Recently, Xi Mengyao was photographed watching the women's volleyball team alone with the fourth wife, because there were people laughing at the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who looked like mother and daughter, and some netizens admired it.
After all, there are many problems in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and most female friends belong to the kind of people who don't even bother to accompany their mother-in-law on the street.
Where did He Youjun go when he wasn't around? Of course, it's a career. Not long ago, his e-sports company went to the United States to sprint for IPO, and the news that it is expected to become the first stock of China's e-sports has also been on the hot search.
Regardless of when the proprietress of a listed company can become a proprietor, after the young couple got married, life was really smooth. No wonder He Youjun bluntly said that his wife can be "prosperous" in variety shows.
In the past year, the fourth wife, as the head of the family, has also made new moves towards this daughter-in-law, from not waiting to be seen to carefully cultivating:
For example, arrange for her to study management in EMBA;
took her into the family business, presided over the launching ceremony of the new ship, and did not show up for family activities, all of which were indispensable to her;
Even if you take a family photo, let your son, daughter and herself stand aside, and leave the C position to her.
I don't know if I like it or not, and the behavior definitely echoes the words of my son and daughter-in-law.
makes people very curious, what kind of "wangfu" characteristics does Xi Mengyao, who has no family background, have the characteristics of a "wangfu", and quietly reversed the balance of public opinion when she first got married?
Although a wealthy family has a set of aesthetic standards for choosing a daughter-in-law, it is by no means a "metaphysics" that ordinary people intuitively think of looking at from their appearance alone. In the context of the new era, it is no longer just the cliché kind of personality that is tranquil and knowledgeable, and the husband and son know how to measure.
If you pay a little attention, you can find that women who have the following two commonalities can not only live a good life, but also stand in their in-laws' house.
It is not so much that they are "wangfu", it is better to say that they have strong energy, and they can bring a good magnetic field wherever they go.
1. Hold your breath
To put it a little bigger, it's a long-termist.
The fourth wife's attitude towards Xi Mengyao has taken a 180-degree turn, not overnight, but has been brewing for several years.
What has happened over the years? Cross-cut a few clips for everyone to feel.
When they were in love, Xi Mengyao and He Youjun were photographed with a scandal, and the reporter found the fourth wife and asked her if she knew. The fourth wife directly said that she didn't know her, but she only heard that she fell down on an underwear show.
The two of them progressed to the step of talking about marriage, He Youjun only proposed marriage in his own shopping mall, and Xi Mengyao officially announced that they had obtained the certificate on the Internet, and the two did not have a wedding.
This matter may not feel anything if you look at it alone, but on the other hand, the fourth wife just held a super rich "big gift" ceremony for her eldest daughter Chaoying, who is also talking about marriage.
not only gave a 500 million mansion that can be moved in directly, but also 100 million jewelry and various dowry gifts. Before the ceremony, all kinds of preparations were even more busy, and even the pots and pans in my daughter's kitchen were personally helped to buy.
When Xi Mengyao's mother gave birth to her eldest grandson with her son, her status in the family was still very delicate.
At that time, the gambling king had not passed away, and a large family went to celebrate his birthday on his 98th birthday, but He Youjun only brought his son, and Xi Mengyao could only send blessings through the air.
Later, because of the background of the photo, netizens questioned that it was like staying in a hotel, and finally He Youjun's 25th birthday, the young couple got a set of independent mansions "rewarded" by the fourth wife, and it was found that there was only her husband's name on the real estate certificate.
Acceptance and valuation are two different things, He Youjun once broke the news that the fourth wife deliberately made a background adjustment before seeing Xi Mengyao, and made an appointment with a table of Kuotai when they met for the first time, and played mahjong with Xi Mengyao all night, which shows that this door is difficult to enter.
This has to be put aside for some girls, it is likely that the flame has already been sent to the boyfriend's head, or the old lady will quit with a big wave of her hand. Xi Mengyao didn't choose either plan, but chose to go with the flow and wait and see.
Because she knows that trust is a prerequisite for any new relationship. Everyone doesn't understand each other, how can we talk about comparing hearts to hearts?
This is like a paradox in a blind date, obviously just met for the first time, and most of the previous introductions about the other party came from the introducer, and the result was that you had to explain your background income and even the past, which was really embarrassing. Even if you say it, I'm afraid most of it has reservations.
Human nature naturally seeks advantages and avoids disadvantages and hates losses, Xi Mengyao may have known from the beginning that the ideal daughter-in-law of the fourth wife is not herself.
After all, He Youlong, the second-room family, married a 10 billion daughter-in-law, Luo Xiuyin, the granddaughter of Luo Guixiang, the "father of Vitasoy".
And for the huge and complex family relationship of her husband's family, she also needs time to understand, so she simply talks less and does things first.
Thinking about the workplace, isn't it the same thing? The person who is calm is not necessarily the one who has to show her strength at the beginning, she can also be a dark horse.
The most taboo thing is to babble at the beginning, first expose yourself completely, not only make enemies, but also show cowardice.
