What you have is a fluke, and losing is the norm in life.
Author:Jia Ming (Columnist of Fushu)
A few days ago, Zhao Yingjun, who died 2 months ago, was once again on the hot search.
Maybe you remember who he was.
He has composed a number of popular songs, and his last work was the theme song of the movie "Send You a Little Red Flower".
This hot search is because his friend released a video recorded before his death.
In the video, he said: "The world is very beautiful, and it is really a bit reluctant to leave." ”
In just two minutes, he said five times that he didn't give up, perhaps, he really didn't give up.
The recording time of the video is September 2018.
Two and a half years later, he died, writing in a small essay:
"I haven't married a loved one, I haven't had a child yet, I haven't taken my parents to the beach to surf..."
Putting them together makes people cry.
Because even if there are more than two years, it is still full of regrets, and there are too many wishes that have not been realized.
Yang Dai said: "The good things in the world are not strong, and the clouds are easy to disperse. ”
We always feel that many things can be saved until tomorrow, but sometimes, that seemingly ordinary day may be a turning point in life, the last day of this life.
Life, there is never anything to come and go.
Some people, you've seen the last of them
I watched a video documenting the images before the crash of Japan's Flight 123.
At first, people said goodbye at the airport, hugged and waved to each other, thinking that it was a normal goodbye, that they would soon see each other again, and some did not even look back and went straight into the terminal.
This flight, the Obon Festival in upright Japan, is a day to return to the hometown to worship the ancestors and reunite the family.
There were elderly people on the plane, mothers with children, and middle-aged people working outside.
The atmosphere of homecoming joy filled the entire cabin, but they did not know that this take-off did not land.
12 minutes after the plane took off, its tail suddenly exploded and smoke billowed.
Then, the plane got out of control.
After struggling for 30 minutes, it crashed into the mountains and killed all 520 people.
As I watched this video, I was thinking, what would the people who sent them know this is the last side?
Unfortunately, there is no if, because you never know which day to meet, is to meet the last side of the TA.
As netease cloud music's hot comment: "I have always felt that there are many farewell ceremonies in this world, but later I learned that most of the farewells are quiet." It turned out that the meeting on a certain day was the last side, and after that, there was no reunion. ”
Some people, in a hurry, say goodbye forever.
On Douban, a netizen said that a colleague in his former unit was sick and went to the hospital.
Several well-connected friends went to see him together, and when they left, colleagues wore hospital gowns to send them downstairs, and they were not willing to say goodbye, when friends laughed at him and said not to be so serious, and to eat together when they were well.
But no one thought that later, his condition suddenly deteriorated, and he entered the ICU, and that meeting really became the last meeting in his life.
The netizen said he still remembers the scene of colleagues waving goodbye in the sunset.
In the movie "After Forever", it is said: "Every time you say goodbye, you have to work harder." ”
Why push harder?
Because, this may be the last time we will meet in this life.
Words are the last sentence, and the look is the last glance.
Some people are separated, but they will be indefinite.
Another meaning of goodbye is that in this life, never see again.
It's easy to say goodbye, but it's really hard to see each other again.
The real departure is always out of reach
In the movie Spirited Away, it says:
"Life is a train that keeps moving forward, there are many stops in the middle, and it is difficult for someone to accompany you through the whole journey."
Unfortunately, it is also this car, there is never a fixed stop sign, you do not know when to stop, do not know who will leave.
Knowing that there is a respondent, I still can't let go of one thing.
When she was 11 years old, her father had lung cancer and lost a lot of hair because of chemotherapy.
One day, Dad sat down on the bed and asked her to comb her hair with hair growth agent and told her something.
But she was bent on hanging out with her classmates, and her father said that he agreed perfunctorily and ran out after a while.
By the time she got home, it was night, washing and sleeping as usual.
When she woke up the next day, she found her home empty.
At noon, my sister came over and cried and said, "Daddy is gone." ”
At that time, she didn't understand, wondering where her father could go, and she would come back for dinner in a while.
Later, she learned that in the early hours of that day, her father had caused complications due to lung problems, and when he was sent to the hospital, he could not be saved and passed away.
