Young people wonder: Why do elderly people not like to live with their children? The septuagenarian spoke her mind

Is it because the children are not filial or the old people are too lazy and hypocritical? Why do more and more elderly people not like to live with their children? The septuagenarian spoke her mind.

In the past, if any young person said that he did not want to live with his parents, the old man would feel that his children disliked them and were not filial! It's really different now, the minds of the elderly are progressing too fast! Children want to live with their parents, but the elderly are not happy. Why?

Aunt Wang was widowed in her early years, and she was a father and a mother who raised her son, and she never remarried. Now he is 70 years old, and his son is also married and has his own small family.

The son has always wanted to take Aunt Wang to live with him, so that they can take care of each other. But Aunt Wang was unwilling, preferring to live alone rather than go to her son's house.

Why? asked Aunt Wang in every possible way to tell her heart, and it turned out to be these three reasons.

First, free babysitting, thankless

Living with children, laundry, cooking, and cleaning are basically the elderly's bag, and they have to take care of children. Every day is a lot of work. Young people swipe their mobile phones whenever they have time, and children don't care, and they don't help the trash can when it is emptied. The old man is not used to saying two words, and he will quarrel again. Just like a free babysitter, it depends on the face of the child!

It is better not to live together in the first place, so that their young couple can develop the habit of doing housework and taking care of children. This can cultivate their sense of responsibility for the family, after all, the elderly cannot accompany their children for a lifetime.

Xiao Li's family downstairs is the best example, his mother did all the housework before, and now that his mother is gone, he can't do any work, and he doesn't want to do it, and his daughter-in-law has to go to work and do housework to avoid complaints, resulting in two quarrels for three days.

Now some men are like this, they are spoiled by their mothers, and people in their thirties and forties still have to be served by their mothers. has become a mother's treasure, and it will not be possible to leave my mother.

Second, the living habits of the two generations are different

The old man likes to go to bed early and get up early, sometimes he works overtime when he is young, sometimes he goes out to socialize, and he doesn't come back until eleven or twelve o'clock. In the morning, the old man got up early in the morning and began to mop the floor and wash clothes.

The old man has bad teeth and likes to eat soft and rotten meals, and prefers light food, while the young man likes heavy taste.

Third, different concepts can easily lead to conflicts

The old man has been diligent and thrifty all his life, watching young people express a lot of express delivery every day, and they have to order takeout at night, all kinds of unaccustomed to it! If you say it, you will be unhappy, and you will be out of sight when you live separately, which saves a lot of worry.

When Aunt Wang first gave birth to her little grandson, she also went to live at her son's house for a while, watching her daughter-in-law buy clothes twice in three days, and some of the tags were not taken off and not wanted.

Tomorrow, I ate a lot of dinner, and I had to order milk tea, and sometimes I drank half of it and threw it there. I don't eat at home on weekends, so I have to go to takeout to eat hot pot barbecue, which is expensive and unhealthy.

Although many elderly people don't live with their children anymore, they are all concerned about each other in their hearts, and it is not bad that distance produces beauty. If it were you, would you rather live alone or with your children?