Before reading this article, please click "Follow", which is not only convenient for you to discuss and share, but also can bring you a different sense of participation, thank you for your support
Time goes back to the glorious years of the eighties and nineties of the last century, at that time, Li Jian was still a childish Tsinghua student, and his life journey was closely connected with a young woman, which was a magical encounter that was destined to be tied for a lifetime!
This woman is Meng Xiaobei, from an ordinary background, five years older than Li Jian, but this did not stop the sincere and deep friendship between them from sprouting. Meng Xiaobei started out as a cute little girl near Li Jian's house, and they have known each other since elementary school, and despite the large age difference, this has never hindered the development of their innocent and flawless friendship.
As time passed, Li Jian gradually grew into a talented Tsinghua student, and Meng Xiaobei was no less impressive, successfully stepping into this sacred academic hall. Li Jian chose to major in electronic engineering and became a "scholar" in the eyes of everyone; Meng Xiaobei worked tirelessly in the field of sociology and finally won a doctorate.
Although they have different learning directions, they have an amazing understanding of their hearts and minds – they all share a deep love for music.
When Li Jianjian threw himself into the world of guitar and musical notes, Meng Xiaobei always stood firmly by his side, giving him endless support and encouragement. When Li Jian joined the band "Shuimu Nianhua" in 2001 and came to prominence, Meng Xiaobei still silently guarded him.
However, in 2002, with Li Jian's decision to go solo and leave the band, their relationship road ushered in a new challenge. During that time, Li Jian fell into a low point in his life, and he even doubted whether he had delayed Meng Xiaobei's youth.
After all, with Meng Xiaobei's conditions at that time, she could have found a better partner.
However, what is surprising is that Meng Xiaobei's love for Li Jian has never wavered, but quickly entered the palace of marriage with him. On the campus of Tsinghua University, Li Jian is undoubtedly a bright star, specializing in electronic engineering, and his future is bright.
However, he is very different from other nerds, and since he was a child, he has planted a seed of music in his heart.
In his spare time, Li Jian always holds his beloved guitar and indulges in beautiful melodies. Inspired by music giants such as Luo Dayou and Qi Qin, his pursuit of music career is as hot as a fire that cannot be extinguished.
In order to firmly pursue his inner ideals, Li Jian did not hesitate to devote himself to campus music activities, defeated many opponents in a number of competitions one after another, and fully demonstrated his determination to never give up with his outstanding performance!
After careful consideration, Li Jian finally mustered up the courage and decided to devote his whole body and soul to the musical path full of challenges and opportunities. At that moment in full swing in 2001, he bravely stepped into the popular band "Shuimu Nianhua" across the country, and embarked on a new milestone in his singing career.
With his unique voice and handsome and charming appearance, Li Jian quickly won the love of countless fans in the music industry, and became a new idol in the hearts of the majority of listeners in one fell swoop.
However, these dazzling honors did not make Li Jian lose himself. As a musician with ideals and ambitions, he has always adhered to his persistent belief in music, forged ahead bravely, and vowed to create more brilliant achievements on the road of music.
At that critical turning point in 2002, Li Jian resolutely chose to fly solo and bid farewell to the "Shuimu Years" music team he once worked with. He aspires to pursue higher and farther ideals, and strives to reach the ultimate in music creation.
Although Li Jian's career fell into a low point during that time, his wife Meng Xiaobei was always by his side, silently giving him endless support and encouragement.
Li Jianjian devoted himself to music creation and went all out to seek breakthroughs in the field of music. In addition to his busy work, he often closes the doors and windows alone, immersing himself in the world of composing music and lyrics, looking forward to creating more excellent works that are loved by the public.
Despite the difficulties, he has always persevered and unswervingly moved towards his musical dreams.
Now, Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei, a pair of talented and beautiful women, have gone through a long time together, but they have never planned to have children, which is quite surprising to the outside world.
According to common sense, if a high-profile music superstar and a high-achieving student from Tsinghua University are combined, if they can have a child, whether it is inheriting their father's musical talent or their mother's academic attainments, it should not be difficult to continue the glorious tradition of their careers.
However, in our traditional concept, "there are three unfilial pieties, and no queen is greater". Many people choose to have children in the hope that they will have a full house of children and grandchildren, and that they will be able to be reliably cared for by their offspring in their later years.
However, how much does it cost to have a child? From conception to upbringing to education, this is undoubtedly an extremely difficult task and a heavy burden for every couple.
As social elites with outstanding careers, Mr. Li Jian and Ms. Meng Xiaobei's daily work schedules are undoubtedly extremely compact and cumbersome. However, if you have to spend extra time and energy caring for your newborn, your career will inevitably be adversely affected.
It is worth pondering that even if we put in a hundred times the effort to raise and teach, we may not be able to create a perfect child who meets our expectations. Perhaps because of these complex factors, Mr. Li Jian and Ms. Meng Xiaobei decided to give up the path of childbearing and devote themselves to the life style known as "Double Income No Kids".
This lifestyle is not only an effective way to avoid the great stress of pregnancy and childbirth, but also gives them endless freedom and ease in their lives, so that they do not have to worry about future problems.
