Last weekend, I saw a video online of a little girl and her mom spending the whole day. After watching the whole video, I was really uncomfortable, anxious, and had the urge to reach out and slap the child's mother directly from the screen. The feeling was so strong that I watched the video over and over again, trying to find clues that I could understand, and at the same time thinking about whether I had a similar "meltdown" moment as a person growing up.
At the beginning of the video, a family of three eats breakfast like a normal family. The little girl, who seemed to be three or four years old, ate very slowly, and her mother urged her many times, but the child was completely disobedient and did not eat while playing by herself. Mom was a little out of shape when she was tossed, but she was still patient. Afterwards, the mother should use the pot to cook the noodles so that the children do not move.
But the child had to rush to touch the pot, but accidentally knocked over the noodles in the pot, and then broke down and cried. Mom is busy cleaning up, and she has to comfort the crying children. I can see that my mother can't hold it anymore. Throughout the morning, the children made trouble one by one, trying their best to torment their mother, such as spilling things and howling loudly, testing the limit of their mother's patience again and again.
There were a few times in the middle, my mother's face turned black in an instant, and it looked like she might explode in the next second. But she gritted her teeth and endured it, and could only express her dissatisfaction through a grinding tone. Through the screen, I really felt the collapse of my mother's heart. She was tortured to the point that her spirit had been peeled off, and in the face of the child's "death" again and again, she could only choose to endure.
In the afternoon, the mother takes the child out to play. Children are spilling around the playground and running around without full supervision, and the consequences are complaining again and again. At this time, my mother's temper seemed to have reached a critical point. She changed her gentle education method in the past, and directly lost her voice and shouted. It's a pity that the children are still not obedient, and they are coquettish and flattering in turn. Mom was so angry that she almost ran away on the spot, but she still swallowed this bad breath.
Afterwards, I played it back carefully, and found that the corners of my mother's mouth were even trembling slightly, and physiological tears were about to come out. This collapse in digestion. In the evening of the same day, the children began to make their skin again. She asks for something specific to eat, and if her mother doesn't agree, she cries loudly. This completely annoyed my mother. In the video, the mother turned her face directly and said a long list of shocking cruel words.
She complained that she had been pushed to the limit these days and had no patience to deal with her child's willful temper. At this time, my mother's eyes were red, and she looked like she might explode at any time, telling the audience that "I can't hold it anymore". This video made me realize how easy it is for a mother to have a psychological breakdown under the "mental dictatorship" of her baby for a long time.
A three- or four-year-old child who does not have any ability to take care of himself in life, but with his cute appearance, he commands adults from beginning to end. This is a great test for any adult. A mother's 24-hour commitment to caring for her child can cost far more than we think, especially in terms of patience and concentration in discipline and comfort.
As an outside audience, we may take our children's "willful" behavior as a joke and blame "poorly educated" mothers for being easy to lose control. But if you really stand in the position of the mother concerned and feel it seriously, you will definitely find that for a mother, enduring all kinds of "mental attacks" from her children for a long time is indeed enough to make people unbearably collapse and scold.
I don't want to accuse that mother of being "out of control". On the contrary, deep down I was more sympathetic and understanding of her difficulties at that time. After all, a person who has been under pressure for too long is forgiven for having an occasional outburst. As adults, we all have times when we get out of control. A mother, while taking care of her children wholeheartedly, should have the right to vent negative emotions once in a while, without being condemned by us.
The mother in the video has been working very hard to hold the "collapse" of these days in her heart and has been holding on. Although she casually yelled a few words, it was still gentle compared to everything she had been giving for a long time. As a stranger away from home, I can't understand the hard work of a mother day after day. It's best not to jump to conclusions, but to experience and understand.
This video made me realize that when a mother is fully engaged in the care of her child, the possibility of "collapse" is far greater than we think. After enduring continuous torture, it is possible for any person to lose control. It is important that we should not blame and blame a mother in Chu River. We should let ourselves know more about the hardships of a mother and give sympathy and support.
I hope that the mother can get the understanding and help of her family after calming down. Only by fully respecting and understanding the feelings of parents can we become helpers in the development of children, rather than prejudiced accusers. Human nature, occasionally out of control is excusable. When I saw the video, I shouldn't have the idea of "wanting to fight", but I should understand more about the pressure that the mother was under at that time.
In fact, any loving mother should have the support and understanding of the public while doing her best to take care of her children. We don't want to label a mother as "incompetent" just because of a few yellings. On the contrary, let's use a more inclusive and compassionate attitude to understand the hard-working truth behind a mother.
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