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The three words of renunciation are extremely popular at the moment! It includes socializing, food, clothing, housing, and so on......
The meaning of disconnection is to discard the unnecessary, to leave valuable, and to disconnect the inappropriate ...... In this way, the quality of life will gradually improve, so that people have a good experience!
After a person has achieved the ultimate correct renunciation, his life will continue to develop upward, and people will have unlimited gains from it!
On the contrary, if a person blindly breaks away, he will let himself fall into unpredictable self-passivity and misery!
I finally understood that these 5 kinds of wrong "renunciation" are the beginning of an invalid life for adults:
1: Blindly follow the trend and break away, but never ask yourself "if it is suitable"
In real life, many people will be very interested in the disconnection of the people around them and the minimalist lifestyle in the media, and once thought that they "should" be like that!
As everyone knows, everyone has their own life, and everyone's life has different needs!
When we blindly break away from the winds of others, we will find that:
In fact, we have different living foundations, different network circles, different habits of original family education, different real needs, and naturally different renunciation!
Before you decide to give up, be sure to ask yourself:
Is there any possible value for such a thing, such a relationship, and such a person for me!
Staying is consumption, giving up is gaining, then give up!
Otherwise, giving up is losing, then your following is a brainless move!
2: The repetition of abandonment is extravagant and wasteful
For the renunciation, it is that after we really give up and break off, there is no need to have it!
However, in real life, some people have started an infinite cycle of abandonment - throwing in the front, buying in the back, breaking in the front, and continuing in the back......
Why bother?
Repeatedly, because they don't understand themselves, their needs, and their current situation......
Adults are most afraid of not knowing themselves! If you don't recognize yourself, you will do a lot of wrong things, among which renunciation is the most obvious manifestation of wrong things!
Throwing away in front and buying in the back is consuming your own savings and wasting social resources!
Remember:
Money is not easy to make, save some flowers, and consume rationally! Reduce the desire to buy and control the desire to waste!
3: Between available or not, I chose not to use, and then I needed it
Some people don't really understand what it means to break away, but they just feel that too many people are now living in a way of breaking away, and if they don't throw away something, it seems that they can't keep up with the pace of society!
Therefore, for fear that the price would drop, I started the operation of not using it again, throwing it away and buying it again......
For things, every time the house is cleaned or moved, they will be thrown away, and when they are used up, they will be bought back, and repeatedly;
For the relationship, every time I have an unpleasant relationship or see the relationship partner do something that makes me feel the same way, I start to stop contacting, but when the relationship has been broken for a long time, I start to take the initiative to contact again;
For making a plan, when it is formulated, it is ambitious, and during the formulation process or after the formulation is completed, it cannot insist on terminating halfway, then formulating and terminating, and constantly self-depleting......
In fact, whether it is for people, things, or things, adults should think twice!
4: Excessive emptiness
Some people practice renunciation in an extremely extreme way:
In a relationship, as long as the person who makes him unhappy, he will cut off the connection - he doesn't know how to self-reflect at all, he is paranoid and extreme, but he feels that it is the right abandonment;
When facing some items, as long as you feel that you are in the way or useless for a while, you will immediately throw them away - there is no long-term vision to see whether the item is a temporary need or a phased use;
In the face of personal growth, as long as you feel that it is meaningless, you will stop immediately—there is no self-motivation at all, and you will let yourself be willful and waste your time......
Life is your own, and you should be responsible for yourself!
Paying too much attention to one's own feelings and experiences is against the laws of human nature and survival, and it is doomed to live a bad life!
5: Habit is coming
Some people are like this, obviously a phoenix, but they have to live in the rough abyss like a wild fowl!
Therefore, he started the operation of his whole life:
No matter how bad the relationship is, I don't want to turn my face, I feel that it is my own impoliteness, and I leave a line in life;
The item is not easy to hand, and I don't want to throw it away, I feel that it is a waste to throw it away, even if the item wastes too much time and energy and even the cost of maintenance, I still feel that it is a waste to buy a new one;
I don't want to think about personal growth at all, and I feel that the so-called "growth" is too pale and empty!
After all, the person who is accustomed to it is the one who has made himself cheap!
People who are accustomed to perfection are as if they are not worthy of all the qualities, and always lower their qualifications to enjoy everything that matches!
Just want to say to everyone:
Learning to break away is a good way to live, but you can't let yourself go wrong.
If you want to make your life experience better and better, you must be a rational person who knows yourself, and make all relatively ideal decisions without regrets!
As above, may you and I encourage it!
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I am an author in the field of high-quality emotion, a professional counselor, and have provided valuable and meaningful help to many counselors. I have rich experience in marriage, relationships, interpersonal relationships, etc., if you have any emotional confusion, please feel free to consult me.
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