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In life, we are often taught to be generous, tolerant, and kind and generous to others. Sometimes, however, excessive generosity is not a virtue, but a disadvantage to oneself. In some situations, please put away your generosity, be careful, be stingy, and turn your face.
We live in a complex society, and the interactions between people are full of various subtle interests and emotional entanglements. Excessive generosity is often misunderstood by some people as weakness and deception, so that they have to take every inch.
You may have had the experience of giving to others again and again, but not getting the respect and reward you deserve. For example, at work, you always take on extra tasks to help your colleagues solve problems, but when you need support, those who have benefited from you choose to remain silent or shirk. This kind of one-sided generosity will only make you feel tired and lost.
When you should be careful, you are not narrow-minded, but you are safeguarding your own rights and dignity. For example, in business cooperation, clarifying the terms of the contract and making reasonable consideration of the distribution of benefits is a respect for the fruits of one's own labor.
In interpersonal communication, if someone always ignores your feelings and intrudes on your personal space or time at will, you have the right to be considerate and let the other person understand your bottom line.
It is not to be stingy, but to learn to allocate resources rationally and use energy and wealth where it is truly worthwhile.
For example, for those who always borrow things from you but never cherish or return them, you can be petty and refuse. You don't always have to be responsive to those who ask for your time and energy without restraint and never care about your needs. Stinginess is not selfishness, but a strategy of self-preservation to make your efforts more worthwhile.
And turning the other cheek when it should be turned is a kind of courage and determination. When faced with malicious deception, betrayal, or endless harm from others, turning the other cheek is a necessary self-defense mechanism.
If someone deliberately discredits you, ruins your reputation, or tries to ruin your family and career, you can't choose to tolerate it for fear of conflict. Turning your face in time to let the other person know that your anger and inviolability can effectively stop further harm.
Some people may say, will this make people think that you are not easy to get along with and lose friends? But a true friend will understand your position and respect your choice.
Those who turn away from you because of your reasonable calculations, pettiness, and turning your face may not be your good friends in life in the first place. True friendship and relationships are based on mutual respect, understanding and support, not one-sided accommodation and generosity.
In the journey of life, we must learn to love ourselves and respect our feelings and needs. Don't sacrifice your own interests excessively in order to meet the expectations of others.
Remember, your kindness must have a sharp edge, and your generosity must have a bottom line. Only in this way can you maintain yourself and live freely in this complex world, and not be swayed by the unreasonable demands and misdeeds of others.
Putting away unprincipled generosity, bravely calculating, stingy and turning the other cheek is responsible for one's own life, and it is also the screening and care of a truly beautiful relationship. Let us walk on the road of life with a more determined and confident attitude, and create a fairer, healthier and happier living environment for ourselves.
Author: Lao Pang
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