Chinese rarely bring their children to this world because they think the world is beautiful and want their children to come to the world, and most of them will only have children because the elderly want to hold grandchildren, they are old, and other factors. What is born is not the crystallization of love, it is endowment insurance. Since most of the purpose of giving birth to children in China is to provide for the elderly, don't brag yourself so great.
Now times have changed, but their thoughts are still the thoughts of the older generation, they can't communicate at all, and they will be so angry that you cry, not only can not provide any help to your life, but even make it worse.
My parents have been emphasizing that I gave birth to you as a great kindness to you, you naturally owe me, and you should repay me everything I have paid for you, otherwise you will be unfilial.
They never treated you well when they were young, but when they get older, almost everyone asks you to treat them well, which is the most common situation.
Some parents only recognize money and do not recognize people, and even more, after marriage, they will also be asked for money by their parents, and they will keep kidnapping you morally. Some parents really regard raising children as gambling, thinking that they must make a lot of money if they bet, and they don't feel bad if they don't win. When they lose the bet, they don't reflect on whether they have educated their children well, but they blame the mistakes on the children. "You are disobedient", "Unfilial", "Why did I give birth to such a thing as you", "I knew I didn't give birth to you in the first place", and so on, and continue to pua your own children.
The rich need their offspring to inherit their wealth, and the poor want their children to change their lives. The result is that there are very few parents in happy families who really love their children, who keep saying that they are emotional, and their hearts are full of calculations.
The child is the life born of the joy of the parents. If you have to raise a child to prevent old age, be useful, and save face, then don't mention love! This becomes an exchange of value.
When you were a child, you had no value to them, it was a consumable, they wanted to make you independent, when you were old enough to be valuable and needed to support the elderly, they would talk to you about feelings, try to control you by your side, for fear that you would run away, and fantasize every day to be a small and big one, waiting for the rabbit to pick peaches, for many Chinese parents, children have always been a tool to serve their own interests.
If you are unfortunate enough to be born in such a family, let's try to stay away, run as far as we can, and don't contact if we can. Stay away, give some money, don't kidnap yourself with no lower limit of emotion and morality, you must love yourself well, and you will find yourself getting better and better!