Is there pure friendship between people of the opposite sex?
Basically not.
If two people frequently meet on private dates, there is a high probability that it will develop into an "ambiguous" relationship;
A small number of people, when they are about to have a relationship, are disrupted by some things, and instantly wake up from immersion;
There are also a very small number of people, one or two of whom maintain rationality and restraint, and are polite and polite.
Friends of the opposite sex are too close, in fact, it is an alternative ambiguous relationship;
There are generally 3 types of common ambiguous relationships.
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The first category: the ambiguous type that tends to determine the relationship
In the process of getting along, both people are willing to invest more costs in each other.
Include:
Invest emotions, time and affection in the other person, and be willing to build more understanding;
is willing to pay for each other, this kind of giving is balanced, and goes in the direction of love;
will not let the other party take the initiative alone, and the other party will respond in a timely manner;
I hope to establish more opportunities to contact with each other, and test the other party's emotional concepts and expectations and standards for marriage and love.
When two people tend to be ambiguous in the direction of "understanding and deepening the relationship", then this type of relationship is going to be in love.
In other words:
Every couple will go through an ambiguous process before they can decide on a relationship.
Send a good signal, and after getting timely feedback from the other party, you will further increase your investment;
From ambiguity to a confirmed relationship, both people can feel each other's sincerity.
There is no calculation, no routine, more of a natural flow based on feelings.
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The second type: there is an ambiguous relationship in which one party is hanging
This kind of ambiguous relationship is like raising fish.
The other party is ambiguous with you, and from the beginning it was for the purpose of freshness, just to play, and did not think about having a long-term relationship with you.
The characteristics of this ambiguity:
In the other party's fish pond, there is not only you as a fish, but they may be ambiguous with multiple members of the opposite sex at the same time;
When you want to go further, the other person will divert attention and change the subject.
For example, you ask if you want to get along.
The other person said, "We're good friends now, aren't we?" ”
Try to avoid the topic of feelings, but don't resist your ambiguous invitations on weekdays.
When you want to go further in your relationship with him, he starts to retreat;
The more you press step by step, the more cold the other person's attitude becomes.
Being in this ambiguous relationship for a long time, you can easily develop into a "spare tire".
Your emotions are tugging, your feelings are hanging.
The other party's posture is: do not take the initiative to find you, do not refuse your pay, and do not accept your confession.
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The third type: swaying on both sides of the ambiguity
One step forward is to determine the relationship;
To take a step back is to remain apathetic and return to the state of strangers.
Most people's ambiguity stays in between, wavering, intermittent apathy, and persistent indulgence.
And it is precisely this uncertain relationship that fascinates people.
The two people test each other, and neither of them will take the initiative to break this balance and maintain this tacit understanding.
Why do some people choose this wavering ambiguous relationship?
First: I don't want to hang myself from a tree
For each other, the other party is not the "best and only option", and there may be other ambiguous objects around them.
If he is in a relationship with you, he is not sure if he will meet a better choice.
You don't want to hang on a person, you are just a "transition" for him, not necessarily the final choice.
Under what circumstances will the other party choose you without hesitation?
When they find that they don't get what they want, they will choose you as an alternative.
Second: Enjoy this "pulling game"
How do you sing that lyric?
"Ambiguity makes people feel wronged"
Although they are very aggrieved, there are still many people who insist on choosing ambiguity;
At the moment when you are ambiguous, your whole person's thoughts and reason are uncontrollable.
What is the most attractive aspect of ambiguity?
will be obtained, but not yet obtained;
Be expectant and responsive;
Two people come and go, test each other, and maintain this state of imminent separation.
In the ambiguous game, they tacitly understand each other and enjoy the moment.
Topic:
What type of ambiguity are you?
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