Cai Yuanpei once wrote in "The Cultivation of the Chinese": "The family is the first school of life." The character of a lifetime, the so-called ever-changing and inseparable from its ancestry, is probably embryonic in the family. "A good family style is very important, and it benefits from inheritance. If good character cultivation, living habits and even a skill are passed on to future generations, it will have a profound impact on future generations.
A good family style is better than tens of millions of famous schools.
A good family style requires good learning
The bottom line is the embodiment of our character.
The writer Qian Zhongshu grew up under the influence of a good family style. Qian Zhongshu's father, Qian Jibo, a master of Chinese studies, is a famous professor of Chinese literature at Tsinghua University. He was partial to ancient books, and would always read and copy books, and write his opinions on excerpts. He was also extremely strict with his son, and when Qian Zhongshu was fifteen or sixteen years old, he was beaten for not working hard in his studies.
When Qian Zhongshu was studying, in addition to completing the homework prescribed by the school, he also read ancient classics. This "erudite Confucian" later inherited his father's rigorous style of study, doing scholarship in a down-to-earth manner, cherishing time like gold, and indifferent to fame and fortune. Even during the war, he did not stop working and writing. He devoted his life to the study of literature and promoted Chinese literature and art to the world.
Qian Zhongshu always kept his father's teachings in mind, and passed them on to his daughter Qian Ying with practical actions. Like her father, Qian Yu is indifferent to fame and fortune, and never participates in activities to visit mountains and rivers. When she goes out for meetings or lectures, she either goes back to school immediately after the meeting, or reads in the hotel to prepare for classes, and rarely goes out to play. In the late stage, he was unwell and had difficulty moving while lying on the hospital bed, but he still couldn't let go of the book and was diligent in thinking.
The pursuit of knowledge has allowed the Qian family to live simply and remarkably for generations.
A good family style requires kind words
The accompanying family is like the most familiar stranger, he is the easiest to hurt and the easiest to ignore. When we are accustomed to receiving love from our loved ones, we take it for granted invisibly, so we lose our gratitude and become a little more critical, and we will raise our eyebrows and raise our eyes when something goes wrong.
Our unkindness to our relatives comes from our "confidence". When a person is afraid of losing, he will be restrained, and we will be sure that the love of our relatives is inexhaustible, so we will pick and choose this, and we will be malicious to the people around us. Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June. Verbal injuries from loved ones tend to be more devastating. An unintentional word may become a long-lasting wound in the other party's heart.
Don't forget, there is a home, there is you. Family, we need to be gentle. Praise and thanks, don't take it for granted; Encourage and affirm, don't ridicule and ridicule; Discuss and suggest, don't dominate communication; Respond heartily and don't be perfunctory; Generate disagreements and don't complain about getting the other party to change.
In the name of love, speak well, and pass on that heart as it is.
A good family style requires good deeds
The ancients said: "People are good, although blessings have not come, disasters are far away." "Virtue carries things, and virtue supports the family.
"Only good looks and good doctors can save people." After Fan Zhongyan became an important minister of the imperial court, he relieved students, reduced forced labor, established righteous fields, and benefited the world with good deeds. He also used the money he had saved over the years to establish Yizhuang in his hometown. His descendants have continued and continued his good deeds, and the family has achieved countless talents and prospered.
In the past, family style was the foundation of the inheritance of an entire family; Now, family style is still the foundation of a small family. A good family style has a profound impact on the next generation, and even determines the attitude and confidence of children when they go out to behave in the world.
A good family style is the real real estate of the family.
Source/Xinhua Night Reading
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Editor/Zhao Rui
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Executive Producer/Qiao Hong