We have a production team of four girls in the next year, two of them are married, two of them are married, and two of them are better off than the two who are married.
I have lived such a miserable life in this life, in fact, it has nothing to do with my parents, it is they who have harmed me all my life, but I still want to thank them, thank them for giving me the opportunity to come to this world to taste the ups and downs.
Let's not talk about life before adulthood, because there is no choice, whether it is the shadow of the bad old man or the mental illness of my father, this is an uncontrollable factor.
They shouldn't have manipulated my marriage, they never wanted to marry me to a good family, they were bent on recruiting a son-in-law, and they didn't give me much choice.
My family is only a few miles away from the neighboring towns, if they can think more for me, I will marry in the town if I am not far away, and I will marry in the town, and if I am close to them, can I help them?
The conditions in the town are good, and my child was born at the starting line, can he be as bitter as he is now?
Several girls of the same age in our village married into the town, but now apart from the house in the town, which one has not bought a house in the county or city? Everyone goes out in a small car, but I also ride a small battery car, live in a dilapidated house built more than 20 years ago, and accompany them to suffer in the countryside.
People burn natural gas and use range hoods, and the house is bright and clean, and my family burns firewood everywhere, and even if you want to clean it up, you can't clean it up.
They are also complacent, saving at least 1,000 yuan a year compared to others, but they don't know that my family's life is dozens of light years away from others.
I was only seventeen or eighteen years old, and they were looking for me a partner, as if they had 800 women who hated to marry, and I said that I would wait for two years, and they said that it was better to find the first one, just like buying vegetables, the first person to pick was to pick the good ones, and then the rest was rotten vegetable leaves, and no one necessarily wanted to give them away.
People introduced me to the good conditions on the street, and they pushed them out, saying that I said that I would enter but not say.
Which man with good ability and conditions is willing to come to the door? The matchmaker's eyes can only look at the deep mountains and old forests, and the days can only go back more and more!
They quietly let people get several people to shake in front of me a few times without me, and then pretended to ask me how the person who was with so-and-so that day was, and I always answered no, I didn't see it clearly.
I didn't say yes for a few months, and they stopped doing it, and my mother was there scolding me: "Your heart is so fierce! There are so many jobs in the house, why don't you hurry up and find someone to come back and help do it! You want to grind us to death! Your heart is more poisonous than a snake! ”
My dad is still crying! said that he dragged his daughter for dozens of years, and he still had to do everything by himself, and he couldn't get any light! I don't think he's going to be mentally ill again! Distraught, I let them get too tired of the bombardment, let them look for it!
My heart fell into the ice cave and shivered, how could I have such unreasonable parents? They raised me, but they refused to give me even basic human rights, I was just one of their possessions!
They were busy for a few days before telling me that someone had told me about one, and I would see the people when I found a time.
They may be afraid that I will hide out, and they will not tell me when they know they are coming! I didn't know until everyone was in my yard.
It was winter, and I was sitting there dressed like a hen-hug, with one pair of shoes being one of those big dog-headed shoes, and I had to polish both shoes when I walked.
The clothes have been worn for several days, and the head and body are still stained with the soot from the burning fire, just my ugly and fresh appearance, the matchmaker asked the guy if he had any opinions, and he actually said no opinion!
I wanted to say that I had an opinion, but when I saw that my mother's face was as black as the bottom of a pot, I had to say that I had no opinion, and my mother's face immediately burst into laughter!
What I didn't expect was that at that glance, people hadn't seen what they looked like, and to be honest, they were walking on the road, and they didn't know each other, so they were engaged to me! said that everyone was engaged and they were going to get along, did they reverse the order?
One day I came back from the market, my mom was smiling, and my dad couldn't even close his mouth and laughed! They happily said that the family was so rich, it was 50,000 yuan! It felt like their daughter was selling for what a good price! I'll always remember their smug faces.
