Awakening at the dinner table
My name is Lin Yue, and I am an ordinary working woman and the mother of a five-year-old girl. I grew up in a traditional family of four with an older brother who was a few years older than me, named Lin Hao. Since I got married and had children, the focus of our lives has gradually shifted to our respective families, but family affection has always been the constant bond between us.
My daughter Xiaoya is lively and cute, innocent and innocent. She is the pearl of our whole family, especially his brother Lin Hao and his wife Li Mei, who love Xiaoya. However, it is this pampering, at some point, that also brings some unexpected contradictions and conflicts.
I remember it was a weekend afternoon, the sun was just right, and the breeze was not dry. Our family came together to celebrate my nephew's fifth birthday. My nephew Kobayashi is the only son of my brother and Lin Mei, and his birthday means a lot to us. For this special day, I have prepared a sumptuous dinner, which of course includes the children's favorite shrimp.
Dinner began in a congenial and welcoming atmosphere. Adults toasted and talked, while children frolicked and played. When a plate of delicious shrimp was served, Xiaoya's eyes immediately lit up. Excitedly, she picked up a shrimp with chopsticks, carefully peeled off the shell, and ate it contentedly.
At first, I didn't notice how much shrimp Xiaoya ate. It wasn't until there were only the last few left on the plate that I realized she might have eaten a little too much. However, at this moment, the mother suddenly spoke: "Xiaoya, why did you eat so many shrimps?" This is a birthday party for Xiaolin, you have to know how to share and be polite. ”
Mother's words made the atmosphere tense all of a sudden. Xiaoya was frightened by the sudden reproach, she stopped the chopsticks in her hand, and tears flashed in her eyes. I looked at my daughter's aggrieved appearance, and I felt very uncomfortable. I tried to explain, "Mom, Xiaoya is still young, she may not understand these rules. And today is Kobayashi's birthday, so it's okay to let her eat more. ”
However, my words did not quell my mother's anger. Instead, she said more harshly, "How can you say that? From an early age, the child should be taught to understand the rules and be educated. You indulge her like this, and you will only make her more willful. ”
At this time, Li Mei also joined in. She whispered along with her mother's words and said, "Yes, Xiaoya should indeed learn to share. She ate so many shrimps, but Xiao Lin didn't eat much. ”
Hearing this, a nameless fire welled up in my heart. I think their words are a bit excessive, and even some are aimed at me and Xiaoya. I began to reflect, is there really a problem with Xiaoya's education? Did I really indulge her and make her not understand the manners and rules?
However, just as I was deep in thought, Xiaoya suddenly stood up. She walked up to her mother and Li Mei, lowered her head and said, "Grandma, auntie, I'm sorry. I didn't know it was Kobayashi's birthday party, I shouldn't have eaten so many shrimp. I'll keep an eye out for it later. ”
Xiaoya's words shocked me. I didn't expect her to take the initiative to apologize in this situation. Her sensibility and kindness touched me both and made me feel guilty. I realized that my previous thinking and approach were wrong. I should pay more attention to Xiaoya's growth and education, rather than being swayed by the voices of the outside world.
I decided to take action to change all that. I walked up to Xiaoya, hugged her gently, and said, "Xiaoya, you're not wrong. You're a good boy and mom loves you forever. However, we also need to learn to respect others and share. Next time we have to remember to leave some for others on special days. ”
Then, I turned to my mother and Li Mei and said, "Mom, Li Mei, thank you for reminding Xiaoya. I will pay more attention to her growth and education. At the same time, I hope you can understand my feelings and position as a mother. We are a family and should understand and support each other. ”
My words softened the atmosphere. Both Mother and Li Mei nodded their heads in understanding and support. We sat back down and continued to enjoy this intimate birthday party.
Since then, I have begun to pay more attention to Xiaoya's education and training. I taught her how to respect others, how to share, how to be a cultured person. At the same time, I also try to communicate and communicate with my family members to make each other more understanding and supportive.
As time passed, Xiaoya gradually became more sensible and mature. She learned to share, care for others, and respect her elders. I am extremely pleased and proud of her growth. At the same time, my relationship with my family has become closer and more harmonious.
This story made me deeply realize that as parents and loved ones, we should pay more attention to the growth and education of our children. We should guide them with love and patience to become nurtured, loving, and responsible people. At the same time, we should also understand and support each other, so that the family is full of warmth and happiness.