"When couples get along, the 4 moments when a woman wants to break up the most"

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2024-06-28 07:40Emotional field creators

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Realizing that he is just a dispensable "tool man" for him

At what point did you decide to break up with your boyfriend?

A woman's message:

"After 2 years of love, my body has not recovered well, and I am unexpectedly pregnant; After thinking about it, he decided to give up having a child, and when he went to the hospital to give birth, he was playing with his mobile phone the whole time, playing games and chatting with people; Seeing me dragging my tired body out of the ward, he didn't even take the initiative to come and help me. On the way home from the hospital, I sent him a breakup message. ”

One of the greatest desperations in intimacy:

He is the one who brings you pain, and he is like an outsider, you bear all your suffering, and he is happy alone.

You are just a dispensable tool to him, he is attentive to you when he needs you, and cold to you when he doesn't need you.

Women are extremely sensitive in their relationships, and their sixth sense is very accurate;

She perceives your coldness and won't say anything;

She senses that you are a little distant from her, and she will pretend to be confused.

When she's had enough of the disappointments and you've done something that chills her, she'll make up her mind to leave you.

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No matter what you say to him, it will be "perfunctory" in exchange

You say, "I have a stomachache".

He said, "Then you drink more hot water."

Actually, what you want to say is:

"We haven't seen each other for half a month, do you want to see each other, have a meal at a time, and watch a movie."

He didn't take the initiative to mention it, so you swallowed it in embarrassment.

There is a poem in "Love Letter Across the Ocean":

"I long to see you, but remember, I'm not going to ask to see you.

It's not because of pride, you know I have no pride in your presence;

It's because it only makes sense for us to meet when you want to see me. ”

A woman's state in a relationship is like a spring.

The harder you work, the more indifferent you are, the more ferocious she will bounce back;

The gentler and more tolerant you are, the more gentle she will give back to you.

The moment when a girl wants to break up is probably this:

I wanted to talk to you alone, but seeing your cold response and your perfunctory attitude, all her enthusiasm was instantly washed away.

What does that feel like?

Someone told you in advance: I have a big surprise for you.

When the surprise came, I found that the other party had drawn a big pie for you.

Not responding, not being seen, will only make the girl more and more silent in front of you.

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When she is always forced, controlled

A healthy relationship must be built on the basis of respect, tolerance and understanding.

It is harmony and difference, and it is by no means possession;

It is relative possession and absolute freedom, which in no way means that you are each other's "exclusive goods".

In "The Story of Roses", Fang Xiewen's feelings for roses have many extreme details.

For example: secretly refused the company's recruitment invitation for her, asked her to give up her job, controlled her social circle, and even wanted to control all her finances.

How do you feel when faced with such a partner?

It's depressing, it's suffocating, you're like a bird in a cage.

Your every move, word and deed is influenced by him;

He tries to impose his will on you, preferably in captivity.

Extreme possessiveness, jealousy, makes you lose yourself.

In this regard, men and women are actually very similar.

When one's boundaries, thoughts, space, and freedom are completely invaded by the other person, the desire to escape arises.

The premise of loving each other should be to respect each other's boundaries.

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Realize that being with him is getting worse and worse

Before falling in love, she loved to laugh;

After falling in love, her face was full of sadness, and there was no light in her eyes.

Before falling in love, she was confident and cheerful;

After falling in love, she was gloomy, depressed, and her emotions were always in a low-energy state.

Before falling in love, she was very ambitious and loved her life very much;

After falling in love, she got worse and worse, and she also lost her circle of friends.

There are all kinds of signs that she did not get any benefits in this relationship, but made herself worse and worse.

When a woman "wakes up" in a bad relationship and no longer falls in love, it is the moment when she decisively withdraws away.

Love should nourish rather than devour, and it should be to achieve each other rather than drag them back.

What does the top state of love look like?

are two ordinary people, with the most pious heart and the greatest energy, to get better with each other;

It is a state of mutual god-making, a 1+1>2 relationship, not a state of 1+1=-1.

Topic:

At what point did you most want to break up with the other person?

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