There is also a person in the comment area who scolded me for being ignorant, and I still live in my mother's house every day, don't I have my own home? There is no excuse for the sin you want to add! Is that what I want to stay here?!
Later, I learned that the matchmaker asked them to get engaged to get 10,000 2, but they didn't want to, saying that the money was there, but it was saved for a fixed period and did not expire, and what they brought was three regular orders with a total face value of 10,000 2, and my blind mother didn't know how to see it as 50,000! Isn't that still capitalized? And as if the fifty thousand were already beckoning to them, they were even more desperate to get engaged!
They picked the days, they invited the guests, and they spent hundreds of dollars on groceries, and urged me to go to the street to buy a pair of shoes, buy a set of clothes, and buy a new set for my new aunt from head to toe, and I couldn't even drop my socks. It took almost ten years with that dog man until the divorce, and I didn't even wear a few dollars a pair of underwear, let alone a coat!
On the day of the engagement, my uncle wanted to say a few words to him, and his uncle took it and said that he had a cold and an uncomfortable throat, and after dinner, his family gave me 1,002 and said that it was a meeting gift, and the matchmaker took me to their house.
The day I arrived at his house was really unlucky, I had to transfer the car twice, but there was no car that day, and a group of us walked to death with tired feet.
After returning to his house, I heard him speak, he didn't have a cold, but he couldn't speak well, a few words are no problem, if the sentence is long, it won't work, it is what we usually call "tongue", such as CCTV he can't say, the sound is "curtain", I wanted to leave at that time, but it was late, the road was far away, and I had to live for one night.
One wrong step, one wrong step! Mistakes on top of mistakes! If you can't afford to stop losses in time, you will lose in the end and collapse
The matchmaker and I came back the next day, and I told my mom that the man couldn't say anything, so forget it!
My mother said that I was not a big deal, and it was unlucky to withdraw from the marriage as soon as I got engaged! And if we don't agree, we will return 1,002 to others, and we will spend so much to buy shoes and clothes for him in our lives, so we can only lose, how cost-effective!
A few days later, he came to pick me up and go to his house to play, I didn't want to go, my parents urged me to go, and everyone came to pick you up to give people face.
After dinner that night, we were all watching TV in his house, and his mother said that she was going to go to his eldest son's side to see Ha, and he didn't come back after a long time, and his father said that he went to find his mother and came back.
I was still staring at the TV, he didn't know when he closed the door, and by the time I found out it was too late, I cried and fussed and scratched the skin of his hands, and finally he succeeded.
I was still crying, his parents came back, his father pretended to beat him, chased him away, and his mother pretended to coax me: "Oh! I'm so sorry for you, why did he do a bastard thing after a while? I asked his dad to beat him to death! ”
I'm still crying, and my mother said that women have to go through it sooner or later, anyway, you are all from our family, and we will be responsible.
With the increase of time together, I found more and more problems with him, in addition to not speaking well, he also loves to lie and is a typical mom boy, his wife is fragrant when she farts!
Countless times I wanted to end our relationship, as long as I mentioned it, he said that it was all his person, and which man would want me, if you don't believe it, return the 1200 yuan to him, and try to see if there is anyone who has slept with him.
I'm angry when I mention that 1200! The relatives who entertained him spent hundreds of yuan to buy vegetables, fruits, snacks, and clothes and shoes, and the 1,200 was almost gone. He ate my family, wore my family, ruined my innocence, and they didn't even put a single wiring on me, and they wanted to take the 1200 back! Is this still a bit of a heavenly thing?
I have to say that I was really simple-minded at that time, and I was also a tendon, compared with those days later, the 1200 yuan and that membrane were a fart! As the break continued, I stepped into a nightmare that lasted almost a decade.
The dilapidated house I live in now was actually sold by me, but the difference is that it was only sold to one person for a one-time fee, and later a lot of money was returned to others, and the years I slept with others were only interest
At that time, my house was the kind of blue brick house, and now if you see such a house somewhere, you will feel kind, but at that time, the people around me built the building, and my house was placed there to show one word - poor!
