Love is like a cup of tea, ordinary people taste fragrant, but it is difficult to distinguish the quality of tea.
Sincerity and hypocrisy are often staggered in that steaming moment, which makes people confused.
Many times, women always think that the good of a man is all that is love.
But there are some things, a man doesn't give you, no matter how good he is to you, that's also acting, if you want to see through the fog of love, you have to taste it with your heart, use time to understand, don't be fooled by sugar-coated shells.
1. Time, only for yourself, not for you
Time is the most direct way to test a person's mind, and people who treat you sincerely will always squeeze out that little bit of precious time for you.
I will accompany you to go shopping, accompany you to do nail art, accompany you to eat snacks, and accompany you to do many, many things.
If a man just says that he is good to you, but he is not willing to spend time on you, then this good will inevitably seem a little empty.
Momoko and her boyfriend have been dating for a year, and her boyfriend always says that he loves him deeply, but whenever Momoko wants her boyfriend to spend more time with him, he always has all kinds of excuses to shirk it.
He said that he was busy with work, had to work overtime, had to socialize, in short, he just didn't have time.
Later, Peaches understood that this was just him evading, and his insincerity was revealed.
The man who loves you, the man in his heart, will be more important than anything.
He is not willing to let you alone, he is not willing to let you down, and naturally there will be no situation where time is never enough.
Second, it is difficult to trust you, and it is not accepted by you
If there is no trust in love, the edifice of love will be shaky.
In reality, many men are always suspicious of women, and always feel that there is something behind her.
Just like my colleague Yang Fanfan's boyfriend before, every time she chatted with a male colleague, her boyfriend was like knocking over a vinegar jar, and his face was longer than the Great Wall.
At a department party, when she returned a little late, her boyfriend "interrogated" her and secretly checked her phone.
After a long time, my colleague really couldn't stand it, as if he was put on a "tight spell" and couldn't move, so he simply broke up.
True love should be honest between two people, you trust me, I trust you, and everyone is comfortable.
A man who is sincere to you will inevitably give you trust and will not make you feel constrained.
And those men who are always suspicious and suspicious, to be honest, their love may really be just "lip service".
In love, you can be jealous, but it shouldn't be jealousy without trusting at all.
Because it means that, deep down in his heart, he doesn't treat you as the closest person, and naturally he can't really accept you.
3. His "future" does not belong to you
The future is a topic that every relationship can't avoid, and whoever falls in love will think about the future.
Unless, that man doesn't love you and doesn't want you in his future.
My friend and her boyfriend have been dating for two years, and they started talking in college, and they seem to be in a stable relationship, but as soon as the friend asks something like "What will our home be like in the future?" and other similar questions, the other party is vague.
Two days ago it was their second anniversary, and her friend had ordered a bouquet of flowers and made a table of meals to celebrate, and she really wanted to know what they were going to do in the future.
She took this opportunity to ask her boyfriend, but he said, "We are still young now, and no one can say what will happen in the future." ”
Yes, no one can say for sure what will happen in the future, and this is not the first time my boyfriend has said it.
When her boyfriend said it a year ago, she thought the other party was quite reasonable, after all, they had just graduated at the time.
But now he still says so, and now there is almost no shadow of her on her boyfriend's social media, and his circle of friends never mentions the relationship between the two.
What makes her even more chilling is that her boyfriend always deliberately avoids talking about her when he plays with his friends, as if she is a secret in his life.
A man who is reluctant to talk to you about the future, his good may only be temporary.
Because in his heart, you may be just a short-term partner in his life, not the one who will walk hand in hand with him for the rest of his life.
Therefore, he is not willing to give you any promises about the future, nor is he willing to work for your future.
My friend was very disappointed, he didn't eat at that time, ran out of the house directly, and then proposed to break up.
The false "good" will eventually be shattered, and there is often only a thin line between sincerity and hypocrisy.
A man's goodness can be acted, but whether he has you in his heart or not depends on whether he gives you the above things.
Women, we have to look at the essence through the phenomenon, and don't be fooled by the superficial good.
When you learn to distinguish between the true and the false, and keep the true from the false, you can find the person who is truly worthy of entrusting your life.