Returning Jun Mingzhu to tears, hating to meet when he is not married, ...... - Zhang Ji "The Song of the Festival Women"
Keeping a distance should be the first lesson to learn when friends of the opposite sex get along.
Of course, if both men and women are already in love, they can naturally have more intimate actions, and no one will raise objections.
But there are always some people who can't tell the boundary between friendship and love, and show mercy everywhere in the name of friendship, making the original pure friendship extremely embarrassing. In the end, you can't be lovers who are happy with each other, and you can't be honest friends, hurting others and hurting yourself to increase your love debt.
That's why I said that friends of the opposite sex must not lose their sense of proportion when getting along, especially when both men and women have families, and daily interactions should be more cautious.
You must know that no matter how good the relationship between the opposite sex is, don't do these 4 things casually, otherwise the friendship will "turn sour"!
01
Go out for a drink together
Many people think that alcohol can enhance feelings or vent emotions, but alcohol can also affect your judgment, weaken your willpower, and make you unable to be too rational when thinking about things.
Sometimes, we may encounter something that is in a bad mood, or we especially want to find someone to accompany us, and then we choose to have a drink with friends of the opposite sex and talk to each other.
It's okay to drink, drink in moderation, drink a few glasses less, just chat with two people, don't get drunk and don't have any consciousness.
After all, sometimes when you get drunk, you may lose your basic judgment and make you extraordinarily emotional and impulsive in doing things.
In case something crosses the line between the two of you because you are drunk, it will not be easy to face when you wake up.
02
Flirting with the opposite sex
Jokes should be measured, measured, some things can be said, and some too ambiguous jokes should not be said.
Even if your relationship is good enough to make any jokes, it's best not to do such things as ambiguity, so as not to cause unnecessary trouble for yourself.
For a married person, ambiguous words are only suitable for saying to their lover.
Maybe you think it's just a joke, but not everyone likes to make jokes, and if someone cares, then your relationship will become very blurred, and in the end it may not be so pure.
Such an inexplicable and unclear relationship will bring you a lot of trouble, and for a married person, such trouble will not only bring damage to your family, but also have a bad impact on your reputation.
03
Excessive concern
In life, friends of the opposite sex should not be overly concerned about each other, so as to develop a sense of dependence on each other.
Some people may ask, "Is it okay to just care?" ”
Of course. Friendship is also one of the interpersonal relationships, and it also needs care and companionship as fertilizer to water the seeds of friendship, only in this way will your friendship last.
But the problem is that there must be a degree of care for the opposite sex, which can stay in the care and help between friends, but must not be "overly concerned".
Many people unconsciously shout at friends of the opposite sex every day, good morning and good night, and care excessively, which is completely confusing the relationship between friendship and love, and the final outcome can only be "deterioration" unconsciously.
04
Pour out your emotional distress
Everyone's feelings are not all smooth sailing, and there are always twists and turns in love, and there are some unavoidable problems.
Once they encounter troubles and concerns, many people want to confide in their friends for comfort and emotional guidance.
Not hiding things in your heart is very beneficial to a person's physical and mental health, but the person to confide in must be chosen appropriately, even if it is a friend with a good relationship with the opposite sex, try to complain as little as possible about your love and marriage.
After all, the speaker may be unintentional, but the listener is not unintentional, once the listening party has pity and the speaker is dependent, then the relationship between each other may not be so simple in the future.
Therefore, try not to appeal to friends of the opposite sex about your emotional distress. If you can play together and talk about being together, pay attention to the distance and scale between each other, and you must not easily lose your friendship.
05
Emotional message
The reason why it is difficult to have "pure friendship" when getting along with the opposite sex is because it is difficult to grasp the distance and scale.
It is difficult for an ambiguous relationship to have results in the end, since as a friend of the opposite sex, you should get along generously, and it is most appropriate to have a ruler and an inch.
It is difficult to meet real friends in a person's life, since you have met it, you should cherish it, especially between men and women, if you want to maintain a long-term friendship, you should grasp the balance, once you cross the line, then you will lose not only a lover, but also a like-minded friend, regret is too late.
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