It is the obsession of parents to build a new house, and they have been thinking about the 50,000 yuan! When I got engaged, I said yes, and I got married when the house was repaired. The long-cherished wish to live in a new house made them impatient, and discussed with the family, who said that the term expired and transferred, but they didn't take the money.
In fact, they were waiting for my belly to get bigger, so it wouldn't cost anything. But their dream was destined to come to naught, and even without any measures, my belly just didn't get bigger.
Later, my parents finally got angry, and said that since they didn't want to, forget it, and everyone wouldn't delay each other. The family panicked, and hurriedly came to make peace, and my parents still used the money to repair the house and get married.
The person I also called my mother said, I brought the 12,000 deposit certificate I took last time, or I will take it to you for safekeeping and wait for it to expire.
My mother was stunned, what 12,000? Isn't it fifty thousand? That's when I realized that I had made a big oolong. How can 12,000 repair a house? Of course they didn't do it, and then I just watched them haggle like buying and selling goods, and I ended up closing for 20,000 yuan, ridiculous, right? My life is a mess, and it has nothing to do with my own cowardice and my parents' greed for money.
After the price is negotiated, they resolutely do not want her deposit certificate to be cash, the interest is not interested, and the deposit single family can take the ID card to report the loss, how can there be banknotes in their hands? It is equivalent to a piece of waste paper.
The family was heartbroken and withdrew the money, but asked for a marriage license, and I was like a marionette tossed by them, handing over the money with one hand and delivering the goods with the other, and the next day the money arrived in my parents' hands, I was forced to get the certificate.
That year, they had just paid off the money that my brother had borrowed from my uncle for study, and the family had cut down some trees to make doors and windows, but this was not enough, so they borrowed some money from others, and barely built the main body of the house, and they still owed the plasterer's wages, and the wages I paid for helping people to process down jackets that year happened to fill the hole.
It was 2001, and my house cost more than 30,000 yuan to build, plus the usable wood bricks that were removed from the original house were also patched, and it was estimated that it would cost more than 40,000 yuan if I bought a new one.
My parents finally got their wish to live in the new house of their dreams, even if the decoration was not only scraped with white ash and tiles, they were also very satisfied, as if the waist board could be straightened, and they didn't want to think about how it came about, why was it so natural and at ease?
In the past, when he looked at people's households, his mother pointed to a few nanmu trees behind his house in front of the matchmaker and said that it was for you to use furniture in the future, and your two sisters used nanmu furniture for marriage, and your second brother was a carpenter.
Looking at the empty room, there was not even a curtain, we slept on a creaking 1.2 meter wide shelf bed, I became more and more eager for furniture, I wanted to make a spacious bed!
Curtains he said no, anyway, there is a field opposite my house and no one is home, in the morning you can see the clouds floating, the river is flowing, and the birds are flying, how good! Why do you have to spend money to get a piece of cloth to block it?
I asked him what about the Nanmu furniture he was talking about, and he said that he was separated from their brother, and his brother was not allowed to do it if he didn't give money to the furniture, so I said that if I gave money, I would give money, and I would get a bed first!
As a result, people can't even give up wood! Say that you doze off when you fall asleep, and what kind of bed do you bother to make? Also, which fisherman will feed the fish after catching it?
Until the divorce, we slept in the broken bed, and then it was not that we had no money to buy it, anyway, I just didn't buy it, why should we share half of the money paid by labor and management for you to sleep?
I sleep in bed when it's cold, I sleep underground when it's hot, and people are also used to it, where I sleep, he sleeps, and if he has money, he will give it to his mother. My relationship with him has lasted for nearly ten years, and he has given me a total of more than 1,800 yuan, of which 1,200 is still given in the first year of divorce, which means that in the first seven or eight years, a husband of his husband gave his wife a total of only more than 600 yuan!
