As the saying goes, "children's words are unmowed", in this modern society, are children's words really untably?
Event details
On May 16, a news of "a 34-year-old girl accosted by a sixth-grade boy" rushed to the headlines. Such news quickly attracted the attention of many netizens.
It is reported that on the evening of May 15, Ms. Li took her 10-year-old child for a walk in a small square near her home as usual after dinner. After arriving near the gym equipment in the square, Ms. Li let the children play on their own, while she sat and rested.
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Soon after sitting down, a little boy came running up to Ms. Li with a basketball in his arms, and the little boy said, "You are so well maintained!" Ms. Li didn't hear clearly at first, and asked, "What?" The little boy repeated again: "You are so well maintained." ”
Ms. Li was also puzzled why the little boy suddenly ran over and said that he was well maintained, but Ms. Li didn't think much about it, and it was boring to sit, so she chatted with the boy and I said a word.
Ms. Li asked, "Why?" How old do you think I am? The little boy slapped the basketball and said, "You look like you're in your twenties." Ms. Li is actually in her thirties this year, and she is also happier to see the little boy praising her youth, and then pointed to her child and said, "He is almost ten years old." ”
The boy said, "I'm in the sixth grade." The little boy's words also made Ms. Li a little confused and didn't understand what it meant. Then he said: "I don't have maintenance, I usually exercise and fitness." ”
While Ms. Li spoke, the little boy threw the basketball in his hand to his companion and sat down next to Ms. Li. opened his mouth and said: "Sure enough, the figure is so good." ”
Ms. Li was also stunned for a moment when she heard this, but seeing that the other party was a little boy, she didn't care, and continued to chat politely with her, chatting and chatting The little boy suddenly made a very impolite request, and the little boy stood up and said that he wanted to hug Ms. Li.
Ms. Li was frightened at this time, and suddenly said at a loss: "I am more than 100 pounds." This is already a clear rejection of this little boy. When the little boy saw Ms. Li like this, he didn't understand what Ms. Li meant, thinking that Ms. Li was worried that he wouldn't be able to hold him, so he hurriedly added: "I can really do it, I can pick up my mother." ”
Although Ms. Li felt a little offended, she still thought about how to refuse the little boy, and then asked, "How much does your mother weigh?" The boy replied, "My mother has 100 pounds." When Ms. Li heard this, she said, "I'm 104." This means that she is heavier than the little boy's mother, and if he can't hold it, it is also a polite refusal.
I don't know if this little boy understands and pretends not to understand or what's wrong, but he doesn't care about Ms. Li's refusal. still insisted: "It's okay, it's okay to have an extra 4 pounds, don't feel embarrassed." ”
Ms. Li had already seen that the little boy had some bad thoughts at this time, why did she suddenly hug herself when she had nothing to do? But he still behaved more politely and said: "No, you have the strength to hang the horizontal bar, why do you have to hug me, I'm afraid." ”
The boy still reluctantly asked, "What are you afraid of?" Ms. Li smiled awkwardly and said, "I'm afraid you'll fall me." The boy said, "No." ”
After that, Ms. Li did not entangle with the little boy anymore and took her child home. The more I thought about it when I got home, the more I felt that something was wrong, was this little boy's behavior too precocious? So I chose to post the video online.
Netizen evaluation
With the video going online, many netizens began to pay attention and expressed their opinions.
Some netizens said: "If this little boy is my child's classmate, I will definitely keep my child away from him, he is no longer a social cow, this is a serious psychological problem." ”
Some netizens said: "As a man, I can tell you for sure that this boy's idea is not simple. "Adolescent boys, unfathomable, can do anything. ”
Some netizens said: "Let's just say it, the age of the Law on the Protection of Minors has to be lowered", "Is this considered verbal harassment?" ”
Some netizens said: "Children have no other meaning, just the simple meaning between men and women." ”
Lawyer's interpretation
In response to Ms. Li's experience this time, some lawyers have interpreted this.
The lawyer said that judging from the whole video, the little boy's accosting was very rhythmic. Although it was a little offensive, there was no rudeness in the whole process. Ms. Li never minded when facing a boy who was about the same age as her own child.
However, if we think about it from another angle, if the boy is a little older and an adult, and makes the same request, is there a suspicion of sexual harassment and suspected indecency? Because the little boy's words and deeds have crossed the line.
If we assume that the boy does come forward and forcibly hug the lady, within the current legal framework, the sixth grader will not be punished because he is under the age of 14.
Maybe it's because the boy is cheerful and willing to socialize, maybe the boy is too precocious, or maybe it's because we adults have dirty thoughts. However, in this day and age, whether the words minors and children can be equated is a question worth pondering.
Write at the end
What does it mean that a child who is only in the sixth grade is supposed to be innocent and carefree playing, but he runs to talk to an adult? It shows that some children have lost their innocence prematurely in the process of growing up. The pace of a child's growth is accelerated by certain factors. In short, "precocious".
In this era, the Internet is so developed, and the information on the Internet is like a flood of beasts, and children are exposed to a much richer world than when we were children, and it is also complex and multifaceted. With so much information, do children really have the ability to distinguish between true and false information, right and wrong?
In Xiaobian's view, children are children, whether psychologically or physically, they also need the guidance of teachers and parents, so that they are exposed to so much information too early, it is undoubtedly a huge challenge for them, precocious children have set foot in the emotional world of adults early, but these things are far beyond their understanding, not to mention children, now some adults are still confused in the face of feelings, how can children deal with emotional things?
As parents, in the face of the problem of children's precocious puberty, we must take it seriously, understand that precocious puberty is not a sign of children's growth, but a warning, especially remind us to pay attention to the environment in which children grow up, to filter out the information that is not suitable for them, so as not to let these dirty things pollute the child's innocent childhood.
Take more time to talk to your children, understand what they are thinking, and give them the right guidance. Of course, every child is unique and has their own pace of growth. As parents of children, we have a responsibility to protect their childhood so that they mature in a healthy way at the right time.
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