The fourth wife's start was not good, a Beigu from Guangzhou, starting from the box opener at the bottom of the casino, had to work four jobs a day in the most difficult time, and finally became the last wife of the gambling king step by step.
She once admitted to Lu Yu in an interview that the life of a wealthy family is not easy, and she has sat alone on the side of the street and cried many times. But after crying, she had to stand up and do the affairs handed over to her by the gambling king, one by one.
Now Xi Mengyao, it may be difficult not to let Mrs. Si think of the difficulty of working hard at that time.
2. Retract and release freely
When many people see these four words, they may think of the art of understanding emotions.
I have seen some netizens share their views on falling in love with rich people, focusing on emphasizing emotional stability, in the vernacular, it means that you can advance or retreat, you can bend and stretch, and your joy and anger are invisible.
Is this easy to do? Now everyone values emotional freedom, first of all, it is not easy to do, and I don't like it at all! It's not cost-effective to suffocate your body.
The core of Xi Mengyao's "free retraction" actually lies in knowing how to choose and having emotional intelligence. Of course, these two points also complement each other, and they will not be done in isolation, otherwise it will be difficult to find and achieve their ideal rhythm in life.
In fact, it's not just love and marriage, people make choices all their lives. Xi Mengyao seems to be soft and cute, but in fact, she has already had various experiences on the road to growth.
Xi Mengyao first majored in fashion design and performance at Donghua University, but she knew that she had a height advantage and liked the modeling career. So during the school period, I took advantage of my profession and resources to start participating in various modeling competitions.
From her inception in the industry in 2009 to her successful Haute Couture for Fall/Winter in Paris in 2010, and then to the first Asian model ever featured in a global Givenchy campaign, it is easy to see that she has a clear sense of her abilities and boundaries.
By 2013, many models around her were still looking for various fashion week catwalk opportunities, and she had begun to switch tracks, as the fourth Asian supermodel, appeared on the Victoria's Secret show, and even planned to enter the film and television industry on variety shows.
Regarding the reason for this change, she once said bluntly in an interview: one is that there are no challenges and no learning things, and the other is that she can't bring real benefits to herself, such as increasing fans and expanding influence.
So move quickly, change means risk, but also means more opportunities. Didn't He Youjun also inadvertently meet her in the changing social relationship?
It may not sound credible to say on the Internet that Xi Mengyao can earn $2.5 million a year before marriage, but she began to come out for business 17 days after giving birth, appearing on variety shows, receiving endorsements, doing live broadcasts, and filming TV series...... The fourth wife must be able to see the control of career and money.
That's not all, everyone said that she had changed the reputation of herself and her husband He Youjun by herself, and brought considerable traffic added value to the He family.
He Youjun has changed from the extremely ironic "father of the eldest grandson" to the pure love warrior "Little Golden Potato". And Xi Mengyao's sentence "I am not married to a wealthy family, but love" is no longer a stalk complained by netizens.
There is a saying that is very true, the wealthy never believe in promises, and no matter how nice they sound, they are not as real as "interest bundling".
This point, in fact, was hinted at when the fourth wife met her for the first time. At that time, the "interviewer" aunts at the scene unanimously agreed that Xi Mengyao, a girl with patience, high emotional intelligence, and communication skills.
There are countless episodes on variety shows in the past, anyway, even a person who usually doesn't smile and lacks humor cells can be amused.
Here, Xi Mengyao frantically complained about He Youjun; Over there, He Youjun is very stupid and naïve.
All kinds of strange brain circuit questions and answers make people feel that these two people are very real and vivid, and they are neither fake nor fake.
In fact, there is another detail that many people haven't discovered, that is, Xi Mengyao is a person who is good at expressing himself.
On the one hand, she concentrates on the pursuit of sparkling in her personal field, no matter how she dresses, talks and has a sense of camera, her long-term professional sense of professionalism makes her master of it, and she opens her personal social platform, which is basically all about her own IP management and career dynamics.
On the other hand, at the rear of the family, she is extremely low-key and comfortable.
Her husband He Youjun is the third in line, with an older sister and an older brother, and a younger brother and a younger sister.
One of the obvious benefits of this approach is that it allows people to focus on their strengths. People have so much energy, and many people reverse the two, so they are easy to be unhappy and unable to do anything.
There is a reality that many people may not be willing to admit or accept, that is, financial ability determines the right to speak in the family. Don't believe it, wallets can speak for each of us. You might as well work hard to be excellent first, and then have it generously.
Of course, having said all this, first of all, you have to be physically strong.
As the old saying goes, the weak do not bear the wealth, and the blessing also needs the protection of energy. But anyone who can continue to climb and live out on the long road of life is basically a superhuman with energy. And in the end, any competition is physical strength and mental strength.
We ordinary people don't have to be like Xi Mengyao, who has maintained self-discipline for more than ten years, and we don't have to take on the mission of family members Ding Xingxing. However, good physical and mental quality, optimism and self-confidence in everything, as well as pragmatic concentration and enterprising spirit, will surely accompany us to see the scenery farther.