When she watched others put on her father's birthday clothes and carry them into the coffin, she realized that she would never see her father again and cried out.
Sometimes, we think that tomorrow will be the same as yesterday, day after day, no different, but at the moment of a turn, the person who loves you the most is gone.
There are too many people in life, and before they can say goodbye, they are scattered.
After a fight with his wife, a man gambled on buying a ticket and was ready to go out and calm down.
In the evening, the man suddenly called.
On the other end of the phone, the man said with a crying voice: "Something happened to the ship... I can't go back. Also, I love you. ”
The unknown wife received sad news the next day that the ship her husband was riding on had sunk due to a sudden strong convection.
This was the Shipwreck of the Oriental Star in Chongqing, where her husband was killed.
Sometimes, death is really close to us.
Many of us in life, perhaps, go out one afternoon in an old coat and never come back.
These are so cruel that we are not allowed to say goodbye.
Impermanence is the truth of the world
I have seen a picture like this on the Internet:
According to statistics, the number of abnormal deaths in China exceeds 3.2 million every year, with an average of more than 8,000 people per day, and natural disasters and man-made disasters occur all the time.
If your life is calm, it's probably just survivor bias, after all, there are things that can't be seen, but it does exist there.
In August last year, a hotel in Linfen, Shanxi, collapsed.
At the time of the accident, a pair of elderly people over eighty years old were holding a birthday feast here.
Friends and family gathered together to offer their blessings.
But with the sound of a bang, the happy event became a widowhood.
The old man choked and cried, "My wife was smashed to death..."..."
The old man, who had not been defeated by the disease, fell into an accident.
In July last year, a bus in Guizhou was killed by a bus whose driver deliberately retaliated against him and fell into the river.
The daughter of one of the netizens just turned 18 this year.
The girl's parents prepared lunch, but did not wait for the child to return.
Eventually, when found in the city hospital, the girl had died because the rescue was ineffective.
She just got on the bus as usual, but didn't get off as usual.
In June last year, on the Zhejiang Expressway, a tank truck exploded due to overturning.
The wife of a middle-aged man is missing, and he keeps dialing his wife's mobile phone to facilitate the firefighters to follow the ringtone to rescue.
But when the firefighters dug out the last layer of soil, only the mobile phone was found, and the owner of the mobile phone was not found.
Missed calls on the phone were frozen at 76.
The person he loved the most was now on the other side.
It turns out that the beloved will also be separated by mountains and seas, and the mountains and seas will not be even.
We always think that the days are still very long, but we forget that what we have is a fluke, and losing is the norm in life.
Zhang Chun, who knows the big V, said in "A Moment in a Lifetime": "People who have not experienced the death of their loved ones will not know how fragile life is and will not feel the truth of the world." ”
Not everyone can live this life without disaster.
No one knows, accident or tomorrow, which will come first.
Coming to Japan is the biggest scam in life.
The impermanence of the world is the truth of the world.
The greatest regret in the world is that we have not cherished it when we are together
Host Liang Jizhang said: "The fate of relatives is only once, no matter how long we spend together in this life, we must cherish the time we have spent together." ”
In fact, not only relatives, but also lovers and friends are like this.
Because no one knows what will happen when you arrive tomorrow, which side you will see, which side will be the last side of this life.
Cherish it when you are together, so that you will not have so many regrets when you are apart.
In the variety show "Readers", Yuan Quan said: "A passerby you meet casually on the road is a person that others dream of seeing. ”
In this life, people are long and short.
Growing up to feel that life is boring, they will quarrel with people close to them because of small things, and they can even gamble and ignore each other. It's so short that if you don't know which day, you will be separated forever.
There is really nothing in this world that has come to Japan, and there are too many losses, all of which are out of reach.
So, please love early and be nice to your parents, lovers, and those around you.
At the same time, please cherish every goodbye, even if it is a relative lover, every time before going out, don't forget to give them a hug.
Don't wait, don't miss, don't regret.
After all, in the next life, whether you love or not, you will never see each other again.
About the author: JiaMing, together with 5 million people to upgrade their life cognition, the new book "Good Life" is selling well.