"A life of overexertion is a disaster"
In life, we often go all out and give too much in pursuit of a certain goal. However, this overexertion can bring a range of problems.
From the perspective of physical and mental health, continuous overexertion can lead to physical and mental exhaustion and stress, which can lead to various physical and psychological diseases, such as anxiety, depression, insomnia, high blood pressure, etc.
When it comes to relationships, overexertion can make us become too self-centered, ignoring the feelings and needs of others, leading to alienation from family and friends.
In career development, excessive pursuit of success and excessive effort may make us lose enjoyment of the process, and once we encounter setbacks, it is easy to fall into deep frustration and self-doubt.
Moreover, overexertion often means a lack of balance and flexibility, making it difficult to quickly adjust strategies and mindsets when circumstances change.
In short, life requires hard work and struggle, but it is also necessary to know moderation and maintain balance, so as to avoid the "disaster" caused by excessive exertion and truly achieve a fulfilling and happy life.
A story of a green sea turtle
"Cafe at the End of the World" tells the story of a green sea turtle, and the book says that the turtle's wisdom is that it will never compete with the reverse wave.
The turtle's movements follow the movement of the sea, and when the waves are pushed against the shore and the turtle travels in the opposite direction, the turtle will float up to conserve its strength, just to keep itself in place.
When the waves and the turtle are going in the same direction, the turtle will paddle forward regularly.
Follow the rules of the water, not swim blindly forward. The turtle watcher in the book said that I couldn't chase the turtle because I was paddling the whole time, regardless of the direction of the water.
Some people seem to be working hard, but they are busy all day long without yielding. It is likely that they have been paddling the whole time, regardless of the direction of the water.
The harder you push, the more tired you feel. When the waves are in the same direction as you, you don't have enough strength to move forward.
"Learn to stop and not fight against the reverse wave"
In the journey of life, we often encounter various "reverse waves", which may be insurmountable difficulties, unfavorable situations, or people and things that go against our will.
If we blindly fight against these reverse waves, it may consume a lot of our time, energy and resources, and may even cause us to lose our way in the fight and forget our original intention.
Learning to stop is a wise choice. It gives us the opportunity to re-examine the situation, analyze our strengths and weaknesses, and think about strategies to deal with them. Stopping doesn't mean giving up, it's waiting for a more opportune moment, building up strength, and coping with it in a more effective way.
When we no longer blindly fight against the reverse wave, we are able to reduce unnecessary losses and frustrations, and avoid leaving ourselves in a situation of exhaustion and despair.
At the same time, stopping is also a kind of self-protection, so that our minds can rest and maintain a good attitude to face the challenges ahead.
Here are some concrete examples of how you have learned to stop in your life:
1. Career development: A salesperson feels extremely anxious and exhausted after failing to meet their performance goals for several months in a row. At this point, he chose to stop and stop blindly visiting more customers, but instead took the time to analyze his sales strategy and customer needs. Through reflection, he found that he had been focusing on the features of the product being marketed and ignoring the actual problems of the customer. After adjusting the strategy, the performance has improved significantly.
2. Studying: A student who is preparing for an important exam feels more and more anxious when he studies for long hours every day but does not work well.
So he stopped, no longer forcing himself to continue to study hard, but spent the day relaxing and reviewing his previous learning methods.
He found that he was just doing questions and memorizing mechanically, and he didn't really understand the knowledge points. After that, he changed his learning method to focus on understanding and summarizing, and his grades improved significantly.
3. Relationships: A couple, after frequent arguments, decide to stop and stop pointing fingers and arguing with each other. They give each other a moment to calm down and reflect on their own problems in the relationship. In the end, they resolved the conflict through calm communication, and their feelings became deeper.
4. Health management: A person who works at high intensity for a long time has health problems. He realized that he could not go on like this, so he stopped working and began to have a regular schedule, eat a reasonable diet and exercise properly. After a period of adjustment, the body gradually recovered, and the work efficiency was higher.
5. Investment and financial management: An investor has been losing money in the stock market in a row, and he is emotionally trying to increase his investment in trying to recover his losses. But in the end, he chose to stop and no longer blindly follow the herd, but to learn financial knowledge and analyze market trends. When you are fully prepared, you should invest cautiously and gradually turn losses into profits.
Bi Shumin said such a sentence in the book "The Soul under the Starlight", everything that is natural is slow, the sun rises little by little, and sets little by little; Flowers bloom one by one, petals fall; The rice ripens very slowly.
Recommend some books that don't overexert yourself:
• "The World Is Worth It" :
Author Tsuneko Nakamura, one of Japan's oldest psychiatrists, has turned her 90 years of life wisdom into six chapters, sincere mottos on work, love, relationships, happiness, death, and other topics, telling readers not to overdo the pursuit of perfection and to accept life frankly every day.
• "Life doesn't have to be too hard" :
Written by Eckhart Tolley, this book points out that life requires effort, but not too much effort, and that you need to learn to transcend your own thoughts, exist in the moment, and find balance in your life.
• "Brain Gym" :
Author Anders Hansen explains how to improve brain health through exercise, and provides training advice for anxiety, stress, concentration, depression, memory, aging and other issues to help readers improve their physical and mental health without overexerting themselves.
I'm Oxygen, a middle-aged girl who grew up with you.