Choosing not to have children may be a more rational and sensible decision. For successful couples like Mr. Li Jian and Ms. Meng Xiaobei, their energy is extremely limited.
If you focus too much energy on your children's education, it will inevitably have a negative impact on your career development.
More importantly, children's growth process is full of unknowns, and no matter how much effort and cost is paid, it is difficult to ensure that they can develop in the expected direction. Therefore, instead of taking such a big risk, it is better to choose to live a childless life and devote yourself to work, as long as you properly arrange the later life of both parents.
Everyone's understanding and pursuit of happiness is different, and for the loving couple of Mr. Li Jian and Ms. Meng Xiaobei, what they yearn for is that kind of free and carefree lifestyle.
There's no denying that having a full family of three is indeed a symbol of happiness. The moment you step into the house at the end of a long day's hard work, the virtuous wife has prepared a delicious meal for you; The children will welcome you back with a warm hug.
Such a harmonious and happy family atmosphere will undoubtedly bring people incomparable warmth and touch. However, is it not destined to experience happiness without children? Spending the rest of your life with your loved ones, supporting and caring for each other throughout your lifetime, such a simple and unpretentious life can also bring people an unparalleled sense of happiness.
After all, everyone's vision and pursuit of an ideal life is different. What the "Dink" family pursues is the kind of flexible, free, and unfettered lifestyle. Husband and wife can realize their own value without restraint and bravely pursue their innermost ideals and ambitions without worrying about the dependence and burden of their children.
On the other hand, those families who already have children cherish the warmth and reunion moments brought by family affection. Children are not only the best gift in their parents' lives, but also make their lives full of comfort and satisfaction, thus fulfilling their life values.
The deep emotional bonds between family members and the precious memories that will last are at the heart of happiness.
In the face of diverse lifestyles, the definition of happiness that people pursue is also different. Which lifestyle is happier? The answer is inconclusive, happiness is just a subjective experience and perception in the depths of an individual's heart.
As long as you can live the life you yearn for, whether it is a family of three, a family of four, or a world of two, you can call it happiness.
It is precisely because people have different ways of understanding and pursuing happiness that whether or not to choose to have children has become a topic that varies from person to person. For talented and beautiful people like Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei, what they expect is a free and flexible life state, without being bound by the dependence of their children, so that they can devote themselves wholeheartedly to their careers and ideals.
Freedom from the pressure of childbirth, they will be able to work together in their respective professional fields without any external interference, which is perhaps their highest expectation of a better life.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei have walked hand in hand for nearly 20 spring and autumn. Looking back on the ups and downs and laughter in this journey, they seem to have long forgotten the arduous years.
In the golden autumn of 2015, at a much-anticipated concert, Li Jian suddenly solemnly announced a shocking news - he introduced his wife Meng Xiaobei to the audience.
It turns out that the low-key couple has been silently guarding each other's identities for many years, living quietly behind the scenes.
Looking back on the past, Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei met by chance in elementary school and went all the way to the stage of university study, and their relationship has gone through decades of baptism.
Although Li Jian was already a "scholar" at Tsinghua University at that time, his obsession with music was the same as Meng Xiaobei's enthusiasm for sociology.
Just as Li Jianyi devoted himself to the incomparably rugged but passionate road of music without hesitation, Meng Xiaobei always gave him unreserved support and endless tolerance.
Back in 2001, Li Jian successfully joined the band "Water and Wood Years" with his unique talent and charm, while Meng Xiaobei has always believed in his future.
However, the turning point of fate came in 2002, when Li Jian decided to embark on a solo musical journey, thus opening a new chapter in the emotional journey of the two of them.
In those challenging and difficult years, Li Jian once felt deeply remorseful, thinking that he might have failed Meng Xiaobei's precious youth, because with Meng Xiaobei's conditions, there was a chance to find a better partner.
However, Meng Xiaobei's tenacity and persistence in love far exceeded Li Jian's expectations, and she did not hesitate to tie the knot with this man chasing her dreams and enter the sacred hall of marriage together.
Although the life after marriage is uneventful, it is full of deep love and understanding for each other. Li Jianquan devotes himself to music creation physically and mentally, and aspires to achieve brilliant achievements in the field of music.
In his spare time, he always closed the door and repeatedly scrutinized every lyric, striving to reach the ultimate level of art.
As an outstanding woman, Meng Xiaobei also showed the spirit of unremitting efforts in her career. She frequently shuttles between cities, actively participates in academic exchange activities, and shares cutting-edge scientific research results with industry colleagues.
Busy work is naturally inseparable from frequent business trips, but no matter when and where, there is always a warm light at home quietly waiting for her return.
Despite all the gossip and suspicion from the outside world, the low-key couple never took it to heart. They live comfortably and happily in their own world, supporting each other and going hand in hand.
Perhaps in the eyes of others, not having children will inevitably make life a little empty and lonely, however, for Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei, they have found their own unique happiness.
While everyone is struggling with life, they can leisurely slow down the pace of life and enjoy the freedom and comfort to the fullest. On weekend afternoons, they often stroll through the city park and enjoy the warm picture of the family of three.
Although there is occasionally a hint of envy in the depths of their hearts, it is more of a relief and relief that they have lived the way they have longed for a long time.