It stands to reason that future and love are two different things.
But there will always be times when the two seem to come into conflict.
For example, two people are not in the same place, so they have to make trade-offs, such as entering into marriage, and the other party asks you to give up your job, such as after getting married, it seems that you can only quit your job for some reasons.
It seems that there will always be times when you need to choose between future and love.
At this time, if your job is not very good, very average, and you can find it if you give up, it doesn't matter.
If your job is good, stable, or rare, then you'd better think twice.
It's better not to give up a good job opportunity just because you're going to get married, because you're going to get married.
It's hard to find again, and you'll regret it.
In this life, good opportunities are very limited.
Many people have never encountered many good opportunities in their lives, but they have always been in a state of pain.
The more people, the good opportunity may only be once, once missed, given up, lost, there will never be again, never have the opportunity to meet again.
Therefore, once you give up your good job easily, when you keep hitting a wall later, you are not satisfied with looking for it, you are always floating in various ways, you have a very turbulent life, and you can't stabilize it at all, you will really feel bad.
It's easy to feel regretful, that you shouldn't have been so hasty, and then keep getting caught up in that self-blame.
Especially, when you get married, you find that marriage is just like this, but it is just boring, money is so important, the other party is not very good to you at all, and the regret in your heart will be infinitely magnified.
How easy it is to give up, how chic it is, how indifferent it is, how regretful it will be after that, how stupid you feel, and how you have been blaming yourself all the time.
And at that time, no matter how much you regret it, it won't help, you can't go back at all, you can't change anything, once you give up, no one will bear all the consequences for you, you can only bear it yourself.
If your career is not good, you will have no confidence.
You think that love is above all else, in fact, a person will choose you, many times it is not so pure, and the other party also sees that you are not bad in all aspects, so you will be willing.
Among them, your good work is always a good blessing, which proves yourself and makes the other party feel that you are valuable, worthwhile, and proud.
There is no denying that many people choose to marry each other because they will look at their work, and many people will even show off with this.
That's your capital, and when you don't care about it, you choose to give up at will, when you don't have a job, even if you work, the job is not good at all, and the income is very small, at that time, your partner, your partner's family, may really become a little different.
A housewife who does not earn money will always have no status in the family, and a person who has a bad job and a very low income will always seem very unconfident in marriage, and it is even difficult to be respected.
Love is romantic, but marriage is realistic, and there is no pampering as always, only if you yourself are strong enough, the other party will value your feelings very much and dare not despise you.
In this life, your income and your good job have always been your survival capital and your best reliance.
If you don't want to make yourself very pitiful later, just expect others to have a conscience, that's unreliable, and you have to stand up yourself.
A good job is always the most reliable.
Marrying someone, even if the other party loves you at the moment and treats you well, it does not guarantee that the other party will never change their mind, and your marriage will never have problems.
Many people love very much at the beginning, and once they don't love anymore, they really have to be as ruthless as they are.
At worst, all kinds of calculations and possessions will make you leave the house, and at worst, you may even turn against yourself and harm your life.
It is very unrealistic to pin your life on one person, and most people with this kind of thinking will only live very carefully, and the final end is often miserable.
Love is not so reliable, but your career, a good job, will be more reliable.
That will allow you to always have an income to support yourself, that will be your best way out, once one day the marriage can't go on, you yourself have the ability to be responsible for yourself, so that you don't have nowhere to go.
There is a place to receive your hukou, there is a house for you to live in, you can guarantee three meals a day, and you can also allow yourself to continue on the road in the future.
When you enter a marriage, of course, you have to manage it well with the other party, and strive for a long time, but at the same time, you can't completely cut off your own back road, the more the other party makes you feel bad, the more you have to know how to plan for yourself.
Whether or not to give up a good job in order to get married, it's better not to.
Unless the other party is in good condition and is willing to share everything with you, unless you find a better one, you will not fall into trouble, unless you will not regret it in the future no matter what, and you will have the courage to start over.
You must think about your own destiny, and you must control it yourself.
Getting married, that doesn't save you, doesn't make you all happy from now on.
It can be said that if you choose to get married, the person you marry may not be able to be responsible for yourself in many cases. If it's a problem for the other person to be responsible for yourself, and you still think that the other person is responsible for you, then it's obviously quite stupid.
Maybe the other party still wants to count on you and want to get a lot out of you.
Always remember that career and love are best both, if there is a conflict, you must decide carefully, the right person will not let you give up your future, but will stand in your future.
Text / Tan Meng
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