Nowadays, the phenomenon of late marriage and non-marriage of only children in many rural areas is common. This is not only influenced by economic conditions, concepts and other factors, but also closely related to the fast-paced lifestyle of modern society.
Due to the lack of information and conservative concepts, the children of rural families are often in a weak position in the process of choosing a mate, and the unfairness of the marriage and love market has increased the resistance to their happiness road.
As parents of only children, especially rural elderly people like the grandmother in the article, they are naturally extremely worried about the reality of their children's late marriage and non-marriage.
In the traditional concept, marriage and family are an important part of life, and future generations are a strong support for old age.
However, contemporary society has changed drastically, and the concept of marriage and love has also changed. Although the older generation has gradually accepted this new reality, it is inevitable that there is still some unwillingness and helplessness in their hearts.
This Hunan grandmother vividly embodies this ambivalence state. Although she expressed her understanding and support for the four children's respective life paths, the old man could not help but reverie when she was alone.
It would be nice if one day the children could have a family and have their own children in the yard of the old house. This yearning and attachment to traditional family life is the most sincere expectation of the elderly in rural areas.
However, the grandmother did not deliberately interfere in the children's lives, even if they were lonely, as long as the children were happy, the old man would be satisfied.
This kind of tolerant and supportive maternal love is the most valuable quality of the elderly who stick to the fields in the countryside.
Although they are not highly educated, they interpret the responsibilities and responsibilities of parents in their own way.
In the face of the reality of their children's late marriage and non-marriage, although the elderly are helpless and worried, they are more likely to protect their children's happiness with love and tolerance, and support their children's life choices in their own unique ways.
This simple and warm family strength is the most valuable wealth of rural families.
Although the worries and helplessness of the grandmother represent the general mentality of many families in rural areas about the marriage of their children, we cannot ignore the deeper social problems hidden in it.
The phenomenon of children marrying late and not marrying not only reflects the change in young people's concept of marriage and family, but also reflects that there is still a large gap between urban and rural areas in terms of economic development, education level, lifestyle, and other aspects.
Compared with urban youth, young people in rural areas face more prominent problems in choosing a mate.
First of all, the economic foundation is relatively weak, the income of rural families is generally limited, and the younger generation often goes out to work for a long time in order to earn a living, which has virtually increased the obstacles to communication between the two sides.
Secondly, there is a lack of educational resources in rural areas, the concept is relatively conservative, and the understanding of marriage and love is often more traditional, which is a certain gap with the modern concept of marriage, which makes rural young people more susceptible to the influence of parents or village people when choosing a mate.
Moreover, there is indeed a certain difference between the rural lifestyle and the rhythm of modern urban life, and many rural young people have difficulty fully adapting to it after marriage due to differences in living habits.
Therefore, how to bridge the gap between urban and rural areas in terms of marriage and love concepts and lifestyles is also an important factor affecting the marital status of rural children.
In view of this situation, we should not only focus on the nostalgia and attachment of the older generation to the traditional concept of marriage and family, but should think deeply from a higher social level.
How to create fairer marriage opportunities for young people in rural areas, eliminate the urban-rural divide in the concept of marriage and love, and promote the integrated development of urban and rural areas.
For example, the government can introduce some supportive policies to increase investment in rural education and improve the overall education level of rural youth; At the same time, we should strengthen the guidance of the concept of marriage and love in rural areas, promote the spread of the new concept of marriage and childbearing in rural areas, and narrow the gap between urban and rural areas.
In addition, it can also build more dating platforms for rural youth, broaden their social circles, and increase opportunities for long-distance communication.
Only by solving the problem at the source and eliminating the gap between urban and rural education, economy, and concepts can the marriage and love of young people in rural areas be effectively alleviated.
We should strive to create a more equitable and inclusive social environment, so that everyone, regardless of urban and rural areas, can equally pursue their own happy life.
This is not only related to the harmony and stability of rural families, but also the proper meaning of realizing urban-rural integration and promoting social fairness and justice.
In the tide of change, marriage and love should not be a privilege, but a basic right that every citizen should enjoy.
It is hoped that through the joint efforts of all sectors of society, those rural parents who have endless expectations for their children's marriages like the grandmother in the article will no longer worry about this problem.