Text: Jing Ma
From 1980, when the mainland began to implement family planning, to 2016, when the second child was released, China had nearly 200 million only children during the 36 years, and the first batch of only children were in their 40s and entered middle age, and those parents who gave birth to only children were also 70 years old, which was an important period of sharp decline in the quality of life.
Kiki is my classmate, she works as a teacher in school, her husband works in the government department, both husband and wife have relatively stable jobs, and their families are relatively happy, and they have a lovely son.
Because both of them are only children, they feel that it is good to have a child, and all the resources can be given to this child, but after experiencing a parental illness, they lament that it is really not good to be an only child.
First her mother broke her leg and was hospitalized, and then her father was hospitalized because she was anxious that her mother had high blood pressure and had a slight stroke, and Kiki's parents were hospitalized.
And her father-in-law and mother-in-law have to take care of the old lady, her husband and grandmother, and their health is not very good, usually the father-in-law and mother-in-law have to take care of it, so the two couples have to burn candles at both ends, and they have to pick up the children, and they have to deliver food to the grandparents in the hospital, and they are simply tired and paralyzed.
And because no one cared about the child, he didn't write his homework, so his colleagues in the school came to Qiqi and said: Alas, your son didn't write this homework yesterday, and he didn't write that homework, it's just a mess.
One day, Kiki had a fever of 38 degrees, but she didn't dare to stop, in addition to asking for leave from school, she took fever-reducing medicine at home, and still insisted on going to the hospital to take care of her parents.
The results of the first batch of only children have come out, and they are facing three dilemmas
The first: Don't dare to be poor
Although it is said that the elderly may have a pension, if you go to the hospital, not all items can be reimbursed with the pension, and it is possible for a couple to support 4 elderly people, or even more than 4, 5, 6.
Because the old people are generally living longer, 80 and 90 years old are still alive, there may be grandparents, and not everyone has a pension, in case there is no pension, if you are sick, you may have to pay for the two couples, so you don't dare to be poor at all, what if the poor old people are waiting in the hospital to use the money?
Second: Don't dare to get sick
When the elderly reach the age of sixty or seventy, there must be minor illnesses and pains, and the quality of life is greatly reduced.
Where do young people dare to get sick, once young people get sick, the whole family will be messed up.
Third: Don't dare to say tired
An only child, your mother is sick and repeatedly wants to die, because she feels that she is dragging down her child.
If you are an only child, and you say that you are tired in front of your parents, then the elderly may feel that they are dragging down their children, and in order not to drag down their children, these parents will even have a very heavy psychological burden.
Therefore, the first generation of only children will face the dilemma of not daring to be sick, not daring to be poor, and not daring to say that they are tired, and when faced with such a dilemma, looking at the only child under their knees, they all sigh that they can have a second child or a second child.
An only child is actually happier when the parents are young, after all, the family's resources are placed on one child.
However, some studies have found that families with more children are more difficult before the age of 50, and they will be happier after the age of 50.
Because the child can help the family when he grows up, and when the child grows up, the dilemma of the parents will be smaller.
For example, if you have two children, one of whom is more promising, may have gone to other places, then if you are sick and in pain, you can take care of your parents at home, and the child who is more prosperous in other places can be financially supported.
And if there are two children, if the parents are sick, the two children can take care of one by one, if there is only one child, then the only child is really lacking in skills when taking care of the two elderly people. #头条创作挑战赛#
So now that the country has liberalized childbearing, those who have the conditions and ability should have a second or third child!
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