Have you noticed that no matter how well people mix when they are young, the applause and cheers come like a tide, and those glory and brilliance seem to light up the whole sky. However, when the wheels of time roll forward, when the youthful face is gradually replaced by wrinkles, after the age of sixty, our world seems to have undergone subtle changes. Those former glories and achievements, like faded photos, gradually faded out of people's sight. At this time, your prestige and face often no longer depend only on your personal achievements, but more on whether your children are promising.
Imagine that when a once powerful business elite enters his old age, he may find that people are no longer as respectful to him as they used to be, but start to look more at his children. If his child excels, succeeds academically, and has a successful career, then he will feel immensely proud and fulfilled in social situations. Because the child's success seems to be the most perfect annotation of his life, and the best reward for his hard work.
However, if his child is not outstanding or even takes a detour, then his status in the hearts of the people will also decline. People may start talking about it, questioning his approach to education and even doubting his past achievements. This sense of disparity and loss is undoubtedly a heavy blow to those who were once beautiful.
This change actually reflects a social phenomenon. In traditional Chinese culture, the concept of family has always occupied a very important position. A person's achievements and status are often closely linked to his family background and the situation of his children. Therefore, when a person enters old age, whether his children are productive or not often becomes an important criterion for measuring his success in life.
However, this notion is not entirely true. A person's worth and status should be determined by his own character, abilities and contributions, not solely by the success of his children. We should respect the independence and individual worth of each person, and should not reduce their lives simply to the successes and failures of their families or children.
Of course, we cannot deny the importance of children in a person's later life. An excellent child can not only bring material security and spiritual comfort to parents, but also make them more respected and admired in society. However, this does not mean that we should regard the success of our children as the only criterion for success in our own lives.
In the process, we should also pay attention to older people who do not have children or whose children are not successful. They also need our respect and love. We should understand their situation and feelings, and give them more attention and support. At the same time, we should also reflect on our own social concepts and values, abandon those overly utilitarian and narrow ideas, and face different life choices and achievements with a more inclusive and open mind.
We can't help but be moved when we see those wonderful children earn dignity and honor for their parents. They use their own efforts and achievements to win glory for their parents, so that their parents can still feel the value and meaning of life in their later years. The power of this kind of family affection is extremely powerful, it can stimulate people's potential and motivation, and keep people moving forward.
However, when we see those elderly people who are struggling due to their children's problems, we should also give them more compassion and help. They may have once been glamorous, but now they are facing life's challenges and dilemmas. We should use our actions to convey warmth and care, so that they can feel the warmth and care of the society.
Finally, let's go back to the original question: no matter how well you mix well when you are young, after the age of 60, your prestige and face depend on whether your children are promising. This is a question worth pondering. We should understand that a person's worth and status should not depend solely on the success of his children. We should respect everyone's independence and individual value, and face different life choices and achievements with a more inclusive and open mind. At the same time, we should also pay attention to the elderly who need help, and use our actions to convey warmth and care. Because in this diverse and complex world, each of us is a unique existence and deserves to be respected and cared for. So, when we grow old, will we be able to earn dignity and honor for our parents like those excellent children?