Not long ago, a photo on the Internet caused widespread discussion.
From the photo we can see that the family is sleeping, but the location is somewhat interesting.
I saw three little boys sleeping on their backs, while the only little girl was snuggled up to her father, and the quilt on her body was also well covered.
This situation has to make people sigh: the daughter is really her father's little padded jacket, and the treatment is different.
In the process of growing up, I believe that this daughter must be very happy to be accompanied by such a warm-hearted father and spoil herself as a princess.
After all, for a daughter, father's love and mother's love are different in the end.
How much influence does a father really have on his daughter?
1. Affect the child's personality
It is the child's nature to imitate, and the parents are the image of the child who initially imitates.
For children, the father is a symbol of strength and bravery, so girls who are close to their father will naturally be affected by this type of personality.
In addition, in life, fathers are more willing to take their children to try some fresh, courageous and physical activities, which over time is very conducive to cultivating girls' independent personality and adventurous spirit of exploration.
On the other hand, the father's rationality is more authoritative than the mother's sensibility, so when the father praises him, the child becomes very confident, which is incomparable to the mother.
2. Affect children's sense of security
Purely from the point of view of the figure, the father's figure is more burly than the mother's, and the arms are more powerful, so with the father, the child will naturally have a sense of security.
Moreover, girls generally worship their fathers when they are young, thinking that when they have their father by their side, they can not be afraid of heaven and earth, which is actually an innate sense of security that the father brings to his daughter.
In addition, as the "head of the family" and "pillar", the father plays an irreplaceable role in the family's economy and life.
3. Influence the logic of children's thinking
In terms of logical thinking, the male brain is more active and developed than the female brain, so men will be more rational and logical when facing events. In the same way, men are also better at thinking subjects such as math and science.
Therefore, girls who get along with their fathers for a long time will improve their logical thinking skills, and in terms of learning, they will not be afraid of subjects such as mathematics, and they are not easy to deviate from subjects.
4. Influence children's view of mate selection
An adult woman wrote in her diary:
My father is the measure by which I measure men, and he is the loveliest, most agreeable, most respectable, most responsible, and most cultured – he is the greatest man I have ever known. I hope that my future partner will be as great as my father.
This is actually what many girls think.
As the first man his daughter meets, the father sets a male standard for his daughter in the process of growing up, which is important and authoritative, so when looking for a partner, many girls will subconsciously use their father as a standard.
Of course, there will be girls who will say, I hate my father, so I choose a partner who is the exact opposite of my father.
But what they don't realize is that the basis of the "complete opposite" is also on their own father.
5. Affect the way children get along with the opposite sex
Dr. Nelson, author of Positive Discipline, once said that dads play a greater role than moms in how to communicate with men.
After all, before adulthood, the father should be one of the men with whom girls spend the longest time.
Therefore, the relationship between father and daughter is not only the communication of family members, but also the communication between men and women. Spending a long time together will give the girl a preliminary understanding of how to get along with the opposite sex and how to maintain a relationship between the opposite sex.
How do fathers and daughters get along?
What should I be aware of?
Getting along harmoniously with a daughter, of course, is a very happy and happy thing for a father, but as the daughter grows up, there are many problems, if the parents do not pay attention to and understand how to deal with it, it may cause some damage to the daughter's psychology, and seriously endanger the relationship between the father and daughter.
So, how do fathers and daughters get along?
1. Be principled:
It is said that the poor raise children and rich daughters, but everything must have a degree.
Treating daughters, especially fathers, is very easy to fall into the whirlpool of doting. Therefore, fathers must be principled and pay attention to proportions in dealing with their daughters, so that their daughters will not be spoiled.
Otherwise, it must be the girl herself who will suffer the consequences in the end.
2. Keep your distance:
The distance here refers to two aspects.
One is gender awareness. Although it is a family, after all, men and women are different, and fathers must pay attention to keeping an appropriate distance from their children in their dealings with their daughters, and teach their daughters relevant awareness from an early age, keep a distance from the opposite sex, and protect themselves.
The second is personal privacy. It's not just the father, it's the same for all parents, although parents are more worried about the upbringing of girls than boys, but everyone has privacy, especially girls, who are more sensitive and emotional.
Fathers must not snoop on their daughter's secrets under the banner of love, which will not only hurt their daughter, but also destroy the trust between father and daughter, leaving some space for each other, which is the best distance for family members to get along.
3. Be a role model:
Children's understanding of the world and their judgment of the rights and wrongs of events all require the participation and guidance of their parents.
Although in most cases, children spend more time with their mothers, but this does not mean that the father has no influence on the child, on the contrary, as the first object of worship of the child, the image of the father greatly affects the child's cognition of the three views and the development of his life.
There are also the companion templates mentioned above.
The father's personality and behavior always affect the daughter's view of marriage and love, and a correct view of marriage and love directly determines the happiness of the child in the second half of his life, so as a father, he must establish a correct view of marriage and love for his child.
4. Spend more time with each other:
According to relevant data surveys, daughters are more willing to confide in their fathers.
Fathers spend more time with their daughters and chat, which can not only guide their daughters in life, but also enable them to have a healthy psychological state.
Of course, chatting with your daughter is not just about answering questions, but about strengthening your relationship.
Therefore, in addition to ordinary chatting, the father should also often express his emotions.
It is said that a father's love is deep and quiet, but only when the love is spoken, the person who receives the love can feel more.
Even if you can't say "I love you", you can talk about compliments such as "you're awesome" and "daddy is proud of you", so that the stereotype of "my daughter will slowly become estranged from her dad when she grows up" will not happen.
Write at the end:
The mother is a gentle, kind, and delicate character, she will not easily let her children try dangerous things, she educates her children, gentle and delicate.
A good father can make his daughter face the world more positively and optimistically, bravely deal with the difficulties encountered in life, and at the same time, the father will boldly encourage his daughter to contact some new things, so that the child is more knowledgeable and well-informed.
Therefore, it is only under the mutual influence of father and mother that the child's personality tends to be neutral, will tend to perfection, and will become better.