"Any long-term relationship is anti-human, and it will never last long by relying on feelings"

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In the long course of life, we always long for a long and beautiful relationship, whether it is family, friendship or love. We often think that as long as there is a deep emotional foundation, the relationship can stand the test of time and last. However, when we have experienced the ups and downs of life and seen too many gatherings and dispersions, we may gradually realize a seemingly cruel but extremely true truth: any long-term relationship is anti-human, and it will never last long by relying on feelings.

Human nature is complex and changeable. We are born with an instinct for self-preservation, the pursuit of personal interests, and the satisfaction of personal desires. In a relationship, when these instincts conflict with the needs of the other person, it is often difficult to rely on feelings alone.

Let's start with love. Jack and Amy met and fell in love when they were in college, and they once walked the campus paths together, pouring out each other's dreams and hearts, and the relationship was hot and beautiful. After graduating, they decided to stay in the big city together and work hard. At first, they supported each other and faced the pressures of life together. However, as time goes on, the busyness of work makes Jack often work overtime late into the night, while Amy craves more company. Jack had to sacrifice time with Amy for the sake of career advancement, and Amy felt that she was being ignored in the relationship, and the relationship gradually cracked.

Although they still love each other deeply in their hearts, the self-pursuit and the need for companionship in human nature cannot be balanced. In the end, their relationship gradually wore out under the impact of reality and came to the end of a breakup. This example tells us that relying solely on the passion and romance of love does not guarantee the longevity of a relationship. In love, we need to learn to restrain our desires, think of each other, and even make sacrifices when necessary, which is undoubtedly anti-human.

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Let's look at friendship. Xiao Ming and Xiao Gang are good friends who grew up together, and they have spent countless happy times together. However, when they entered the society, they chose a different career path. Xiao Ming is thriving in the business world, while Xiao Gang is working silently in the art field with a meager income. Gradually, Xiao Ming began to feel that he and Xiao Gang had no common topics together, and he preferred to socialize with his partners in the business field. And Xiao Gang felt that Xiao Ming was becoming more and more utilitarian, no longer the innocent friend he once was.

Although they once had a deep foundation of friendship, the utilitarianism and changes in values in human nature gradually estranged their relationship. In this real society, to maintain a long-term friendship, we need to overcome our utilitarian mentality, respect the choices and values of our friends, and constantly look for common topics and interests, which requires us to put in effort and time, and is a challenge to the laziness and selfishness in human nature.

Family affection seems to be the most stable relationship in our opinion. But in fact, family affection is not completely unaffected by human nature. For example, a pair of brothers get along well while their parents are alive and take care of the family together. However, when the parents pass away and the issue of the distribution of the inheritance is involved, conflicts and disputes may arise between the brothers. One partner may feel that he or she has given more for the family and deserves more of the inheritance, while the other party believes that it should be divided equally. In the face of interests, family affection will also be tested.

To maintain the longevity and harmony of family affection, family members need to learn to empathize and not be swayed by greed and selfishness. When we encounter disagreements, we should focus on family affection and solve problems through communication and compromise, which often requires us to suppress our selfishness, which is also anti-human.

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So why is it said that long-term relationships are anti-human? This is because in a relationship, we need to constantly adjust our behavior and mindset to adapt to the needs and changes of the other person. We must learn to control our emotions and avoid saying hurtful things when we are impulsive; Learn to listen and understand, rather than emphasizing your own opinions. Learn to tolerate each other's shortcomings and mistakes, rather than easily blaming and complaining.

For example, in a couple's relationship, when one partner is stressed and depressed at work, the other partner needs to restrain his impatience and give care and support. This is a challenge for a person who is also exhausted in his own right. In a friendship relationship, when a friend makes a mistake, we need to overcome the inner urge to criticize and accuse and help the other person to correct it in a gentle way. This requires us to go beyond our instinctive reactions and treat each other with reason and kindness.

Long-term relationships also require us to constantly give and give, rather than just thinking about our own gains and losses. In the family, parents selflessly give their time, energy, and money for the growth of their children, even sacrificing their own opportunities for personal development. In a working team, in order to achieve a common goal, members need to collaborate with each other, sometimes at the expense of personal interests for the overall good of the team.

