Recently, I read a true and sad little story on the Internet that made me think about women's notions of love.
In this story, the heroine falls in love with the male protagonist for many years. In order to please the male protagonist and win his love, the female protagonist puts in many efforts.
However, in reality, the sacrifices made by the female protagonist are not what the male protagonist really needs. In the end, the male protagonist not only did not respond to the female protagonist's contribution, but even chose someone else in front of the female protagonist.
Just like love, even if you pay hard, if you don't do it properly, it will be difficult to get the corresponding return.
We can clearly see the reason for the heroine's failure, the so-called dedication she made is actually just self-moving. Because of this, she couldn't win the heart of the male protagonist.
Ximei often emphasizes that it is easier to attract a person than to chase a person, just like chasing a cat's tail, the more you chase, the harder it is to reach your goal. In the pursuit of happiness, we need to learn to relax our minds and calmly attract its coming.
When you develop a crush on a man, don't rush to take the initiative. In fact, it takes three steps to get a man's heart touched, and in addition to pleasing and giving, it takes more skills.
01 Amazing first encounter
The first meeting is an important step in building a relationship. Just like when you go to interview for a company, you need to make a strong impression to increase your chances of getting hired. It takes time and effort to go from strangeness to familiarity, but it is a necessary process for building a long-lasting relationship.
The same applies to conquering a man, to impress him at the first meeting, so that he can arouse his interest in you.
Seemingly passive waiting is actually more active than actively pleasing and giving, which is a wise choice.
The former seems to have been inactive, but the effect is remarkable. And the latter, although many efforts have been made, the results have not been satisfactory.
Because when a man takes the initiative to discover you, it is completely different from when you actively cling to a man.
No matter how you look, you are unique to those who actively pursue you. Even if you feel like you're average, you still have an indescribable charm for them. On the other hand, if you actively pursue others, it will often only make you appear cheap and it will be difficult to get the other person's real attention. After all, love is not one-sided, but requires the common feelings and recognition of both parties.
Similar to the situation of "the phoenix is not a sycamore and does not dwell", the attraction of the sycamore tree is so great that the phoenix can only see it and cannot tolerate anything else. This charisma cannot be easily diminished or reshaped.
When we first meet a man, we should act according to this standard, silently capturing their hearts with our subtle gestures and expressions.
Let him always remember you, let him remember your arrival deeply, and let him want to meet again from the bottom of his heart.
02Frequent chance encounters
More often than not, it's hard for us to meet someone on the road again who we don't know well. If you want to break this law, you need human effort to change the situation.
In short, making a good impression on a man does not immediately determine his emotional tendencies.
Even if you make a good impression on him, if there is no more communication, the feeling is likely to be diluted by time and become a beautiful and brief encounter. So, for this feeling to last, more encounters and exchanges are needed.
If you want to conquer men, you need to seize the opportunity and go on the offensive to achieve victory when they are not enough. This is an important strategy that needs to be used skillfully.
Frequent unexpected encounters not only give men the time and opportunity to get to know you, but also create a sense of fate.
Of course, if you meet him again, don't reach out to him. To create an atmosphere where you don't know about it, don't show it even if you don't think it matters. This is a formal practice that applies to everyone.
If you can maintain a certain sense of distance and make yourself look stranger, it will be easier for men to believe that you are not trying to be close to him. In this way, they will think that they are interested in you, not that you are using various methods against them.
When he offers to you, you need to stay calm and observe the etiquette and distance between friends. Don't get too excited or ecstatic, keep yourself sane and calm. At the stage of first acquaintance, it is very important to grasp your attitude and behavior.
In this way, the other person will realize that you are not a casual person. If you want him to pay attention and like you, you need to show the most sincere and serious attitude.
The advantage of this is that it not only beautifies your image in his mind, but also provides a reliable basis for him to develop feelings for you.
When dealing with such women, men tend to show absolute sincerity and sincerity. They know that they can't get close to you if they don't. This attitude is normal, after all, sincerity and sincerity are the cornerstones of any relationship in the process of communication. In such a relationship, the man will work harder to show his true face to earn your trust and the opportunity to be close to you.
The purpose of meeting frequently after the first meeting is to allow men to get to know you more deeply and feel your charm and beauty. It's a natural way to get closer to each other and an opportunity to show yourself. It's an excellent way to attract people and get them interested in you.
03 Hints of singleness and love
On the basis of the first two steps, the next key is your relationship status. If a man wants to know if he has a chance, or if he is simply self-inflicted, then it is even more important to know the state of your relationship.
So, now is the time for you to show your true self and put your pride on it. Take the initiative to show weakness and express to him your lonely single status, as well as your envy and affection for him.
When the relationship develops to this point, the man will not hesitate to lend you his shoulder, and he will not be able to help but care and love you. It's a real way to show emotion and respect for you.
Note that your casual oversights and dependence will not only make your partner feel like a boyfriend, but it will also promote happiness between you.
Eventually, he clears out his mindset and also understands your way of thinking, so that the certainty of the relationship happens naturally.
Just get your consent and you'll be together smoothly. In this way, the man will be easily conquered by you!
There is also a process when it comes to dealing with men. Instead of just pleasing and giving, follow these three steps. Only then will you be able to achieve better results. Whether you're in a relationship or in a relationship, these steps are essential.
You must understand that those who take the initiative to deliver it to the door will never have the incense that they have worked so hard to get. When you express yourself too much, men will feel that you are not confident and will no longer be interested in you. Remember to keep the right distance and mystery to make the other person more attached to you.
If you want to win a man's heart, it is not about pleasing and giving unilaterally, but to let him take the initiative to discover your charm and influence him through the concept of love that attracts him, and finally win his heart.