She and Jin Yong have been married for 20 years and have four children.
During this period, Jin Yong had an extramarital affair, and after being discovered by his wife, he asked Xiao San to undergo 'sterilization surgery', only in this way was she willing to divorce Jin Yong.
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In his later years, he was desolate, his husband betrayed, and his son jumped off the building.
Is this marriage between her and Jin Yong a red rose or mosquito blood?
The second wife who shared the hardships: Zhu Mei
Jin Yong's second marriage is more popular, even criticized.
Before starting his second marriage, he was already very famous, and he was very popular in Hong Kong.
Because of this, Jin Yong's crazy love for movie star Xia Meng is well known.
Xia Meng was a smash hit female star in Hong Kong at that time, known as the 'Audrey Hepburn of the East', both in appearance and net worth, which made Jin Yong unattainable.
But even so, Jin Yong, a divorced man, still launched a vigorous pursuit of Xia Meng.
Jin Yong and Xia Meng
But King Xiang has a dream, the goddess has no heart, and Xia Meng always ignores Jin Yong.
Despite this, Jin Yong is still obsessed with Xia Meng.
In order to pursue Xia Meng, he even quit his job at the newspaper and went to Xia Meng's side to be a small editor for her.
Jin Yong has been in love with Xia Meng for seven years, but to no avail.
It was during this time that he met his second wife, Zhu Mei.
At that time, Zhu Mei was a news reporter, and she was 11 years younger than Jin Yong.
When the two met, Zhu Mei was still a young and beautiful girl.
At this time, Jin Yong had already experienced the blow of his first marriage, and he also encountered a lot of ups and downs in the pursuit of Xia Meng, and he was already a little disheartened about his relationship.
Jin Yong and Xia Meng
At the beginning, Zhu Mei was a fan of Jin Yong, and she liked Jin Yong's novels very much.
In a work contact, she learned that Zha Liangyong (Jin Yong's real name) was Jin Yong, Zhu Mei was ecstatic, and the close-up 'star chasing' made her crazy.
So under the effect of the fan filter, Zhu Mei began to show fanatical love for Jin Yong.
Seeing this young and beautiful girl pursuing herself without pretense, Jin Yong saw from her how he pursued Xia Meng.
Maybe it was some sympathy, or maybe it was Zhu Mei's background and enthusiasm that attracted him, Jin Yong soon fell in love with Zhu Mei.
After that, their relationship was made public in the newspapers.
Soon, the two got married in 1956, when Zhu Mei was only 21 years old.
Zhu Mei and Jin Yong can be described as a husband and wife in distress, when the two got married, Jin Yong didn't even have his own residence, they had been renting a house to live, and his wedding with Zhu Mei was also very simple.
Because Jin Yong's career in the newspaper was not very smooth back then, he went to Great Wall Film and Television as a screenwriter before that, just to pursue Xia Meng.
After his pursuit failed, he returned to Ta Kung Pao to continue working, but there was no place for him here.
Jin Yong, who was frustrated in the workplace, decided to leave Ta Kung Pao and set up a newspaper on his own.
So in 1959, Jin Yong invested 80,000 yuan to found "Ming Pao" with someone
But in the early days of entrepreneurship, it can be described as a blue thread.
His little manuscript fee couldn't support the newspaper's expenses at all, so Zhu Mei didn't say a word, so she sold her expensive jewelry and took out her private money for Jin Yong to continue the newspaper's career.
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At that time, the two of them were really having a hard time, Zhu Mei and Jin Yong were even willing to call for a cup of coffee, and then the two of them drank it separately.
When he started his business, Jin Yong was still serializing "The Condor Heroes".
At that time, he was sick, and most of the work in the newspaper was taken care of by Zhu Mei.
Zhu Mei had studied in the UK before, and her cognition and vision were very high.
And as a reporter, Zhu Mei also knows a lot about the operation of the newspaper.
