When it comes to channels to make "quick money", we have to mention "egg donation", a term that has often appeared in the news in recent years. For donors, it's a brutal trade, with health and dignity at stake. For the intermediaries who coordinate in the middle, this transaction will bring them high income, but at the same time, endless pressure is constantly torturing their moral bottom line.
once swore to me in WeChat,
Vera, a girl who is very "healthy" herself,
At the time of the urine test,
But he locked himself in the bathroom and didn't come out.
I knocked eagerly at the door outside,
even called the hospital staff to try to knock the door open,
She came out whimsically, and did all the checks.
The next morning,
On the air conditioner outside the window,
The cleaning aunt found a crooked urine bag,
There is also half a discarded injection needle.
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The first time I learned about this profession was in the fall of two years ago. At that time, I was a passionate medical student, studying in a small medical school, and I was working hard for the future.
Late one night, I was still struggling in front of a display screen that flashed white, and the twisted mass of English letters and medical vocabulary made my skull swell. In a trance, the long-lost Chinese jumped out of the lower right corner, and I stared at it with wide eyes, and a new world opened up from there.
As a result of clicking on this advertisement, I was able to find a part-time job with a good income. There were always people who envied me for my high-paying part-time job that was settled in dollars and seemed to speak English all the time, and I just smiled silently.
I am an agent who introduces Chinese women to the United States to donate eggs.
In the United States, commercial surrogacy has long been legalized, and anyone who can afford it can hire a mother to carry a baby for you in October. Other families who want a smart baby, or have other secrets, will choose a stranger's egg or sperm to conceive a healthy and lively child.
The Chinese are chasing smart, beautiful and tall offspring, and due to the influence of traditional beliefs, donating their precious cells seems to be a big rebellion, so local resources are in short supply. At this time, China, which is relatively cheap and rich in resources, has become a base camp for transporting Chinese eggs.
My goal is to use the dollar to attract the target population, take them for their first medical check-up, get them visas, and get them visas until the girl who contributed her eggs gets on a plane over the Pacific Ocean.
I was instructed by a Chinese with a Fujian accent, and there was a statue of a Bodhisattva standing in the background during the video. Thinking that this is the mother who blesses childbirth in the Fujian population, I laughed out loud.
said that he was the guide, but he himself had not returned for many years and had no understanding of the domestic environment. He asked me to use Weibo and WeChat to send messages to solicit targets, and to contact and even archive them by email.
Hearing this, I hugged the milk tea and laughed, what are you doing, money is to be earned, but the gray area can't be crossed. Advertise publicly? I was scared of my inexperience. As for e-mail, who still uses e-mail to communicate in this day and age?
At that time, the "transnational" business was just emerging, and even with a remuneration of tens of thousands of yuan, not many people knew about the industry. I once met a girl who had experience studying abroad, and after peeping into the underground hospital that sold eggs in China, she also began to worry about childbirth, sequelae, etc., and finally never said anything about agreeing to the invitation.
Even with resources, not everyone gets the opportunity, and American parents prefer tall, slender, athletic and highly educated girls over vases with beauty.
When I first started working, I was only given a 30-odd page of detailed notes on domestic personnel, teaching me how to submit the girl's information and medical examination report, how to help the girl apply for a visa, and answering the embassy's tricky questions. Other than that, I didn't receive any useful training.
At that time, I had no experience and no precedent, and with a beautiful vision of "starting a new life", I stumbled into this part-time job.
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I always question the so-called "agent", which is just a lofty expression of "pimping". I buried myself in my medical textbook and asked, "After studying medicine for so many years, are you going to do this?" Do you remember the books you memorized and the vows you made? ”
But the cruel reality is like a slap in the face, eight years of hard study finally put on a white coat, but was overwhelmed by the pressure of medical troubles and scientific research. I couldn't take it anymore and had to visit the psychiatrist frequently.
Luckily, when I was in graduate school, I passed the American physician exam. But in order to find a job, the cost of clinical training and interviews for more than a year must be borne by yourself. This is the reason why the price of medical education in the United States remains high, and it has also become an obstacle for me.
