01
It is often said that men change.
In order to marry you, a man can put his posture very low and low, just to achieve the goal. But once he has achieved his goal, he will revert to his original state, and even become hateful.
I used to be dismissive of this, no one will change, and it is human nature to change. It wasn't until my parents helped us take care of our children for 10 years, but my husband wanted to replace his own parents to take over, that I realized that some men are selfish by nature.
02
I married my husband upside down, which is considered a low marriage. At that time, my low marriage caused my parents to be ridiculed by relatives and friends.
My parents have never been able to raise their heads, and all my relatives and friends think that I can't get married so that I will stick to my husband so disregarding the bottom line, otherwise I, an only daughter with a good family background, how could I choose a phoenix man like my husband who wants to have no family background.
The parents agreed to the marriage with red eyes and grievances. I know they hate iron but not steel, but I don't want to go against my original intention and insist on getting married.
In order to let me have a grand and lively marriage and not let others look down on me, my parents bought me a dowry house and gave me a dowry of 100,000 yuan.
03
All the major events after marriage, my pregnancy and childbirth, confinement and other trivial matters, are basically taken care of by my parents, and they contribute money and efforts without complaints.
And my parents-in-law seem to be sure that their son has eaten me, and they have pinched my parents, and they always refuse to show up for various reasons, for fear that they will suffer.
While wiping my tears, my parents silently helped me deal with the aftermath and did not let me feel wronged. But even so, my husband's attitude towards my parents is not necessarily very good.
Perhaps, at the beginning, I asked my parents, but my husband's attitude was still very filial and respectful. But the more my parents give, the more my husband enjoys it with peace of mind, and he doesn't even have verbal filial gratitude.
04
My parents broke their hearts for me. As soon as my mother retired, she came to help me take care of the children, and the area was ten years. When my father retired, he also came to my house to help with the housework. My mom is in charge of taking care of the children, and my dad is in charge of grocery shopping, cooking, hygiene, and housework.
And the in-laws will not come once a year, let alone take the initiative to buy clothes and toys for the two children. For the in-laws, perhaps the two grandchildren who have been raised by them are the ones they care about.
I thought that my mother-in-law and I lived in one place and were safe. As a result, ten years have passed, and the two children have grown up one after another, and the parents-in-law who have been taking care of the children for the younger brother-in-law want to come to my house to pick my parents' ready-made peaches.
My husband said with a look of empathy: "Mom and Dad, thanks to you all these years, we can have no worries about the future." Now that the two children have grown up and can take care of themselves, you have worked hard for so many years, and you should go back to your own home to recuperate and enjoy your old age. I'm going to let my parents take over the baby, and you go back to take care of the kids. ”
05
My husband's words surprised me and my parents. At the beginning, my husband asked her mother-in-law for help countless times, but her mother-in-law refused, saying that she was unwilling to leave her hometown to take care of the children.
My husband was a little sneering and said, it was the beginning, and now it is now. Now my parents are old and have never lived with my eldest son. I also have to take them to do my filial piety, let them see the outside world, and enjoy life.
The parents looked at each other, they were originally kind and soft-hearted people, and when the son-in-law said this, they were naturally soft-hearted.
But I don't agree, why, the coolest, most tiring and difficult time, my mother-in-law was serving my brother-in-law's family in my hometown, and now she is sick, but my husband pretended to say that he wanted to help us take care of the children, what kind of heart is this?
06
I can imagine with my toes that my in-laws came to my house with a sickness, called to bring grandchildren, but in fact, they came to see the elderly for the elderly, and by the way, let the eldest son and daughter-in-law serve.
I didn't agree, but my parents persuaded me to forget it, they had been with their children for 10 years, tired of illness, and wanted to go back to their own home to recuperate and recuperate.
But I refused, even if my parents wanted to go back to their own homes to care for the elderly, they couldn't go back in this way. I turned around and went back to the room to draw up a divorce agreement, threw it in front of my husband, and asked him to sign it, so that I could directly fulfill his filial piety.
When I saw the divorce agreement, I asked him to leave the house, and my husband was immediately annoyed, I also supported my family, why should I leave the house?
07
I sneered and listed them to him one by one, the house was bought by my parents, my parents paid for it before I got pregnant and gave birth, and even the mortgage my parents subsidized me with 3,000 per month, and as for the expenses after the birth of the two children, my parents also bear most of the expenses.
My husband's face became more and more ugly, I ignored it and once again exposed his hypocrisy: "Your parents haven't spent a penny from the time we got married to the time our two children grew up. ”
I asked my husband to sign a divorce agreement immediately, so that he could go to his parents as soon as possible to fulfill his filial piety. Seeing me coming, my husband confessed and said that I was just casually mentioning, if you don't want to do it, it's a big deal that I give my parents 3,000 yuan a month for living expenses.
I didn't let him go, and directly asked for it, you give your parents 3,000 a month, and you have to give my parents 3,000, and both parents must be treated equally. My husband touched his salary card, which was only 8,000 yuan a month, and suddenly died down.
Some men just can't recognize the facts. Poor and lowly couples mourn everything, obviously it is his parents-in-law who support this family for him, but he is so arrogant that he thinks that he has supported it by his own strength.