You may not believe it, but even I think it's ridiculous now, I can't believe it, how could I have lived like that for nearly ten years? Serious suspicion that he is as mentally ill as his father! I wanted to explode this paragraph, but the platform review couldn't pass it.
The reason why he was so generous the year before the divorce and gave me twice as much money as I had in the previous seven or eight years, maybe he also felt that I was staying away and wanted to save it!
Even if he is full of shortcomings, after getting married, I still want to live my life with peace of mind, but people don't want to live it!
said that he lived in my house, but every day in his own house, both ends of the parents should do the work, and they should all help. He finished his work from head to toe, and after finishing it, he went to help his two brothers do it, and my family was perfunctory, you said he hadn't done it, and people had touched everything, you said he had done it, and he didn't do anything neatly, and the big head was still on my parents and me.
And I also stared at my parents when I did some work, and my parents didn't go out when they didn't go out, and they didn't do it when they got to the field. Occasionally, when I went out a day early, my parents were behind, and he would say strange things in the field that people don't speak: "Why haven't your parents come out yet?" Isn't it teasing insects in the house (meaning my parents are doing that in bed) and haven't been pulled off yet? ”
I'm fucking MD bastard! What's the difference between this and an animal in a captivity? made him angry, and I unceremoniously scolded him, scolding whatever was ugly.
My mom sometimes hears me talking to him "your mom, your dad" and scolds me, mom is mom, dad is dad, what's your family, my family? It's not that I want to divide so clearly, it's that people want to divide well?
These are small episodes in the disharmony of our lives, and our biggest contradiction is that our in-laws are biased, and he is an authentic mother-in-law, and we can't have children.
His father and mother are talking all day long, every family is small, and the land and family property are the most, what is the use of more? I didn't get a single penny of work, I paid, I worked hard, and it all went into my in-laws' pockets!
His family wants to plant seven or eight pounds of corn buds, from breeding, transplanting, fertilization, harvest I participated in the whole process, still transplanting when the mother-in-law said to wait for the harvest back point back to feed pigs, feed chickens, the result of the harvest, reluctant! Saying that the top is feeding the chickens and pigs, and the chickens and pigs are feeding, and the bottom is feeding the pigs or feeding, what are you doing with all the effort to move around?
His family's tea leaves are several times that of my family, and my imagination is beautiful, since it is divided, then it must be mine. The first time I picked tea in the spring, I did a good job in the field, my in-laws and his together did not pick as much as me, I sat at the table with my mother-in-law in the evening, he sold the tea happily and reached out to hand over the money.
I was so happy that I immediately reached out to take it, but he missed me handing the money to his own mother, and I still stretched out my hand like a neurotic, really I have never let people slap me in the face like this in my life!
But my mother-in-law took the money and put it in her pocket as a matter of course, and didn't give me a single penny! I'm just going to help people pick them, and people will pay me for it, right?
After working for many days, I still didn't get a penny, in his words, when my in-laws died, all this was mine, and the family still paid for it, and he didn't ask for money to work with my family. The problem is that they don't know how long it will be before they die, but I need money to live!
I said, or we don't want the things on this mountain, we go to work to earn money to live our own lives, but he doesn't do it, saying that the two old ones can't do so much work.
Later, I learned that all the fields of my in-laws had long been divided equally among the eldest brother and the second brother, although he is now also the land of two people, one is his own, and one is his second sister's, the eldest sister's land was retreated to the production team after marriage, and the second sister had implemented the policy of "not advancing in life and not retreating in death" when she got married, so she left a piece of land.
I also said, since you are reluctant to do this, then we will plant the land ourselves, let the two old men rest, and see how much grain each brother weighs, how much money he takes, and how much meat he cuts every year, and one of them will give a portion, so that the two old men will not have to work. If the old man is sick, everyone will share the amount of money spent, no matter who I ask outside, it is impossible to say that I am unreasonable, right?
But people still don't do it, saying that the land has been distributed to two brothers and sisters-in-law for many years, and they have never weighed a grain and taken a penny.