In order to make up for the cost of living in the United States in the future, I persuaded myself to understand the industry. In my opinion, no one doing it means a huge profit, plus it is earning real dollars, so why not?
I spent a few days learning about U.S. law, and when I asked U.S. lawyers, and when I heard that "as long as the behavior is legal, there is no risk as an introducer", it was like running a marathon that would not cause sudden death, and I just wanted to continue.
This job, like all sales pitches, needs to paint a beautiful story. I added hundreds of QQ groups in college towns in this province and posted posters of "high pay, no physical injury, free air tickets to and from the United States". Then add the huge WeChat QR code.
Sometimes I will beautify my WeChat circle of friends, showing the US dollar and the American scenery, and more often I will frequently quote the so-called "conference writings" to prove that egg donation has no effect on future fertility.
Late at night is the most crowded time, and due to the time difference, a lot of communication is also in the early hours of the morning. The heavy study during the day, coupled with the reversal of day and night, in addition to improving my English skills, also brought severe insomnia.
At its worst, stress and mental illness caused me to lose a lot of my hair and wake up in the middle of the night, fearing that I had missed a single email or a commission on my card.
But I can't leave. Every girl who is successfully selected by a client can bring me a few hundred dollars in income. If the girl passes the medical examination and is sent to the plane to the United States, I can get another payment. At the beginning, I calculated that if I sent a hundred or so girls, I would be able to scrape together all the money to go to the United States. As for the future, I will have to rely on part-time work to support myself.
For everyone who comes to consult, I tell them the specific process, and the words "no danger" are repeated the most.
Some people ask me if it will affect having children in the future, and I will reply: "There is no problem with taking one egg, just like doing IVF", "People have more than 300 eggs in their life, it doesn't matter if you donate a few".
I would even take out my medical practitioner's qualification certificate, which I had not yet covered the heat, and tell them with my professional qualifications and thick "Obstetrics and Gynecology": "We will only perform painless anesthesia egg retrieval after the follicles have matured, without any side effects, as long as we lie down for 15 minutes, we can move freely." ”
The first time I typed such a word, I didn't even feel any extra feelings, at that time I was like a sponge accumulating dollars, and in order to attract customers, I would make up a story of "I am very satisfied with donating my own eggs".
"We're all making money." I "warned" myself like this.
Are you sure? I've never been so sure. I've searched for papers on PubMed and they've been very careful with the words, just vaguely saying, "There is no danger in controlling the number of donor eggs at a time." "Later, I also learned that even if it was operated by a professional doctor, there would still be girls lying on the operating table every year, but it would never be reported with much fanfare.
For girls who are about to go abroad, I tell them that "egg donation is common in the U.S. and everyone can do it"; For girls who are in urgent need of money, I will send her the transfer slips from the intermediary; For girls who want to take a trip to the United States, I use photos of American travel to disguise the scenery of the egg retrieval clinic.
There are always girls who are willing to submit their own information.
But whether it's true or not, even I don't know.
If they don't hesitate anymore, the next step is to gather information. Basically, it all relies on WeChat to communicate, nothing more than age, height, weight, appearance, education, and a selfie, and even all the talents and achievements that American parents value.
SAT, TOEFL IELTS, MODELING OR PROGRAMMING COMPETITIONS, INTERNSHIP EXPERIENCE IN A MULTINATIONAL COMPANY······ All the information that proves that a girl is "excellent" is useful information. After the excellent Q&A, I would also add simple titles such as "long legs", "good exercise", and "no history of infectious diseases".
Then I have to prepare a few selfies of the girls, and sometimes in order to cater to the Western aesthetics, the girls are painted with magnolia makeup in the shape of eyebrows, rubbing full lipstick, and grinning.
If you can make it here, the last thing is some textual questions, which seem a little shy to answer: "Have you ever had sex?" Our examination should be done with yin ultrasound, which has a little impact. ”
A lot of girls tell me in private that they've never had "dirty" sex, but when they get here, there's nothing to hesitate about.
At this time, the girl was just a simple commodity, lying naked in the introduction column of the intermediary, waiting for the buyer's comments.
