Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
When people reach middle age, marriage often goes through many changes.
With the passage of time, the relationship between husband and wife has gradually changed from the initial passion and romance to a deep sense of family affection and responsibility.
This kind of change is not actually a weakening of feelings, but a more stable and long-lasting emotional connection.
So, when people reach middle age, what is the most comfortable marital state between husband and wife?
In fact, the answer can be boiled down to three simple words: understand, and, pro.
01
"Understand" - mutual understanding, have a heart
"Understand" is the most rare tacit understanding between middle-aged couples.
This tacit understanding is not a simple understanding of each other, but an understanding that goes deep into the bone marrow.
When two people are together, they can understand each other's needs and expectations, and they can achieve spiritual communication without too many words.
As the saying goes, "Knowing a husband is not a wife, knowing a wife is a wife".
Marriage is a long-term journey, and both husband and wife should strive to understand each other's hearts and feel each other's joys and sorrows.
This kind of "understanding" is the understanding and tacit understanding that has been precipitated over the years, and it is the most valuable wealth between husband and wife.
Mr. Zhang and his wife are middle-aged, and Mr. Zhang usually has a lot of work pressure and often works overtime until late at night.
Whenever he came home exhausted, his wife could always see his hard work, make him a cup of hot tea early, and be by his side gently.
Mr. Zhang often said: "She understands me, which makes me feel very happy, and no matter how hard it is, it is worth it." ”
This state of mutual understanding is a great happiness for middle-aged couples.
02
"Harmony" - live in harmony and respect each other
"Harmony" is the most ideal state of getting along between middle-aged couples.
In daily life, two people can get along harmoniously, respect each other, and support each other.
This state of respect not only makes the marriage full of happiness and joy, but also makes the relationship between husband and wife deeper.
As the ancients said, "Home and everything prospers." ”
A harmonious family is the result of the couple's hard work.
In married life, we must learn to cherish and be grateful for each other's contributions, respect each other's thoughts and feelings, and complain and blame less.
Only in this way can home be a truly warm harbor for us.
Mr. Wang and his wife have been married for many years, and the relationship between the two has always been very good, and they are the envy of everyone.
Whenever they encounter problems or disputes, they can always sit down calmly and communicate and solve them carefully.
Mr. Wang said: "We have never quarreled with each other, and we are both very understanding and tolerant of each other. ”
This harmonious mode of getting along makes the marriage of middle-aged couples full of happiness.
03
"Kiss" - intimate, mutual affection
"Kiss" is the most sincere emotional expression between middle-aged couples.
Two people can maintain an intimate relationship in life and face the ups and downs of life together.
This sense of intimacy is the precipitation of feelings between each other, and it is mutual dependence and trust.
Because of this, when encountering the ups and downs of life, they are willing to support each other and face them together.
As the saying goes, "young couples come together in old age". As the years go by, the relationship between middle-aged couples will grow deeper.
Therefore, we must learn to cherish this hard-won intimacy and take care of this marriage with our hearts.
If we do that, we will be able to have a soulmate to spend the rest of our lives with in our old age.
Mr. Zhao's marriage is a good example, and they have been married for decades and have always maintained a close relationship. No matter what problems they encounter, they can always support each other and never give up.
Mr. Zhao said: "The relationship between us is like an old wine, the older it gets, the more fragrant it becomes. ”
This intimate relationship has made their marriage the happiest.
"Understand, harmony, and intimacy", this is the most comfortable marriage state between middle-aged couples.
These three words condense the deep feelings and tacit understanding between husband and wife, and become the most powerful support for a long-term marriage.
As Tolstoy said, "Happy families are all alike, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes." ”
May we all cherish the partners around us with our hearts and embrace our happy marriage.