The term omnipotent narcissism was developed in the strict sense of the word from Kohut's theory.
In the early days, Freud proposed the concept of libido, which means that people will devote more love to themselves and then develop healthily. The mother, as the first nurturer of the child, will become the earliest object of the child's love.
But here the mother is loved as an object different from himself. If the love for the object is frustrated, the outward love will turn back to the self, a phenomenon called secondary narcissism, that is, clinical pathological narcissism.
To put it simply, it means "not getting the right love, developing an unreasonable pattern of love, and thus causing trouble in the relationship", which is roughly what it means.
Later, Klein developed Freud's theory of narcissism, proposing that the difference between narcissism or object-to-body ratio is transformed into a difference in the relationship between internal and external objects.
This sentence is rather awkward, what does it mean? This is mainly about the distinction between subject and object, and the good model of mental functioning.
The narcissist will project himself completely onto the object of his attention, denying that he is no different from the object, or not separating himself from the object at all, as a person.
They will have a very high idealized image of themselves, completely denying anyone or anything that gets in the way of this perfect self-image. Such a personality structure comes from the fact that they idealize parts of themselves that they do not identify with, and under these premises, the subconscious mind hates everything that is good and valuable.
Not only the external object, but also the inner normal part of itself depends on the object.
For example, you have not been cared for and accompanied by your parents since you were a child, and your heart is eager for others to care for and love you. But there are few such people in life, so what will some people do?
will start looking for the "ideal lover". Some people may play games, watch TV series or works, and then be moved by the beautiful things in the stories inside.
I really hope that this kind of thing will happen.
In the future, when there is someone who cares about me and feels in line with my inner cognition, then I will feel that "this person is what I need", the object of my real longing. And once the other person shows a performance that does not conform to his heart, he will completely deny the other person, and after the idealization is shattered, anger, hostility and painful emotions will arise.
Klein's theory, for the first time, described the structural characteristics of narcissistic personality and proposed that narcissism is related to aggression, which has its developmental properties. However, the theory does not describe the relationship between narcissistic personality and object too closely, and denies the relationship between narcissism and object, which is its limitation.
When Kohut appeared, Freud's definition of "narcissism" was revised, and he said that narcissism is a real sense of self-worth that arises through competent experience, a real feeling that oneself is worth cherishing and protecting.
That is to say, the narcissism of the average individual is not unhealthy, and our society as a whole allows moderate narcissism, and it is unhealthy only if the individual is excessively narcissistic and beyond the scope of society's tolerance for narcissism.
This is the definition of "healthy narcissism", that is, it is often said that narcissism is not harmful, and to some extent it is good for people.
And omnipotent narcissism refers to a kind of mirror transfer or idealized transfer, which is the key stage of development of the child's narcissism, and the mirror transfer will use exaggerated self.
At this stage, the child tries to hold on to a part of the original narcissism by concentrating on perfection and exaggerating itself and distributing all imperfections to the outer world.
The basic characteristic of a narcissistic defective person is the defect of the self structure, which is the result of not completing the process of integrating and exaggerating the self and idealizing the object in order to enter the reality orientation of the self structure, the incomplete reality of the self and the external world.
Seeing this, many people who have not studied psychology may feel very confused, there are too many references to the subject, object, subconscious, etc., the explanation is relatively abstract, and a lot of noun explanations are misty.
In fact, no matter how these theories are repeated over and over again, and how to explain them in an innovative way, the core words will also point to one point, that is, people's mental ability and stable personality structure.
The functions of people with mental health are in line with objective laws and developmental, and are not harmful and destructive; People who are mentally unhealthy will develop the most destructive traits.
It is said that the theory is not easy to understand, but a little example will make everyone understand.
For example, if you score 100 points on an exam and are very good, then you will burst with confidence and start to have narcissism. When other classmates ask you for advice and say that there is a math problem I will teach you, if you have normal narcissistic function, they will say: "Hey, hey, I know this problem, I usually do it, I'll teach you, and you will do this problem after teaching you."
This is normal narcissistic behavior.
If it's not normal, you might do something like, "Look you're stupid!" I can't answer such a simple question, and I always get a score of 0, how can you be worthy of me to teach you? I'm so good, I scored 100 points on the exam, and I dropped the price when I taught you math problems, and I feel like you're dragging me down. ”
Once the all-powerful narcissism is formed, and the personality is flawed, then people will begin to exploit people, controlling, bullying, insulting, slandering, slandering, etc., and all kinds of abnormal and hurtful behaviors will appear frequently.
And this is a situation that everyone needs to avoid, to learn to understand others, to have empathy, empathy, and to truly understand the relationship between one's own needs and others, then to have a stable and lasting intimate relationship.
It's just that this process will be relatively long, and it will require people's efforts in all aspects to achieve, and the balance of intelligence and ability can be mastered.