Author: Wen Qiusheng
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01. Introduction
Marriage is a very important part of life.
If you choose the right person, your future life will be full of flowers, and if you choose the wrong person, you will only be left with bitterness and grievances.
Before choosing a marriage partner, a woman will also examine the man's character and so on. Or deepen your understanding of men through familiar people around you.
In life, there is a kind of man who is very good to everyone around him and has won a good reputation outside. He will also make women feel at ease, thinking that they have found a partner who can be entrusted with their lives.
Actually, it's not.
Women, must not marry a "too good" man, there are words of suffering.
02, a man who is good to everyone, has no sense of boundary
In "Little Days", Gu Jasmine's husband Zhu Jincao is a very kind man.
He is very enthusiastic about people, and when others are in trouble, he will definitely help.
Gao Xiajing and Zhu Jincao's children are in the same kindergarten, and the two know each other because of this.
Once, Gao Xiajing was hit at the entrance of the kindergarten, and Zhu Jincao took the initiative to take her to the hospital. accompanied her for an examination, and his thoughtfulness and thoughtfulness made Gao Xiajing, who was single with a baby, have thoughts about him.
After that, when he met at the gate of the community, Zhu Jincao would take the initiative to take Gao Xiajing for a ride.
Knowing that she was doing live broadcasts, he provided her with technical support and won promotion for her in the company.
Gao Xiajing wanted to firmly grasp this good man, she not only destroyed Gu Jasmine's reputation behind her back.
also deliberately contacted Zhu Jincao in the game, and revealed it to Gu Jasmine, causing a crisis of trust between the two.
In the end, because of Gao Xiajing's sowing discord, Gu Jasmine and Zhu Jincao's relationship had a great crisis. Zhu Jincao also lost his job because of deep emotional disputes, and the family's hearts were scattered.
Some men, it's like a central air conditioner. It's good for everyone and can take care of everyone.
A "too good" man, who gets along with others, has no sense of boundaries and can easily let his wife be wronged.
Men who are good to everyone can easily blur the boundaries of getting along.
It is easy to provoke a woman outside of marriage, and it is easy to plunge the family into turmoil and cause a marital crisis.
And women, because of their insecurity, will become suffering from gains and losses, and they will not feel happy.
03, there is a good reputation outside, and I will call you in every way at home
Balzac said: "The happiness of marriage is not entirely based on illustrious status and property, but on mutual reverence, and the essence of this happiness is humble and unpretentious." ”
There is a kind of man who behaves well on the outside, is very warm-hearted, and is very kind to everyone.
But, that's not necessarily what he really is.
He tends to take off his social mask when he gets home. vent the depression, anger, and dissatisfaction in his heart on the body of the person closest to him.
is very good to outsiders, that is because he knows that his main battlefield is outside of marriage. He needs to maintain his image and needs to pave the way for his career with the help of other people's resources.
When he returned home, he didn't bother to act.
no longer continues to maintain the character of a good man, but calls on his wife in every possible way to find a sense of existence.
He will think that he is working hard for this family, running around outside, and looking at other people's faces. When you return home, you should regain the majesty of the head of the family.
The man is sure that his wife will not leave him easily, so he will let his wife bear his negative emotions and the most real side.
If a woman marries a "good" man with such a big contrast, life will be very hard.
04, "too good" men don't know how to refuse, and they take care of things everywhere
My neighbor Yuan Lan's husband is a good person in everyone's mouth.
If the neighbors wanted to help, he always agreed.
Sometimes, when he helps others do things and contributes, he doesn't want anything in return from others.
Her husband helped others with some things he could, and Yuan Lan wouldn't say anything. But her husband, no matter how big or small the matter is, takes care of it all, which makes her feel very hard.
The husband is a good person everywhere and takes care of things everywhere, and he has no time to take care of the affairs of the family, so he loses them all to her.
She often takes two children alone and can't even eat a mouthful of hot food on time.
Moreover, because her husband likes to do things, the family's money is often consumed inexplicably, and life is very stressful, and life is very hard.
The more a man is too good to others, the less he knows how to refuse.
When others ask him for help, even if he is very embarrassed, he will agree, putting a lot of pressure on himself and his wife.
Marrying a man who will not refuse, a woman is destined to endure a lot of hardships and hardships.
This kind of goodness of men seems to be very "good", but this kind of goodness will become a burden on marriage and family.
Everyone's life is not easy, and they have to bear the responsibilities and pressures of others, life will be very hard, and women will not see hope for the future.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message
When choosing a partner, a woman should have her own standards and requirements and not be misled by the eyes and judgments of others.
A man who is suitable to be a friend and colleague is not necessarily a good man to be a husband.
A man who is "too good" to the people around him does not necessarily treat his wife well.
When you meet someone who is not suitable, learn to say no, and learn to let your relationship stop there, so as not to make your future miserable.
A really good man has a sense of boundaries, knows how to refuse, and does things in a measured manner.
It will not be consumed by others, too dragged down, and can have the time and energy to manage their own life and family.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.