The mystery of men's popularity
My name is Lin Hao, I was born in an ordinary urban family, and my parents are ordinary workers. From an early age, I knew that I wasn't the kind of child who was eye-catching, ordinary-looking, introverted, and had only average-to-average grades. But I always believe that everyone has their own unique charm, and it just takes time to discover and show it.
My youth, like most people, was full of longing and yearning for the opposite sex. However, the reality is always cruel. On campus, I am always an unknown existence, watching my friends around me find their favorite objects one by one, but I am always alone.
I used to try to change myself, learn various social skills, and try to improve my appearance. I bought fashionable clothes, got a trendy haircut, and even learned to put on makeup. But no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't seem to attract the attention of the girls. I began to wonder, is it true that I don't have the charm that makes girls feel excited?
Until one day, I met her - Xiaoya. Xiaoya is a beautiful and gentle girl, and her smile is always so warm. We met at a club event, and I was a little surprised that she offered to talk to me. From that day on, we began to communicate frequently.
I gradually found that Xiaoya's attitude towards me seemed to be a little special. She often took the initiative to chat with me and cared about my life and studies. I felt so blessed that I thought I had finally found true love. However, just as I was immersed in this happiness, a sudden turn of events shattered my illusions.
One day, Xiaoya suddenly told me that she already had a boyfriend. I was stunned, my heart full of loss and unwillingness. I asked her why she had been so nice to me before, and she was silent for a while, then said, "Actually, I've always considered you a good friend. I am very touched by your kindness and sincerity, but my feelings for you are only friendship, not love. ”
At that moment, I felt my heart being torn apart. I realized that I had been deceiving myself all along, thinking that if I tried to change myself, I could win the hearts of girls. However, true love is not won by appearance and skill.
I began to reflect on my past and why I couldn't get the attention of girls all the time. I think back to my experience with girls, and I find that I always care too much about my performance, afraid of rejection, afraid of being ridiculed. This mentality makes me seem reserved and unnatural when interacting with girls, and I can't show my true self.
I realized that if you want to win the hearts of girls, you must first learn to be yourself. Only by truly showing your personality and charm can you attract people who are in touch with your heart. I started to try to let go of my worries and worries and be more natural and authentic when I was in a relationship with girls.
After a period of hard work, I gradually found the right way to socialize with girls. I no longer deliberately pursue changes in appearance and skills, but pay more attention to inner cultivation and quality improvement. I began to pay attention to my interests and strengths, and strive to become a person with connotation and thought.
As time went on, I gradually noticed that the girls around me began to take the initiative to socialize with me. They appreciate my sincerity and kindness, and they like how easy and comfortable they feel when they are with me. I feel very happy and fulfilled because I have finally found my worth.
However, just when I thought I had found happiness, an unexpected piece of news shattered my peaceful life again. Xiaoya told me that she broke up with her boyfriend. She came to me in the hope that I would be able to comfort her. I looked at her haggard face and sad eyes, and my heart was filled with mixed emotions.
I don't know what I'm supposed to do. On the one hand, I still have feelings for Xiaoya; On the other hand, I also knew that I couldn't repeat the mistakes of the past, and I couldn't get caught up in that one-sided emotional entanglement again. I took a deep breath and tried to keep myself calm and sane as much as I could.
I told Xiaoya what I really thought. I told her that I had always regarded her as a good friend and hoped that she would be able to come out of the shadow of falling out of love soon. Xiaoya was silent for a moment after listening to my words, then nodded and said, "Thank you, Lin Hao, you have always been a very good friend." ”
From that day on, my relationship with Xiaoya became deeper and purer. We supported and encouraged each other and had many wonderful times in each other's company. And I have gradually come to understand a truth: true love is not won by pursuit and change, but requires the heart-to-heart communication and mutual understanding of both parties.
Looking back, I realize that I used to put in a lot of effort to pursue the popularity of girls, but in the end I realized that I had gone in the wrong direction. Now I understand that true charm is not external grooming and skill, but inner sincerity and kindness. Only by truly showing your personality and charm can you attract people who are connected with your heart.
This is my story: a journey of exploration of what it takes for men to be popular with women. I hope that through my experience, I can give some inspiration and help to those who are still struggling with love. Let's all learn to be ourselves, show our true selves, and believe that one day we will find our own happiness.