Opening Reminder:
The content of this article is written with authoritative information combined with personal opinions, and the source and screenshot of the literature have been marked at the end of the article or in the article, please be aware.
Preface
"Japanese women and Chinese women are very different, I envy Japanese men after reading it!"
Male compatriots are now "open-eyed" to see the world, all kinds of "zero dowry" to marry beautiful "foreign girls" envy others, and the eyes of domestic men looking at foreign girls are bright!
You don't have to look at Europe and the United States, although foreign girls are white-skinned, beautiful and long-legged are very attractive, but we have to "visit" Japan, which is covered with water.
Japanese girls are actually very good! Although Japanese girls are a little less "exotic" than foreign girls, they can also bring you different feelings.
On the contrary, Chinese wives can really torture Japanese men to madness! Could this be regarded as "curve anti-Japanese"?
The classic representative of the male protagonist and the female protagonist - Japan
The overall culture of Japan is quite the style of the Han and Tang dynasties in the mainland, although they are not very good at learning, but on the whole, they are also heavyweights in the East Asian cultural circle.
From a cultural point of view, Japan is still a typical Eastern Confucian culture country, although it has subsequently absorbed a lot of Qingyi culture and Western culture, but in fact, the root of culture is still Confucianism.
The Confucian cultural system is too large, so I will not repeat it here, but we will only discuss the family relationship between men and women.
This is also the case in many of our traditional schools, where the man in the family is mainly concerned with external affairs, various etiquette and clan relations, and at the same time has to take care of the heavy responsibility of supporting the family.
The responsibilities of a woman in the family are completely opposite to that of a man, she is to help the man take care of the family, and also have a certain business ability, but also to do some housework, and of course, to take care of the children.
In ancient times, the life of ordinary people was that men rested at sunrise and sunset, farming and harvesting grain for the family, and farming was almost accompanied by men's lives.
Women also have to shoulder the responsibility of generating income for their families, and many families with better conditions will weave cloth or do some low-end textile manual work at home.
These fabrics can be sold in the market for money, or their own family can make clothes, farming and weaving together is the ancestors said "male ploughing and female weaving".
In many countries in East Asia, families still live in this way, with men working outside the home to earn money, women running their families at home, and even many European and American families.
Japan Sister and Child VS Chinese Old Woman
Many Japanese women quit their jobs after marriage and devote themselves to the family, taking care of their husbands and children.
The main source of livelihood is to rely on one's husband, and if you want to increase your income, you can also work part-time at home or do odd jobs, but these jobs cannot take up time to take care of the family.
Compared to many psychologically strong women in our society, Japanese women today seem to prefer to lean towards the family, and this way of life is more realistic.
Many of our so-called strong women are truly independent at the root, and the number of such women is very small, and it is very likely that their wealth comes from men.
This can be seen directly through the employment rate of women, whether it is the employment force or the entrepreneurial army, and the main force is still men.
Although many women don't have anything, it is difficult to reach a consensus with their husbands with a high-minded attitude, let alone want to run a family together, as long as the wife does not find trouble, they will burn high incense.
There are too many conceited women in modern society, all of them are high-spirited and ambitious, but in fact, their abilities are thinner than paper.
Such a person is married and grows old together, such a person may not even be able to do a very ordinary job, and the instability of female employees must be well known to the bosses.
The most terrible thing is that you have to empty your savings to marry such a woman, buy a house, buy a car, and pay a huge amount of dowry, which is completely using money to buy a very unstable marriage relationship.
And women have enough bargaining chips to control the family, as long as the men disobey a little, just divide the property and leave, and those who don't listen to their wives may suffer huge property losses, so who can withstand it?
This kind of family relationship that is completely tilted towards women even makes some marriageable guys afraid of marriage, in case they meet someone who is not ladylike, it is equivalent to the loss of many wealth of their family, and they have to get in touch again.
And many women don't do housework at all now, and they have been "little princesses" at home since they were young, and their parents will not ask them to learn these things.
After they got married, they had huge wealth but rarely performed their duties, simply to enjoy the blessings, not to say that they completely let their wives do housework, at least the housework had to be done, right?
No matter how much we say about this, it doesn't work, after all, we are used to it, and a simple look at a report can understand how terrible this kind of woman is.
In a 2015 report published by the Observer.com, one of the outrageous information about Chinese women marrying to Japan was that "it is difficult for a Japanese man who marries a Chinese woman to have a stable marriage", and almost one in three couples will be divorced.
This is already very revealing, although it is true that there are many women who have married in the past are also very virtuous and virtuous, and that is because they copy the lifestyle of Japanese women, and it is enough to be a "housewife" at home.
Life is just a few decades, there is no need to have too high heart and desire, the most important thing is to live a down-to-earth life with a white head, and it is not realistic to live a mediocre and boring life?
Are Japanese women willing to take care of their families because of their low status?
Regarding how Japanese wives take care of their husbands, many film and television works and anime have been very well expressed, and the gap with reality is not very big.
Could it be that they chose to live so "wronged" because of their low status?
The answer is no, and it is really impossible to think that the status of women in Japan is low, and during the economic bubble of the last century, Japan's rapid economic growth brought enough jobs to women.
During this period, Japanese women had an income comparable to that of men, and since then they have been fluttering, feeling that the earth is the second and the third, after all, the economic foundation determines the superstructure.
In an instant, the status of women surpassed that of men, and there was such a miraculous scene in Japan, a traditional patriarchal country, but this was only temporary.
Since then, Japan has entered an economic downturn, and many "icing on the cake" jobs have been eliminated, and only essential jobs have been retained.
People's desires also began to decrease, thinking that as long as they earned enough money to live on their own, Japan as a whole became the "king of East Asia" at that time.
This kind of "productivity" competition without any buffer can see who has the real ability, and the result is that men still have jobs to do, and Japanese women return to the family and teach their children honestly.
Therefore, Japanese women are not willing to do this because of their low status, but the two sides have already competed, and they may be better off when they return to the family!
epilogue
The topic of marriage and love frequently appears on major platforms and becomes the focus of people, but this kind of thing that should be ordinary has now become extremely acute, and even has a negative impact on the marriage rate and fertility rate.
Japan and South Korea are also in a state of low fertility, and I hope we can avoid this, which will affect all aspects of our lives.
References:
"Chinese brides in Japan: 1 in 3 couples divorced" published by the Observer on May 26, 2015
Phoenix Weekly's May 26, 2015 "Chinese brides in Japan: Some people speak Japanese very well, and basically don't interact with Chinese"
"57 Years of the Japanese Olympic Games: From Mass Generation to Heisei Wastewood: The Expansion and Contraction of Japanese Society" published by Beijing Business Daily on August 1, 2021