In the third year, they seemed to have figured it out, but they really couldn't do it, and they divided half of the tea garden to us, but the whole tea garden fertilization and medicine were all us, which was equivalent to two old ones making net money with a pair of hands, and they had to help them pick if they couldn't finish picking, and they had to make up a hundred for them to sell eighty.
I didn't give them too much care, but I was finally willing to give me a share, saying that the half they picked would not be given to me until I gave birth to a baby.
I was picking tea there, and my father-in-law put on his lips that "rice costs more than a pound of money" all day long, and the rice at that time was only seven or eight cents a pound, not to mention, the rice produced in their fields was completely enough to eat, and there was no need to buy it, which meant that I had eaten a lot of rice from his family.
When I was at their house, his family made meat and ate all the fat meat, and I couldn't eat a single piece of it. I picked tea for a few days and came back after a two-day delay and went again, and found that there was obviously less lean meat hanging on the beams of his house. After picking the tea leaves in one season, I haven't seen a single piece of his lean meat.
Oh no, I still eat, this person can't say nonsense with a conscience, once his relatives came and I ate a stewed pig's trotters, that day the sister-in-law was not at home, and the mother-in-law left a big bowl of meat and vegetables for her.
Finally scraped together a few thousand dollars, he wants to buy a motorcycle, I think about it, it is convenient to buy a car to get on and off, it is not so suitable to rush the car, and it takes more than an hour to walk.
When I bought a motorcycle, I sold more than 1,000 tea money, and I borrowed money from my in-laws, and my dad also sponsored 500 when he was a family, and then the tea picked to repay my in-laws' money, I almost didn't see the money, anyway, a year is equivalent to doing it in vain.
I don't know how there is such a superb thing in this world, and I just met it! People are unreasonable, and it is not something that others can imagine.
In the winter of the year I bought a motorcycle, I went out to make a down jacket and came back, he said that I earned the money and came back, otherwise we should go to the hospital to check it out, if there is a problem, it will be treated, and there will be a doll to hold and be comfortable in two days, and there will be someone for us in two days, don't wait for outsiders to say that the two people can't give birth to one!
I said, why should I pay alone, but you don't pay? The doll is not my doll! He said where did I have the money? Didn't you give you all the money for this season's tea?
I instantly became furious: "Let your ancestor's dog fart!" The money for your tea was handed over to the labor, and then you turned around and used it to buy a motorcycle, and my dad also posted 500 for you! Your G baby on G day rides around every day like a shopping god, and to this day labor and management have never sat once! Why do you open your mouth and say that the money is mine? ”
I haven't sat in the car, it's not that he won't let me sit, he is deaf and rides a car to fly all over the world, the craftsmanship is not good, the mountain road is bent and narrow, I am afraid that I will have my life to sit on it and not get off the car.
I decided that I would not be contaminated with his things! There's no way, there's no evidence to prove it, if one day he says I took a million from him, I can't tell him! There are many other things that have been written in previous articles, so I won't repeat them here.
I was completely dead and filed for divorce, he said that his original 20,000 yuan is now worth at least 200,000, let me give him 200,000 and divorce, I don't have 200,000 to him, and I don't want to see him again.
I asked him how to count the youth he spent with him for so many years? He brazenly said, "Yours is meat, and mine is not meat?" You are comfortable, I am comfortable, everyone is happy, what do you want to mention? ”
I really can't get involved with such a bastard, and then I went to Chengdu to work, and I still want to divorce after earning some money. After consulting a lawyer, I realized that it was not what he said, and the money would definitely be returned, but it was impossible for him to return as much as he said.
Later, after many difficulties, we divorced through the court, and I will tell another story about our divorce process in the future. In short, I spent nearly ten years in exchange for a body injury, slept with others for ten years, and finally added 500 to the 20,000 yuan bride price given by others at the beginning. #农村寡妇忆平生#