I usually start with the future of "free travel to the United States" and "high pay", telling them that if the information is posted online for four months and no one cares, they have less chance of donating their eggs, and it is just a commodity that no one wants.
But no one objected, and after four months, I kicked all the unqualified out of sight according to the calendar. That kind of free trip to the United States is only left in most people's dreams.
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There are always lucky people, but at this time, you can see the madness behind the intermediary.
If someone on the other side of the ocean catches their eye, I'm going to take the next step, shoot a half-hour video of them and instruct them to communicate online on WhatsApp late at night. The only condition that separates this deal is the voice-changing software used by both parties.
In my third month, I met a troublesome Canadian client, who had PhDs and was an elite who immigrated early. Their son fell in love with the same sex, but the parents who hugged their grandson persecuted them to the death, and finally let the son relent, agreed to find an oovite, find another surrogate, and give the parents a grandchild.
I haven't met them, but I've heard that they've already disgusted the girls in the United States, so in desperation, the American agent pushed them to me and asked me to find them a mother from a "poor continent".
I had a hunch about their pickiness and carefully selected a few very good girls, one of whom was a tall beauty from the Northeast whom I had starred and who had been an exchange student in Canada.
But they sent me an email with righteous words: "We're not going to have a brute girl!" ”
It turned out that in their eyes, there used to be Manchus in the Northeast, so now it is the area of barbarians. As I sat in front of my computer and read my email, I couldn't help but roll my eyes and look it up again. "After all, it's a customer, so I'll just endure it." I comforted myself, "Anyway, it's not me who scolds." ”
But when things got worse, the couple almost threw the dollar in my face and asked, "Find me someone who can speak French." ”
I looked so disdainful that I could only throw them a sentence in the French I had almost forgotten: "French is learned, not brought out by mother's womb!" ”
That being said, I introduced a Taiwanese girl of the same age to another clinic I knew for the $3,000 they had privately added, skipping the commission. The moment I learned that the girl had landed in Los Angeles, I exchanged this small amount of income for a flight to the future.
Later, I learned that the couple was very satisfied with the Taiwanese girl, thinking that she was a girl from a wealthy place, well-read, and that their grandchildren would be like her, loving the country where they grew up, speaking fluent French, and loving surfing and diving.
But only I know that that the beautiful Taiwanese girl is already donating eggs for the third time, and she is just an ordinary person struggling on the road of "quick money" for the economy. Sometimes, we would voice communicate, and her voice would be hoarse.
Once the match is confirmed, the girls will be examined, and the hospital is the battleground of this turmoil.
Leading them for a physical examination is the most troublesome, and the hospitals we work with will not hide the disease, but it is not excluded that some laboratory doctors will set a trap with the girl.
There was once a donor who returned from a well-known foreign university with a master's degree, healthy and beautiful, and the market for her eggs was bullish all the way. But after the Yin Chao inspection, she slammed the door angrily: "He, he actually, actually, actually molested me, you black-hearted businessmen, give me money!" ”
Regardless of the time difference, I made a phone call to the US side with one heart. Since we have never experienced such a thing, and we are afraid that this high-achieving student will really come to the United States to report us for trafficking in human organs, as she said.
After getting the company's approval, I hurriedly transferred a thousand dollars to the girl in an attempt to calm things down. But afterwards I realized that this was actually a fairy jump, and the doctor and the girl teamed up to cheat money.
In addition to the fairy jump, I have also encountered other deceptions. Vera, the girl who once swore to me in WeChat that she was "healthy", locked herself in the bathroom and couldn't come out when she took a urine test. I knocked on the door eagerly outside, and even called the hospital staff to try to break it open, and she came out whimsically and did all the checks.
The next morning, on the air conditioner outside the window, the cleaning aunt found a crooked urine bag and half a discarded injection needle.
I was woken up after an all-night and received a message from the hospital: "That urine doesn't seem to be the woman's!" "It shook me so much that I almost had to take another pill.