Therefore, in the place where "Ming Pao" started, Zhu Mei wore many hats, she was an editor, a reporter, a copywriter, and a treasurer.
In short, she took over a lot of the company's work and relieved a lot of financial burden on the newspaper.
In fact, the pressure on Zhu Mei at that time was also huge, because in this year, it was also when their eldest son Cha Chuanxia was born.
Under the pressure of work, she took on the responsibilities of her mother, took care of her husband and took care of the company.
It's hard to imagine how Zhu Mei carried it at that time, even if she had three heads and six arms, she was overwhelmed.
So Jin Yong was very grateful to Zhu Mei at the beginning, because Zhu Mei really helped him a lot.
Later, the company was on the right track, and Zhu Mei's pressure was reduced, Jin Yong was very grateful to her, and he didn't want his wife to show up again to work for herself.
So Zhu Mei returned to the family and became a full-time wife, during which she and Jin Yong also had another child.
In the eyes of outsiders, this marriage is already a happy one.
But Jin Yong is not a peaceful person, he has a successful career and a good reputation, but he has always had illusions about Xia Meng.
For this reason, Jin Yong also created a script for Xia Meng "Wang Laohu Robbing Relatives" to praise her.
This hand-made movie is the common property of Jin Yong and Zhu Mei.
After Zhu Mei knew about this, she joked to her husband with a bitter smile:
"Did you catch up with your big star?"
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was laughed at by Jin Yong.
Although Jin Yong and Xia Meng have never had a fate, Jin Yong is not an 'honest man'.
Looking at the male protagonist in the novel he created, which one is not surrounded by many pink beauties, Jin Yong is naturally not far behind.
At this time, he and Zhu Mei have been married for more than ten years, and their days have been as plain as water.
On the surface, husband and wife love each other and respect each other like guests, but in fact, Jin Yong has long been tired of such a boring marriage.
In addition, at that time, his years were unfavorable, and his son was trapped by love, which made them very distressed, which made Jin Yong even more frustrated.
One day in 1976, he was drinking in a tavern and had a spark with a waitress at a restaurant.
Old husband and young wife: 23-year-old Xiaolongnu and 53-year-old Yang Guo
This waitress is also in her early twenties, she is young and beautiful, lively and bright.
She is like a firework in the dry winter, and Jin Yong's gray feelings have bright colors because of her.
Even later Jin Yong said that she was his 'little dragon girl'.
The waitress is 29 years old apart from Jin Yong, and it is more than enough to be his daughter.
But it is precisely because of her youth that Jin Yong, who is almost fifty years old, rekindles his love.
Because of this, Jin Yong pursued her regardless of secular morality, and then the two hit it off and started an extramarital affair.
Her name is Lin Leyi, Jin Yong's third wife.
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This shady relationship was soon discovered by his wife Zhu Mei, who was already in her forties at that time.
She and Jin Yong have been married for 20 years and have four children, but they still can't save her husband's heart.
Jin Yong himself said that he is a romantic person and can't love only one person in his life.
After knowing that her husband was cheating, Zhu Mei felt a chill, the marriage she had always been proud of was a scam, so in 1976, Zhu Mei filed for divorce from Jin Yong.
It just so happened that Jin Yong was tired of such a dull marriage, so he happily agreed.
But she didn't want Zhu Mei to make a request at this time: she wanted Lin Leyi to be ligated, and she could never conceive Jin Yong's child.
Why did Zhu Mei do this, perhaps because she had just experienced the pain of losing her eldest son who committed suicide by jumping off a building.
As a mother, Zhu Mei naturally can't be indifferent to her son's death, and since she has lost a child, she doesn't allow a third party to take away the love of other children.
Depriving Lin Leyi of the right to become a mother is probably the only means Zhu Mei can think of.
In 1976, just after divorcing Zhu Mei, Jin Yong married Lin Leyi.
