When it comes to willfulness, the first thing that comes to everyone's mind is a little girl. As soon as they encounter something unhappy, they begin to cry with a pout; Sometimes their unreasonable demands are not met, and they become unreasonable. At such times, many parents either satisfy them immediately or scold them harshly, and few can calm down and talk to their children.
In fact, girls' willfulness is often because they have some kind of psychological needs, or it may be because they have too much negative energy. If parents are always obedient to them, they may become more and more willful; But if you rebuke them, you may make them rebellious.
For example, 10-year-old Ru Min came home one day and said to her mother: "Mom, many of my classmates have better mobile phones than mine, and I also want a new mobile phone with many functions." Ru Min's mobile phone is still very new, but her mother felt that it was unnecessary to buy a new phone, so she refused. Ru Min said loudly: "I'm going to buy it!" If you don't buy it for me, I won't go to school! After saying that, he threw his old phone on the table, ran back to the room, and slammed the door shut.
Mom was so angry that she felt that Ru Min was just messing around. In fact, such wayward behavior is very common among girls. They have to get what they want, or they lose their temper.
But you know what? The willfulness of girls is not only innate, but also has a lot to do with the way parents educate them. Some parents respond to their children's requests and give them whatever they want. In this way, the child will feel that as long as he wants, Mom and Dad will satisfy him. Moreover, girls are better at observing the reactions of adults, and if we spoil them too much, they will become more and more headstrong.
As parents, we certainly want to show love by satisfying our children's needs, but oversatisfying is actually pampering our children. This will make them feel that they are all right and must be met. This negative energy will make them lose their self-control, and they may encounter many problems when they enter society in the future.
So, when it comes to raising girls, we need to set some rules of conduct that tell them what they can and can't do. At the same time, it is important to tell them why they can't do certain things and help them establish the right standards of behavior.
If they are still crying, we can ignore them as long as it is safe to do so and let them calm down on their own. When they find that crying is useless, they naturally stop doing it.
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