Recently, I liked a passage very much, Li Yinhe said that human life is a state. It's the same as a tree, a fish, consume some matter and create some matter, and then leave this world. If you think about it, you won't have so many worries when you live. But there are people who can't think about it, and they are worried about this and that all day long.
I have observed that many comfortable and good-looking women around me have four powerful qualities. Everyone's tasting.
First, know how to make yourself happy.
There is a saying that pleasing a woman is a high-class regimen. A person who is happy in his heart will not resist the suffering given by life, let alone resist. You will only keep strengthening yourself. Therefore, happiness is an ability that can make oneself pass smoothly in the long river of life.
I recently met a beautiful woman who is 51 years old and her experience can be described as difficult. The child died of uremia, and her husband died in a car accident. She herself struggled against hardship. Relying on the craftsmanship of tailors, he opened a garment factory and made work clothes for the factory. Business is not bad.
She said that she was the one who climbed back from the line of death, and she thought about many ways to die, but she survived. For the sake of her parents, if she wants to live, she will rely on the light in her heart to slowly please herself and make herself strong. I have the present life.
Second, know how to be open-minded.
Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory. If you can't let go, your heart is not broad-minded. You will live in misery.
I like a blogger named Xiangyi, who graduated with a PhD. Take your mom to shoot a video. I used to teach at a university, but I resigned after being reported. This knot in her heart made her unable to let go. I saw her living in the misery of the past, and she spent her days in tears. complains, grievances because they can't let go.
I have passed the age of fifty, and suddenly I have forgiven everything, the hurt that I have done, the unsatisfactory I have been, I have passed, I have to look forward, don't live in negative emotions, then the suffering will be aggravated. The days will be sad, and the faces will be full of suffering.
Third, know how to charm desires.
People are very strange animals, and only what they can't get is precious. When you like it and you can't get it, you will put a filter on what you can't get. The more you wear a filter, the more you want to get it, and it will become an obsession, and you will be manipulated by desire. A lifetime of suffering.
I have a fellow countryman, my first love was broken up by my parents, and even if I got married later, this love was buried in my heart. I met at the class reunion, and the buried love was rekindled. The two of them were divorced without the constraints of their parents, but the marriage was not as good as they imagined, there were many contradictions and constant quarrels. When the filter is broken, it is regret.
People are so weird, always with a filter on power, money, and what they can't get. In fact, if you really enter that world, it may not be as beautiful as you think. Disenchantment is a sign of maturity. Going with the flow is the best way to live.
Fourth, know how to accept everything.
After the age of 50, I feel that life is really short, no matter whether it is good or bad, as long as it happens to me, I have to accept it. Allowing to happen is easier than living against it.
Recently, I have a few more gray hairs, and I simply accept it, after all, this is a gift of time and an experience.
I have a colleague who regards wellness as a hard metric. How much protein and how much whole grains you eat every day should be recorded. How many times to comb your hair and how many times to rub your belly every day has become an indicator. Also use an alarm to remind you to drink water. Actually, this is not health, I think health is a state of mind, and relaxation is very important. We are already working very hard, and we will be even more tired in the program of hard health preservation.
Acceptance is not acceptance, it is a state of mind of enjoyment, not against the years, not against people and things. Being responsible only for yourself in the moment is the best way to maintain health.
After the age of 50, we live with a mentality, learn to use high-latitude thinking concepts, and cope with life. We will be relaxed and happy. The rest of your life will not be bad. We encourage each other.
I am Sister Mi Li, a post-70s generation who loves to share, I like to share, remember to like and support to show encouragement. Thank you!
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