Is marriage the grave of love, or the beginning of happiness? For many people, the answer to this question often depends on one key factor – the mother-in-law relationship.
Have you ever seen those couples who were once as sweet as honey, but eventually turned against each other because of the conflict between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? Such examples abound, which is embarrassing.
There is a mother-in-law first, and then there is a daughter-in-law, this saying expresses the complex nature of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. An open-minded and generous mother-in-law can make the marriage of her son and daughter-in-law like a fish in water, and the whole big family will be harmonious. On the contrary, if the mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law as a thorn in the eye and a thorn in the flesh, and makes it difficult and suppresses her everywhere, just to show her authority, then the family is destined to never have peace.
Let's take a look at the story of Xiao Luo and Xiao Xu. The couple should have enjoyed a sweet and happy married life, but fell into the abyss of pain because of the conflict between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Xiao Luo and Xiao Xu have been married for many years and have a lovely son. On the surface, they are a happy family. But in fact, Xiao Luo is frowning every day and has a lot of worries.
The days after marriage are as plain as water, and Xiao Luo is also content. However, family conflicts are like a time bomb that can detonate their marriage at any time. This is not just the so-called seven-year itch, but a silent family war.
Xiao Xu, who was once gentle and virtuous, has now become irritable and irritable. Not only did she speak ill of her, but she even picked up a rolling pin and beat Xiao Luo. Can you imagine what kind of desperation this is?
Xiao Luo knew that his wife had been depressed for a long time, and in order to save the marriage that was on the verge of breakdown, he invited a mediator. He hopes that with the help of professionals, he can resolve his wife's knot and regain the sweetness of the past.
When the mediator came to their home, Xiao Xu finally poured out the pain in his heart. It turned out that the fuse that she used a rolling pin to beat her husband was actually a problem with the child's education.
The cause of the incident seems to be insignificant: the child mispronounced a word while reading an extracurricular book, but the husband ignored it. Xiao Xu thinks that this will encourage the bad habit of carelessness in children. She reminded her husband a few words, but she didn't expect that her husband not only didn't take it seriously, but told the children that they didn't need to study anymore and went out to play together.
This scene completely ignited Xiao Xu's long-pent-up anger. She had a big quarrel with her husband, and when she lost control of her emotions, she even slapped her husband in the face, and finally picked up a rolling pin and hit her husband violently.
Why, you may ask, can a seemingly peaceful woman suddenly become so violent? The answer lies in her relationship with her mother-in-law.
It turned out that Xiao Luo was a native of Nanyang, and in order to pursue a better life, he and his brother came to Zhengzhou to work hard. The two sons have settled in Zhengzhou, and Xiao Luo's mother is naturally worried. The eldest son's child has grown up and does not need to be taken care of by the elderly, so the mother-in-law proposed to come to Xiao Luo's house to help take care of the child.
At first, Xiao Xu welcomed the arrival of her mother-in-law. However, after the mother-in-law came, she ran to the eldest brother's house twice in three days. This made Xiao Xu feel very uncomfortable: I obviously said that I was here to help me take care of the children, why did I run to my eldest brother's house all day long?
What makes Xiao Xu even more unacceptable is that her mother-in-law is still two-faced. In front of Xiao Luo and Xiao Xu, her mother-in-law always praised Xiao Xu for her ability. But behind the scenes, the mother-in-law kept saying bad things about Xiao Xu.
Once, Xiao Xu overheard her mother-in-law chatting with her sisters through the monitoring at home, and her mother-in-law scolded her for being shameless and other unpleasant things, and scolded her for an hour! Can you imagine Xiao Xu's mood at that time?
Xiao Xu questioned her mother-in-law on the spot, but her mother-in-law avoided answering. What's even more infuriating is that her husband Xiao Luo is indifferent to this!
This is not an isolated case. A few days later, the mother-in-law told her sister that Xiao Xu was lazy and would only call her. Xiao Xu couldn't hold back any longer, and asked her mother-in-law what she was dissatisfied with in person. But the mother-in-law pretended to be stupid, but she refused to tell the truth.
You say, how can such a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship be harmonious?
What's even more infuriating is that once when Xiao Xu and Xiao Luo were arguing, her mother-in-law actually took her mobile phone to record it on the side! When asked about this, the mother-in-law flatly denied it, saying that she was just patting the plate on the floor. Isn't this kind of behavior adding fuel to the fire?
Faced with the mediator's questioning, the mother-in-law chose to remain silent again. Xiao Luo chimed in and said that he had quarreled with his mother over what she had done. But her mother just refused to say the reason why she was dissatisfied with Xiao Xu.
Xiao Luo guessed that his mother might be worried that she would not be able to restrain Xiao Xu, so she repeatedly sabotaged at home. Hearing her son say this, the mother-in-law immediately denied it: I didn't!
But facts speak louder than words. The mediator pointed out the fact that the mother-in-law did insult her daughter-in-law many times, but the mother-in-law avoided the important and said: I hope you two are good now, and I have also said to your brother that your family will be the main thing in the future.
This attitude of shirking responsibility will only make the contradictions more intense. Xiao Xu recalled another shocking incident: once she asked her mother-in-law why she was talking ill of her behind her back, and her mother-in-law screamed out, and then began to slap herself, until the corners of her mouth were bleeding and she was lying on the ground. This kind of extreme behavior can't help but make people doubt the psychological state of the mother-in-law.
In the face of various accusations, the mother-in-law has always refused to tell the real reason. Until the mediator severely criticized her: as a mother-in-law, you have to respect your daughter-in-law first, and your daughter-in-law will respect you. Now that the words are spoken and the contradictions are resolved, the family can be better.
Finally, the mother-in-law told the truth: she was not satisfied with Xiao Xu because Xiao Xu was three years older than Xiao Luo!
Hearing this ridiculous reason, Xiao Xu couldn't help but retort: Aren't you also three years older than your father-in-law? Why can't I be three years older than my husband?
It turned out that this mother-in-law and daughter-in-law war, which had lasted for many years, actually originated for such a ridiculous reason!
This story begs us to ask: Why do some women become resentful women in marriage? The answer may lie in the pressures of married life, the inaction of the husband and the deliberate harassment of the mother-in-law. The daily chores wear down their patience and enthusiasm, and in the end they can only vent their frustration with noise and complaining.
Mother-in-law used to be a daughter-in-law, shouldn't she know the difficulties of being a daughter-in-law best? Why should women be embarrassed by women? Why do some mothers-in-law always look down on their daughters-in-law?
In this case, Xiao Xu is three years older than her husband and has a lower education level than her husband, so she is already worried about it. Her mother-in-law's opposition exacerbated her inferiority complex. With a straightforward personality, she likes to speak directly, but she didn't expect her mother-in-law to be two-faced, which made her difficult to accept. The long-pent-up of negative emotions eventually led to her outburst.
Fortunately, with the help of the mediator, Xiao Luo and Xiao Xu's relationship overcame these obstacles and avoided the breakdown of a family. Xiao Luo promised to take on the responsibility of the head of the family in the future and no longer let his wife be wronged. Xiao Xu also decided not to pursue the past and grievances.
The lesson of this story is that marriage requires both partners to work together, not to blame and complain. The harmony of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law requires mutual understanding, respect and tolerance.
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