Gen-la Hongyi: As long as you stay calm, it will be others who will collapse, and not getting angry is the deepest wisdom
In a complex world, we are often plagued by various emotions, such as anger, anxiety, and loss...... They swell like an undercurrent, striking our hearts from time to time. However, when we calm down and listen to the teachings of Venerable Hongyi, we will discover a simple but profound truth: as long as you stay calm, it is someone else who will break down. Not getting angry is not only an attitude towards life, but also the deepest wisdom.
Unsatisfactory in life, nine times out of ten. When faced with a challenge, a dilemma, or an offense from someone else, our first reaction is often anger. Anger can cause us to lose our minds and even make impulsive decisions. But Gen-la Hongyi told us that anger doesn't solve the problem, it only complicates it.
On the contrary, if we can remain calm and not be swayed by emotions, then we will be able to see the essence of the problem more clearly and find the best way to solve it.
Calmness is a strength. It allows us to keep our heads above water and not be distracted by our emotions when faced with difficult situations. This power is not innate, but requires us to constantly cultivate it in our daily lives. When we encounter something unsatisfactory, do not rush to vent our emotions, but learn to take a deep breath, calm down, and think about the root of the problem and the solution. In this way, we can gradually cultivate a temperament that is not alarmed and undisturbed in the face of danger.
Calmness is a kind of wisdom. It makes us understand that anger and quarrels don't change anything, they only keep us in a more passive situation. And when we stay calm, we are better able to control our emotions and words and actions, and avoid making bad decisions on the spur of the moment. This wisdom allows us to be more relaxed and comfortable in interpersonal interactions.
So, how can you stay calm in life? First, we need to learn to control our emotions. When encountering unsatisfactory things, do not rush to vent your emotions, but learn to use reason to analyze the causes and consequences of the problem.
Secondly, we need to maintain a calm mind. Don't pay too much attention to other people's evaluations and opinions, but learn to pay attention to your own inner needs and feelings. When we are able to maintain a calm mind, we are able to deal with problems more calmly and rationally.
At the same time, we also need to learn to empathize. When we encounter problems, we should not blindly consider the problem from our own point of view, but learn to think from the other person's point of view. In this way, we are able to better understand the other person's thoughts and needs and thus find the best way to solve the problem.
In addition, we need to learn to be tolerant and inclusive. In interpersonal communication, it is inevitable to encounter some unpleasant things. If we can learn to be tolerant and inclusive, we will be able to deal better with these contradictions and problems. When we are able to treat others with a tolerant heart, we can reduce a lot of unnecessary quarrels and conflicts.
Finally, we need to learn to let go. When we encounter something that cannot be changed, don't be too entangled and clinging, but learn to let go. Letting go does not mean giving up, but it means that we have to face the reality with a peaceful mind and accept the facts that cannot be changed. When we can learn to let go, we will be able to face the challenges and dilemmas in life more calmly.
In conclusion, staying calm is both a wisdom and a strength. It makes us more calm and comfortable in the face of difficult situations. When we are able to deal with problems with a calm heart, we will find that it is often others who break down and not ourselves. Let's learn to stay calm! Let not being angry be our deepest wisdom!