In life, people are multifaceted, and some people seem to be kind, but their hearts are full of calculations.
People's hearts are complex and unpredictable, and you can never guess what others will do next, so you can only be cautious.
Learn to observe and judge, spend more time to insight, even if you have fewer friends, and don't talk to people at will.
Although people behave differently, there are certain patterns that can help us better identify others.
Usually, people with the following characteristics hide a knife in their smile, and it is recommended that you stay away.
There is a difference between the inside and the outside: it seems to be enthusiastic to help, but in fact, it is watching the fire from the other side
In a small village, there is a respected old man, Uncle Zhao.
On the surface, he is very attentive to the affairs of the villagers, and everyone respects him quite a lot.
Once, villager Xiao Li's house suffered a fire and suffered heavy losses.
Uncle Zhao arrived as soon as possible, comforted Xiao Li, and said that he would do his best to help.
But in reality, he was just putting on a show and didn't do anything practical to help at all.
He watched Xiao Li anxious from the sidelines, but he was secretly glad that the fire did not affect him.
When you are in a difficult situation and someone seems to be eager to lend a helping hand, don't rush to be grateful, but carefully distinguish whether the other person is genuinely helping or watching from the sidelines.
In today's society, some colleagues actively help you find a way when you make a mistake at work, but in fact they are waiting to see you laugh; Some relatives say they want to help when you are in financial difficulties, but they don't take action.
From a moral point of view, this is a trampling on goodness. Once this culture prevails, it will be difficult for those who really need help to get effective support.
Devilish in heart: While drinking and talking, while harboring suspicions
In a business party, Mr. Wang and Mr. Li met.
The two talked happily and raised their glasses frequently, as if they hated to see each other late.
However, Mr. Wang had his own little calculations in his heart, he wanted to use Mr. Li's network resources to seek greater benefits for himself.
In many film and television works, we often see such a scene: toast as a sign.
For example, in ancient times, a certain general, in order to seize military power, held a banquet to invite his opponent. When a glass is raised, the ambushed soldiers will rush forward.
Don't think that the people who talk and laugh with you at the wine table are true friends. Perhaps, people with bad intentions are among them, and they are drinking with you while they are thinking about how to harm you.
The toast is meant to confuse your mind and make you let your guard down. It's part of their conspiracy.
As the saying goes: "There are fewer than a thousand glasses of wine for a confidant, but you must leave three points to be sober." "It's a reminder to drink in moderation and, more importantly, to keep a clear head in case we don't get calculated.
It's even more shameful to use your hands and feet in the wine and the like.
People can't do without socializing, but they can't be confused by socializing, and don't be swayed by the people in social interactions.
People who are overly enthusiastic and proactive may often have hidden ulterior motives, and the specific situation is elusive.
Capricious: close to the face like a family, and hurt people with hidden arrows in the back.
With the deepening of cooperation, Mr. Wang and Mr. Li have established a seemingly deep friendship.
Mr. Wang has no reservations about Mr. Li and shares his trade secrets and resources.
But Mr. Li was behind the scenes, quietly cooperating with others, trying to squeeze Mr. Wang's company.
To outsiders, they are like brothers and work together seamlessly.
But in fact, Mr. Li's betrayal is quietly going on.
From "feelings" to "feelings", although there is a difference of one word, there is a world of difference.
Some people are extremely enthusiastic when they meet for the first time, as if they have been old friends for many years; When they meet again, they are called brothers and sisters, and they are intimate.
When you fully trust the other person, the other person's hidden arrow may be fired.
People who care about you may exchange their superficial enthusiasm for your sincerity. Once the balance of feelings is out of balance, the person who is hurt the most is often the one who gives the most sincerity.
How to protect yourself when you meet someone who hides a knife in a smile? Impulsive confrontation is not advisable, after all, your strength may not be as good as the other party.
The ancients said: "It is difficult to draw the skin and bones of a tiger, and you don't know the face but not the heart." ”
It is necessary to be vigilant deep down. The closer the relationship, the more important it is to keep an eye on it.
On the basis of vigilance, adopt effective coping strategies.
First, they are quietly estranged, and they can't afford to hide.
Keep your distance, and it will be difficult for the other party's conspiracy to succeed. Staying away is a kind of self-protection and a wise move.
The second is to get along calmly and calmly, and see through but not say thoroughly.
Those who cannot stay away from him stay quietly in his circle, observing without expressing a position. Your silence will not cause the other party to resent you, and you will also buy yourself more time to think and respond.
The third is to communicate superficially and without revealing their own details.
Don't let people easily see through your details and hide your true strengths, plans, weaknesses, etc. Others can't see through you, so they naturally don't dare to attack you easily.
When people walk in the world, they would rather walk alone than trust others.