I secretly screamed that it was not good, I guess Vera had taken drugs, and in order to pass the test, she took a healthy person's urine bag to avoid the urine test. But I can only bite the bullet and tell the truth to the US intermediary.
That time, I was scolded on the phone so silently: "Do you want the money in the back, so careless." If there is no result next week, the customer will complain about us again. ”
When something like this happens, we have to reconvene the girl for inspection, which is not only troublesome, but also has to endure the customer's dissatisfaction with the delay.
Later, I went to the United States to learn about Vera's situation. She is a well-known courtesan among the international student community, thinking that the domestic inspection is lax, but she still shows her stuffing. Hearing my friend's description, I felt sick.
"You have to be careful, otherwise you will smash the company's signboard!" In the end, the agent told me that now the domestic market is gradually opening up. I knew the subtext, and for a moment, my mood felt as if I had fallen into the goose feather snow outside the window.
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After the medical examination, the visa and air ticket will be prepared, and then it will be a trivial matter. The U.S. agent has a note of more than 30 pages, and I will patiently tell the girls how to secure visas.
The most fearful thing is to meet third-rate college graduates who are proficient in traveling back and forth to the United States, who are dissatisfied with accommodation or food when they arrive in the United States, and from time to time move out of the law to scold the intermediary. What's more, there are records at customs, and I have to shout "I go here to donate eggs!" in a hurry. (I came here to donate eggs) was able to enter the country safely in the end, but the process was always scary.
And all this, our customers are not aware of. They will only take out a lump sum of money as requested, get an embryo that meets the requirements, and then look forward to the arrival of a new life.
If any of these links go wrong, we will pay a high amount of compensation. In one of the worst cases, half of the payment I had just received was deducted because the girl was "inadmissible to the United States."
Ever since I started this work, I've been intermittently blaming myself, and for a moment I feel like I'm just saving money for the future, and I'm often hesitant. Later, I had a stable target source in my hands, and my life gradually became regular, and I did not confide in the inside story of my part-time job, nor did I keep the information of customers for a long time.
There have been cases where introducers from other countries have threatened donors from religious countries with surrogacy lists. Every time I see this news on my phone, I always feel like I've crawled over countless ants.
I can't be so moral.
After eight years of study, the training of professional doctors has always emphasized: "As a doctor, you must have feelings to help the world, but you can't have feelings, so that every patient can be treated equally." ”
Coupled with the indifference, indifference, and impersonal that once bothered me, even if he derided himself as a "lightless intermediary", he never had more contact with girls and clients.
The only overcontact happened to a fellow countryman who came to the United States because of ovitropin and had pain in her lower abdomen and couldn't sleep. But she doesn't speak English and can't afford to see a doctor. In desperation, after a twelve hour time difference, she called me.
She cried like a young cat: "Sister, the dishes here are all cold, and there are no vegetables." I, I, my stomach hurts. ”
She was lonely and couldn't find anyone to talk to, so I had to comfort her in a whisper.
At that moment, I seemed to have the feeling of being with a patient. After more than two hours, she gradually fell asleep, leaving me alone and facing the same difficult night. It dawned on me that this was the first time that I had torn off the so-called "indifference of the medical profession" and treated another lonely soul as an ordinary person.
That night, I went to a barbecue downstairs and used a large plate of squid and golden beer to ease my academic and financial pressure. The night sky is full of twinkling stars, with the occasional shining star floating overhead.
"Everything will be fine." I said to myself.
Later, the competition in the industry increased, and the Chinese-owned institutions gradually carved up the market, and a large number of American egg agencies also joined the unsaturated Chinese market. I gradually saved enough money, got training, had my own career and family in the United States, and never replied to such or such messages.
Finally, I sorted out all the documents, pressed "format" and let out a long breath, leaving all the past behind me and boarding the plane that flew over the Pacific Ocean.
Until a few months ago, a Chinese person came to the clinic for a routine pregnancy test. She gave me a light look and asked, "Doctor, I've donated eggs before, and there is no problem with the baby, right?" ”
I could only reply bitterly: "Check well, rest well, there is no problem." ”
For a split second, I turned my head away and was silent.
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