Looking back on this year, Jin Yong experienced the pain of losing a child, cheating on Lin Leyi, divorcing Zhu Mei, and marrying Lin Leyi.
This year has been non-stop for Jin Yong.
Subsequently, his 'romantic affair' was also mercilessly criticized by the Hong Kong media.
After divorcing Jin Yong, Zhu Mei suffered from a series of diseases, physical and mental.
These conditions have tormented her for a long time, making it impossible for her to continue working.
But even if she is healthy, she will not be able to return to the workplace, after all, no one will hire a housewife who lacks twenty years of work experience.
In fact, after divorcing Zhu Mei, Jin Yong quickly regretted it.
She found Zhu Mei, tore up the divorce agreement, and begged her to get back together.
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But Zhu Mei is a very stubborn woman, her husband's betrayal for more than ten years has made her feel physically and mentally exhausted, she can't forgive Jin Yong's mistakes, and she can't pretend to get back together with him as if nothing happened.
Perhaps because he was angry with Zhu Mei and couldn't get used to her stubbornness, Jin Yong married Lin Leyi in the same year.
He even declared to the public: 'Lin Leyi is my dream lover Xiaolongnu'.
After watching her husband marry other women, Zhu Mei could be described as disheartened.
He even refused the alimony provided to her by Jin Yong, and insisted on not wanting a penny from Jin Yong even when he was seriously ill and dying.
Some people may think that Zhu Mei is too stupid, such stubbornness will only hurt herself, and it will not affect Jin Yong's spending time in the slightest.
But for her, this way is enough to express her determination to 'break off with Jin Yong'.
This is her faint resistance to Jin Yong's betrayal.
As the name suggests, Zhu Mei is a vigorous rose, beautiful but also thorny.
Zhu Mei died of lung disease in 1998 at the age of 63.
Jin Yong said in an interview when he was old that the most sorry person in this life was Zhu Mei, and he also kept his promise and did not have children with Lin Leyi again.
Although the two have no children, it has not yet been known whether Lin Leyi actually went for ligation surgery.
Jin Yong's experience is like Duan Zhengchun he wrote, he has a romantic life, touching flowers and grass, and has countless dew loves.
Later, a reporter interviewed Jin Yong, why did you do this?
His answer was:
"It's like taking drugs, you know it's not good, but you can't resist the temptation."
Unforgettable first love: Jiangnan socialite Du Zhifen
In fact, before Jin Yong became the prodigal son, he also had a very 'pure love' relationship.
That is the love with his first love, that is, his first wife Du Zhifen.
One day in 1947, Jin Yong was invited by his friend Du Zhiqiu to be a guest at home.
Although they have known each other for a while, this is the first time Jin Yong has come to petition, for which he has prepared an extremely decent suit and brought a board duck.
Just as Jin Yong was waiting for his friend in the living room, a young and beautiful girl came.
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She was wearing a moonlit cheongsam, perming fashionable curly hair, and everyone was beautiful and bookish, which made Jin Yong stunned at once.
Du Zhifen is the sister of a friend, she is generous, slender and beautiful.
Jin Yong fell into it at first sight, and the two began to meet and date frequently after they met.
For more than half a year, Jin Yong's love for Du Zhifen has become deeper and deeper.
He soon proposed to Du Zhifen, and Du Zhifen agreed.
The wedding of the two was held in 1948, and it was very decent, and Jin Yong got married to Du Zhifen as he wished.
But the good times didn't last long, and only half a year after they got married, Jin Yong was transferred to Hong Kong by the newspaper on a business trip.
After discussing with his wife, Jin Yong also took Du Zhifen to Hong Kong to live together.
Hong Kong in the last century
When Du Zhifen first arrived in Hong Kong, it was also fresh, but this freshness lasted for more than two months before dissipating.
She is not used to life in Hong Kong, and she is very lonely in Hong Kong.
