Later age is a precious time in life, and it is a time when we should enjoy the warmth and care of our family.
However, some elderly people are caught up in the dilemma of getting along with their children, often due to certain characteristics and attitudes.
This article will explore three common problems that may arise when you spend time with your children in later life, and suggest corresponding solutions, hopefully none of them will be available.
1
Stereotyped and stubborn
Many elderly people become rigid and stubborn in their later years, reluctant to accept new things or try new ways of life.
They may ignore their children's suggestions or opinions, insist on their own opinions, and even cause contradictions and conflicts.
This rigid and stubborn attitude often makes the children with whom they live feel frustrated and helpless.
Older people should keep an open mind and be willing to listen to and accept the suggestions and opinions of their children.
When communicating with your children, respect each other's points of view, do not be stubborn, but try to understand the problem from the other person's point of view.
At the same time, children should also listen patiently to their parents' ideas, respect their choices and decisions, and try to avoid unnecessary conflicts and conflicts with them.
2
Lack of communication and understanding
Some elderly people lack communication and understanding with their children in their later years.
As they age, they may feel out of touch with the times and do not know much about how their children live and work, leading to miscommunication and misunderstandings.
In this case, it often leads to estrangement and contradictions between the two sides.
Older people should actively communicate with their children to understand their living and working conditions, and share their feelings and feelings.
You can keep in touch and communicate frequently by phone, letter, video call, etc.
At the same time, children should also take the initiative to communicate with their parents, listen patiently to their complaints, care about their feelings and needs, and strengthen mutual understanding and trust.
3
Over-reliance and expectations
Some older people become overly dependent and expect the support and care of their children in their later years.
They may expect too much from their children and want them to provide all the help and convenience they can make their lives.
However, such over-reliance and expectations often put heavy pressure and burden on children, and even affect their life and work.
Older people should learn to live independently and take care of themselves, and not be overly dependent on and expect support and care from their children.
You can enrich your life and improve your self-management skills by learning new skills, participating in social activities, and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
At the same time, children should also help and support their parents appropriately, but do not sacrifice their own lives and interests excessively, maintain a moderate distance and independence, and establish a healthy parent-child relationship.
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In short, spending time with our children in old age is an important time in our lives, and we should cherish this time to establish a healthy and harmonious parent-child relationship.
In your later years, we hope that you will be able to stay away from rigid stubbornness, lack of communication and understanding, and over-reliance and expectations, and build a relationship of mutual respect, understanding and support with your children to spend a happy old age together.