However, human nature tends to tend to pursue ease and comfort, and is not willing to put in too much effort and sacrifice. So, to build and sustain long-lasting relationships, it is necessary to overcome this human weakness and develop the qualities of tenacity, tolerance, and dedication.

So, how can you build and maintain long-lasting relationships? First of all, we need to have a clear self-awareness of our strengths and weaknesses, as well as problems that may arise in the relationship. Only in this way will we be able to adjust our behaviour in time when problems arise.

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Second, learn to communicate. Good communication is the key to solving problems and increasing understanding. In communication, we need to express our thoughts and feelings sincerely, while also respecting the other person's opinion. Through effective communication, we can clear up misunderstandings, reach consensus, and make relationships stronger.

Third, it is necessary to establish common goals and values. When both parties have common pursuits and beliefs, it is easier to unite and overcome difficulties and challenges together. For example, in an entrepreneurial partnership, if everyone is committed to building a business with social impact, then when encountering problems such as tight funds and market competition, they will be more motivated and determined to stick to it together.

At the same time, we must learn to give each other space and freedom. Everyone is an individual and needs to have their own private space and time to grow and develop. Excessive dependence and control will only make the other person feel oppressed and suffocated, which can ruin the relationship.

In addition, gratitude is also an important factor in maintaining a long-lasting relationship. We must learn to be grateful for each other's dedication and companionship, and not take everything for granted. A small gesture of gratitude, such as a thank you or a small gift, can make the other person feel their worth and importance, thus enhancing the intimacy of the relationship.

Long-term relationships do not happen overnight, but require continuous efforts and management over a long period of time. It requires us to overcome the weaknesses in human nature and put in sincerity and sweat. But when we really have such a relationship, we will find that all the effort is worth it.

In the journey of life, we will meet all kinds of people, some are just passing by, while others will accompany us through long years. Those who can stay with us for a long time are precious treasures in our lives. Let us cherish these relationships, take care of them with wisdom and love, and make them stronger and better in the baptism of time.

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Historically, many great friendships and collaborations have attested to the anti-human nature of long-lasting relationships. Marx and Engels, the two revolutionary mentors, fought side by side for many years for the common ideal and cause. They faced pressure and difficulties from all sides, but they always stood firm in each other's beliefs and friendships. In the arduous process of research and creation, they have to overcome their own difficulties and weaknesses in human nature, and selflessly provide support and help to each other. It is this dedication and persistence that transcends human instinct that makes their cooperation a glorious chapter in the history of human thought.

In the business world, there are also many successful partnerships, which also contain the challenge and transcendence of human nature. For example, Steve Jobs and Wozniak co-founded Apple. In the early stages of their business, they faced challenges such as technical difficulties, lack of capital, and market competition. However, with their dedication to their dreams and trust in each other, they continued to overcome difficulties and eventually built Apple into a world-renowned tech giant. In the process, they need to restrain their pride and stubbornness, listen to each other's opinions, and make compromises and sacrifices for the sake of the company's development.

Not only between individuals, but also between teams, organizations and even countries in the long term need to overcome human barriers. In the world of sports, a good sports team requires players to abandon individual heroism, develop team spirit, and train and compete hard for a common goal. In international affairs, in order to achieve peace and development, countries need to respect each other, consult on an equal footing, overcome their own interests and prejudices, and establish long-term and stable cooperative relations.

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In short, any long-term relationship is anti-human, and it can never last long by relying on feelings. This is not to say that feelings are not important, but to emphasize that on the basis of feelings, we also need to have wisdom, determination, and action to manage and maintain relationships. It is only when we truly recognize this and are willing to put in the effort to achieve it that we can reap those precious and lasting relationships on the path of life that make our lives more fulfilling and meaningful.

In the days to come, may we all be the ones who have the courage and wisdom to build and protect long-term relationships, so that love and warmth will flow forever in our lives. Because, although a long-lasting relationship requires us to contend with the weakness of human nature, in the end it brings happiness and satisfaction that no short-term pleasure can match.