Her husband goes out early and returns late every day, sometimes he socializes after work, and overtime is a common thing, Du Zhifen lives here alone, and he is very lonely because of the language barrier.
She began to miss life in Zhejiang, where she knew relatives and friends.
One day, after a big quarrel with Jin Yong, who returned late, Du Zhifen bought a ticket to return to Zhejiang the next day.
Although they broke up unhappily this time, they still had affection for each other.
After that, Jin Yong wrote a letter to Du Zhifen to apologize, with sincere words, asking for her forgiveness, but Du Zhifen did not reply.
Jin Yong hurriedly asked the newspaper for leave, returned to Hangzhou and apologized to her in person, this little turmoil was over, and the husband and wife were still in love.
Even so, being based in Hong Kong has become Jin Yong's job.
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After returning to Hong Kong, he missed his wife and repeatedly asked her to come to Hong Kong.
Du Zhifen couldn't withstand his soft grinding and hard bubbles, so Du Zhifen went to Hong Kong for the second time.
This time, she stayed in Hong Kong for half a year, but in a foreign land, Du Zhifen was never happy.
In addition, her parents have been urging her to go back, and they think that it is not easy for their daughter to be easily wronged in other places.
Jin Yong saw Du Zhifen's homesickness, and he couldn't bear it, so he decided to let Du Zhifen return to his hometown.
sent his wife on the ferry for the second time, and Jin Yong had a complicated feeling in his heart.
In the dark, he felt that his marriage to Du Zhifen might not last long.
Sure enough, as he expected, after Du Zhifen returned to Zhejiang, the two gradually broke off their letters.
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In 1950, the two divorced, and the marriage lasted only two years.
After Jin Yong and Du Zhifen divorced, the two never communicated again.
Many years later, when Jin Yong reached the year of destiny, he talked about this marriage in an interview with reporters, and he told the truth: she fell in love with someone else.
At that time, Du Zhifen had passed away, and no one confirmed whether what Jin Yong said was true or false, but we can find Du Zhifen's shadow from some female characters in his novels.
For example, Aunt Ying in "The Legend of the Condor Heroes":
She is the concubine of Emperor Duan, but she fell in love with the unruly Taoist priest Zhou Botong, and Yang Tiexin's wife Bao Xiweak, and threw herself into the arms of Wanyan Honglie.
and the wife of Yang Dingtian, the former head of the Ming Sect in "Heaven and Dragon Slayer", after marrying him, she still taught and received private ...... with her senior brother Cheng Kun
It's hard to say whether these ingredients are Jin Yong's first wife when he was creating.
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The character plots of these novels all have the epitome of Du Zhifen, and this marriage made Jin Yong bruised all over his body.
But only in this marriage, Jin Yong is absolutely loyal.
Later, he seemed to be a different person, wandering among the flowers, which is probably just waiting for leisure but changing people's hearts!
Epilogue:
Jin Yong also suffered betrayal in his marriage, and after he tasted the warmth and coldness, he even betrayed Zhu Mei in his marriage to Zhu Mei.
In the more than 20 years since Zhu Mei and him were married, her help and contribution to Jin Yong was the greatest.
But the person who hurt Jin Yong the most was also Zhu Mei, who left his pure first love to his first wife, and left warmth and a huge inheritance to Lin Leyi.
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But what Zhu Mei was left behind was the suffering and deep betrayal of hand in hand.
Jin Yong himself has written many lingering and sympathetic words, but about his own emotional history, it is cut and sorted out and messy.
As he himself wrote:
If you love someone, you have to love her for the rest of your life, but you often can't do it, it's not that you don't want to do it, it's that you can't do it, the world is unpredictable, and it's just the beginning.
Resources:
Jin Yong has such three marriages ------ Sina
Who are Jin Yong's three marriages in his life? He once relied on Hongyan's biography to ------ China News Network
Jin Yong's family background and emotional world ......------ Qingdao Morning Post