansion of the open zone helps to build deeper human connections.
2. Secret Zone: This is the area of information that you know and others don't know. Sharing information about the secret zone at the right time can deepen your relationship with others, but at the same time, you should be careful to protect your privacy and avoid overexposure.
3. Blind Zone: This is the area of information that you don't know and others know. We need to be good at listening to the feedback and suggestions of others, discovering our blind spots through the perspective of others, and adjusting our own behaviors and attitudes in time.
4. Unknown Zone: This is the area of information that you don't know and others don't know. In communication, we should keep an open mind, have the courage to explore unknown areas, and constantly expand our knowledge and horizons.

The "Johari Window" theory suggests that truly effective communication can only take place in open areas.

In this area, both sides understand each other, and the information can be shared, and the effect of communication can be satisfactory.

Therefore, in interpersonal communication, it is necessary to expand the open area as much as possible, and narrow the blind spot, unknown area and hidden area.

By learning and applying the Johari window technique, we can reduce information asymmetry and improve the effectiveness of communication.

3. How to use the "Johari window" to recognize yourself?

When encountering problems in interpersonal relationships in the workplace, many people's first thoughts are to escape or change the environment, but this does not fundamentally solve the problem.

The "Johari window" model provides us with a new perspective on how we know ourselves.

1. Blind spots: There are two ways to understand yourself as others see you:
2. Passive: Reflect on oneself through the attitudes of others.
3. Proactive: Actively seek feedback from others, such as asking, "What kind of person do you think I am?" Or, "Are you feeling pressured to associate with me?" ”
4. Uncharted territory: For parts that you and others don't know, you can seek professional help, such as psychological counseling or career counseling, to explore the unknown areas of yourself deeply.

Little A is a passionate young man, and after a short time of work, he feels a deep sense of frustration. Xiao A wanted to innovate in his work, but every time he tried, the project manager criticized the progress for being too slow and unable to meet the needs of the team.

Little A longs for recognition and respect, but is afraid of failure and humiliation, which leads him to retreat in the face of tasks and try different methods to complete tasks, but he is always not recognized by his leader.

Analyzing the situation of Little A, we can see that:

• Little A's problem is that he is not aware of his blind spots and unknown zones, which leads him to feel confused and frustrated in his relationships.

According to the "Johari window" theory, effective communication can only take place in an open area. In this area, both sides understand each other, information can be shared, and communication can be satisfactory. Therefore, to improve communication in the workplace, we need to:

1. Expand the open area: Through proactive communication and self-exposure, others can learn more about us and others at the same time.
2. Close the blind spots: Find out what others think and feel about us by asking questions and asking for feedback.
3. Shrink the hidden zone: Let others know what we really think and feel through self-expression and sharing.
4. Exploring the Unknown: Discover and understand the unknown parts of ourselves through self-reflection and professional counseling.

To achieve good interpersonal relationships, we need to narrow the blind spots by seeking feedback, the hidden areas by self-exposure, and the unknown areas through self-exploration, and finally maximize the open areas to achieve efficient and beneficial communication.

Ernest Hemingway said:

Everyone needs someone to talk to openly and honestly. A man can be heroic, but he can also be lonely.

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So, please communicate in a timely manner and exchange each other's true inner feelings.